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[Ms. Ha @4MissHa]

New Boba Tea Shop Opened in Richmond, TX! 4808 Waterview Town center Dr. #Richmondtx #sharetea #bobalover #bogodeals #sugarland #houston #katytx #rosenbergtx

[Elon Musk @elonmusk]

Trust those who return the shopping cart

[Jason Helmes @anymanfitness]

Just finished this book - Bad Therapy by @AbigailShrier

This is one of the most eye-opening books I've ever read. It's a must read for any parent, any teacher, and should be required reading for any school administrator as well.

The book dives into trying to figure out why kids are having so many mental health problems, when there are so many resources devoted to improving mental health outcomes.

Anxiety, depression, suicide, etc are all higher than they've ever been with kids, even though their lives are arguably better than ever before. It just doesn't make sense.

A few key takeaways from the book:

A constant attention on how kids are "feeling" or "thinking" is causing negative outcomes.

Constantly ruminating on your emotions and how you feel negatively impacts your mental health. If all you do is focus on your emotions, you are destined to be anxious or depressed.

We incessantly ask kids how they're feeling, if they're happy, how their mental health is, etc, and this is creating kids who think they're fragile instead of resilient.

Trying to solve every problem for kids has caused a generation who can't do anything for themselves.

We (Gen X) were told to "suck it up" or "you'll live" or "rub some dirt on it" all the time. Many of us came to the conclusion this is "bad parenting" because our feelings were neglected, and we vowed not to do this to our own children.

Because of that, kids immediately over-dramatize everything that happens to them, making mountains out of molehills, and thinking the world must revolve around their emotions and feelings.

You develop confidence and strong mental health by doing things, not by thinking or via therapy.

You can't think your way out of anxiety. You don't gain confidence by analysis of your thoughts or mental health issues.

You gain confidence and eliminate anxiety by doing gradually more difficult tasks, excelling at them, and realizing you are a competent, capable person.

The non-stop attention therapy gives to these small, common emotions we all feel blows them out of proportion to their seriousness (not talking about genuine disorders here, just normal anxieties that millions of people go to therapy to try to avoid).

One of the best ways to decrease your happiness is to chase it.

Our society constantly tells kids they should be "happy" and asks them if they are.

Happiness isn't a state you should be in 24/7. That's not realistic. Joy and bliss aren't permanent states - they are fleeting.

Contentment, stillness, and being even-keeled are much better goals to aim for mentally.

The happiest, most well adjusted kids come from families with loving parents that have strict rules for the household.

This one really set off the confirmation bias in me... I feel really blessed we have 2 well adjusted middle school kids who do great in school, are very respectful and well mannered, and we barely even need to parent them.

But for years, we were very strict with them. Bedtimes, family rules, how we do things, etc. The in-laws and lots of friends thought we were totalitarian.

In reality, we just had high standards. And it's really paying off right now. I found it really interesting that strict rules equals happy kids. Makes sense, though, as kids need to know what their boundaries are.

Constantly surveying school-age kids about their mental health causes more issues than it solves.

Mental health resources is big money. Districts need to validate all the resources allocated towards mental health, and they often do that via surveys.

Asking kids non-stop questions like:

- Have you thought about self harm?
- Have you thought about suicide?
- Have you been so anxious you can't get out of bed?

Etc, etc puts into their heads the idea that themselves, or many of their peers are broken and cannot function properly in the real world.

It normalizes situations that would be incredibly rare at any other time in history.

There's a lot of other takeaways, too, but I'll stop there.

It's a fantastic book. Go pick it up and read it. This isn't an affiliate thing or a promotion thing at all. I just really enjoyed it, and it will further shape the way I parent moving forward.

[Lovin Dubai | لوڤن دبي @lovindubai]

In celebration of Chinese New Year's, a drone dragon circled the Burj Al Arab last night 🐉

vids via @datttka @1carlob

#lovindubai

[non aesthetic things @PicturesFoIder]

recruit him to the avengers

[Danny Schaechter 🏝️🏈🐾 @CoachDShack]

Cost of leadership by Kirby Smart

1. Make hard decisions that negatively affect people you care about.

2. Be disliked despite your best attempts to do the best for the most.

3. Be misunderstood and won't always have the chance to defend yourself.

[Elon Musk @elonmusk]

Just drove Cybertruck around Austin!

[Tesla @Tesla]

First Cybertruck built at Giga Texas! 🤠

[Ms. Ha @4MissHa]

@elonmusk Happy birthday, Elon Musk. ❤️

[Andrew D. Huberman, Ph.D. @hubermanlab]

The value of reading, and of writing things down that we read, or hear, cannot be overstated. Two expert guests (who specialize in speech and memory) on the Huberman Lab podcast explained that when we read text or listen to something and then write key aspects/takeaways down by hand- not typing, it engages our motor control centers in ways that deeply embed that information to our memory. Taking notes, however cursory, turns out to be the best way to remember and implement information later.

[Jason Miles @JMilesKHOU]

Just now: HPD announcing arrests in violent “jugging” robbery that was caught on camera. 17 y/o Joseph Harrell + 19 y/o Zy’Nika Woods charged w/agg robbery, serious bodily injury. Woods allegedly drove car. Latest on @KHOU. Previous story w/victim: https://t.co/pm8a4fx00h #khou11

[Ms. Ha @4MissHa]

https://t.co/7DWDGMp5db

[Jay Bhattacharya @DrJBhattacharya]

Now that it is clear to everyone with eyes to see that Fauci organized a cover up to squash the lab leak hypothesis, here's a reminder that he tried to fool the public on the science of lockdown and covid mitigation too.
https://t.co/xgM3zdWuoV

[Elon Musk @elonmusk]

@DrJBhattacharya Exactly. Fauci egregiously betrayed the public trust.

[Tesla Owners Silicon Valley @teslaownersSV]

Tesla roadster is mind blowing. 🤯🚀🔥 @elonmusk

[Andrew D. Huberman, Ph.D. @hubermanlab]

HOW TO RELIABLY STOP HICCUPS:
Hiccups = phrenic nerve-to-diaphragm
spasm. To de-spasm that circuit, inhale maximally (via your nose) 3 times with no exhales in between. Then hold your breath for 15-30 seconds & then slowly exhale (via your mouth). Done.

[Elon Musk @elonmusk]

Many go woke for the moral cloak

[Tulsi Gabbard 🌺 @TulsiGabbard]

.@elonmusk’s release of the Twitter Files affirmed what we already knew: permanent Washington, MSM & big tech are colluding to undermine our free speech, threatening the foundation of our Constitution & Bill of Rights. History shows us how dangerous this is & where it could lead

[Ms. Ha @4MissHa]

@elonmusk @cb_doge @Tesla @mayemusk Prayers and well wishes for you, Elon!

[Ms. Ha @4MissHa]

@elonmusk @JonErlichman You're awesome, Elon! @elonmusk

[Ms. Ha @4MissHa]

New Tesla safety score algorithm is not a good measure of people's driving skills especially with the added late night driving. Not a fan. My score went from a 100 to 93 with premiums increasing more than double. Planning on switching insurance now. @elonmusk #teslacarinsurance