Let's normalize telling people, 'It seems you don't have the capacity to love me in the ways I want and need, so let's not continue this, and leave it at that.
I highly recommend you find yourself a clingy (healthy) lovey dovey partner who’s super excited about you. Life is too short to spend it with someone who act like showing love is a chore.
YOU START LOOKING AT PEOPLE DIFFERENT WHEN YOU THINK ABOUT HOW THEY REALLY BEEN TREATING YOU. especially when you realize how much you overlooked just to keep peace, avoid arguments, or keep somebody in your life.
It’s so attractive when people apologise for responding late. or when they keep you in the loop so you don’t start overthinking. the skill of communication is very attractive. basic consideration these days, it stands out cause so many people just disappear and leave you guessing
Social media, Grindr, Jack’d, Tinder, etc, etc, etc has people fooled thinking they have options. Men will fuck almost anything if they are horny you are just a body part nobody actually cares anything about you. But having someone actually genuinely care about you is a very rare thing. After the hookups, after the hanging out with friends, after the alcohol, after the drugs that empty lonely void is still there. In a room full of people you can still feel alone. When you have someone real you gotta do everything to keep them, the world is cruel the gay world is even crueler. You may never get that again
I really think some people underestimate how much damage inconsistency does to a person.
One minute you’re calling them every night, reassuring them, making them feel chosen, making future plans, acting like they matter to you so deeply… then suddenly everything changes and now they’re expected to act normal because “nothing technically happened.”
But something did happen.
You created emotional safety in someone and then disappeared from it. That kind of confusion really stays with people. Especially the ones who love genuinely and don’t know how to pretend they don’t care.
you can't teach CONSIDERATION. it’s either a person NATURALLY thinks about you and how something will affect your feelings, your comfort, your safety, your peace of mind, and your heart or they DON'T.
The worst breakup game..When they’ve already checked out but too cowardly to say it, so they drag you through the mess instead of standing on their decision