You know what I absolutely hate about social media? The way it has normalized gossip and made it look like entertainment.
Every day we’re force-fed people’s marriages, divorces, family disputes, friendships falling apart, private conversations, and personal scandals as though the entire world is entitled to a front-row seat. And somehow we’ve convinced ourselves that this is normal.
Some of us use social media for work, business, education, or networking. Logging off completely isn’t always an option. But why does that mean we have to be unwilling participants in everyone else’s personal drama?
It’s the negativity surrounding these things that makes people keep them private. The internet is filled with miserable people, and misery always looks for company.
If I came online and said I’d gladly cook for my husband at 1 a.m., people would call me foolish or desperate. But what if that’s simply my love language? What if I genuinely want to make him food because I know he’s exhausted after spending hours working to provide comfort and stability for us, sometimes surviving on barely two hours of sleep?
And when a man says he hates seeing his wife struggle to do chores or do physically demanding works around the house l, other men mock him for “spoiling” his wife too much, as though loving your partner with softness and care is something shameful.
That’s why many people choose to keep the beautiful parts of their relationships quiet. Some things are too genuine to be constantly exposed to bitterness and projection.
Let me tell you how it happened. Nigeria’s ginger export hit zero from N26 billion within 3 years.
The official story blames fungal blight.
But here is what actually happened. When Nigerian farmers lost their indigenous seed supply, grant-aided interventions arrived with replacement seeds.
An associate professor at Lagos Business School flagged publicly that some of those interventions involved GMO organisms that weakened indigenous crops and compromised soil health.
That is not a conspiracy theory because it is a documented academic concern.
Now that Nigeria spoke got destroyed by the GMO seedlings….what is not the result?
Nigeria was forced to import ginger from China to fill domestic demand. Chinese ginger has none of the pungency, oleoresin content, or quality that made Nigerian ginger a global premium product. And the ginger now sitting in Nigerian markets tastes like wood because it essentially is wood.
The two indigenous varieties that built Nigeria’s global ginger reputation, the Tafin Giwa and Yatsun Biri, had decades of soil relationship and quality built into them.
Once the soil was degraded and those seed varieties were displaced, the product that returned was a pale imitation. Nigeria did not just lose a market. It lost a seed. And without a National Ginger Seed Bank, which nobody has built, it may never fully get it back.
Muslim brethren LISTEN!
Stop sitting for too long on the toilet seat scrolling through your phone. It's dangerous, plus the toilet is not a place of relaxation.
Luqmān al-Ḥakīm said:
Sitting for a lengthy amount of time to relieve oneself causes the liver to bleeding and it
Octopuses have three hearts. THREE OO
Two hearts pump blood to the gills, and one pumps blood to the rest of the body. But wait, it gets worse. The heart that pumps blood around the body literally stops beating when the octopus swims 😭
Meaning this animal gets tired of exercise so badly that evolution itself said:
“Yeah… let’s just crawl instead.”
And that is why octopuses prefer crawling over swimming because swimming is physically exhausting for them.
Also, their blood is blue.
Also, they can open jars.
Also, they can recognize human faces.
So somewhere in the ocean is a highly intelligent blue-blooded introvert with three hearts that hates cardio.
Honestly? Very relatable creature 🌝🌝🌝
Final addresses, no matter how brilliantly or beautifully they are couched cannot constitute evidence and they are not intended to be so.
Onwuta v. State of Lagos (2022) 18 NWLR (Pt. 1863) 701
Lawali v. State (2019) 4 NWLR (Pt. 1663) 457
Talakan Najeriya kullun burinsa yaji wacece take gidan miji kuma wacece ta fito. Ga talauci, ga zafin rana, ga Tinubu ga kuma tara dumbin zunuban gulma. Yaran masu kudi suna sheke ayarsu kuna kwashe musu zunubi.
You people speak as if women are the ones that carry ring light, proposal letter and two uncles to a man’s house to beg for commitment. Please be serious.
A woman cannot force a man to involve her wali. She cannot force seriousness out of a man that is enjoying free emotional access with zero responsibility. The person with the real power to formalize a relationship is the man. That is the uncomfortable truth many of you hate admitting.
I visited Amina’s resting place today, right after Asr with Amatullah. And when we got there, I told her, maman ki na cikin wajen nan she stared for a moment and said “mama” and I said Allah ya jikan maman ki she said “Amin”
She looked again and said, “Baba, Bacci take yi?” I answered yes Bacci take yi. I was saying this and tears were on my eyes, she looked at me and said “Baba, kuka kake yi?” I said Na daina, we prayed for her soul and left.
Everything became so fresh.
Allah mun gode maka da jarabawa
You people have turned “talking stage” into a full Islamic marriage contract in your heads.
A man talks to a woman for 2 years with no wali involved, no family meeting, no proposal, no nikah plans, no commitment, and somehow she’s supposed to close every other door and sit there like a reserved parking space? Please be serious, be for real 😒😒
There’s something called ribā an-nasī’ah (deferred ribā) and it seems a lot of women are ignorant of this.
Gold is classified among the ribāwī commodities, meaning its exchange is strictly regulated.
The Prophet ﷺ clearly stipulated that transactions involving gold must be
Jazakillahu khayran, this is a very important reminder, especially with how common gold transactions have become online.
Just to add a layer from contemporary fiqh discussions: when the Prophet (PBUH) required gold transactions to be “hand-to-hand”, the scholars explained that the objective is the occurrence of immediate possession (taqabud) at the time of the contract — not necessarily physical handover in that exact moment.
Because of this, many scholars recognized what is called qabd hukmi (constructive possession), where possession is established through control and ownership, even if physical delivery happens later.
So in modern transactions, the key question becomes: Has taqabud actually taken place at the point of sale?
Accordingly, for a gold transaction to be valid in a non-physical setting, a number of conditions must be present for qabd hukmi to be established:
1. Ta‘yin (Specific Allocation): The gold must be specifically identified and assigned to the buyer — not a general or pooled holding. For example, a defined gold bar (e.g. 100g bar, serial no. GX124965) or clearly segregated units held on behalf of the buyer.
If it remains part of an undifferentiated pool, then possession has not occurred.
2. Naql al-Milkiyyah (Immediate Transfer of Ownership): Ownership must transfer conclusively at the point of contract through a binding legal transfer, even if not physically moved.
This can be evidenced through documentation such as a certificate (can be sent digitally), plus receipt, or any proper digital record that establishes the buyer as the recognized owner of that specific gold.
It must not be a mere promise to transfer ownership later.
3. Tamakkun min al-Tasarruf (Unrestricted Right of Disposal):
The buyer must be able to dispose of the gold immediately, either by selling, gifting, or authorizing a third party to take delivery without dependency on the seller’s further approval. This means let's assume 100g of Gold was bought at 10 Million Naira but delivery would happen in 2 days, if there is someone that is able to pick up on the same day, the buyer is able to sell to that other person immediately without the gold vendor's consent and that person would pick it up immediately.
4. Intiqal al-Daman (Transfer of Risk):
Liability must pass to the buyer immediately.
If the gold is destroyed or lost after the transaction, the loss is borne by the buyer, not the seller.
If the seller still bears the risk, then true possession has not occurred.
If these elements are fulfilled, then many contemporary scholars consider qabd hukmi to be established, and the requirement of taqabud (yadan bi yadin) is met, even if physical delivery is deferred.
However, if any of these are absent, such as the gold being unallocated, ownership being deferred, or the buyer lacking real control, then taqabud is not realized, and the concern of riba an-nasi���ah applies as mentioned.
So the discussion returns to a precise point: not the delay of delivery itself, but the delay of possession.
My own anxiety is even different. I can't remember a single question or a single answer I wrote in that bar finals 😭
I don't know if I should be scared or scared pro max😭