Abdallah

Sailor⚓
Aspiring leader in the maritime industry and wider transportation sector.

[M. O., What A Guy! @Obeyamark]

Life becomes easier when you accept the fact that ‘misogyny’, by modern feminist standards, is mostly a farce and not a real concept.

It's an excuse thrown around as an attempt to avoid or deny biology, reality and basic truths of the human condition.

A person could simply say ‘women shouldn't eat or drink this or that while pregnant’ or that ‘the average man is stronger than the average woman’, and the modern day feminists would describe that person as misogynistic.

Now, the truth is that the world is at peace or at war depending on the will and intent of MEN. Even women who are considered powerful are considered so because they have the backing of powerful MEN.

This is the truth about the human condition. You may consider it unfair. You may say it's bad. But it's just the truth. Our natural state is patriarchal because the weak would ALWAYS live at the mercy of the strong.

This is why we make so many laws to protect women. This is why women are usually the spoils of war, even though men are the ones who usually fight. This is why our innate bias is too have consideration and mercy/pity for women.

You may choose to argue if these things have been engineered by a God or not. That's a whole different matter. It's in that context we would then debate whether you choose to believe the other things & laws commanded or set by that God are worth adhering for you or not. But as I said, that's a completely different matter from the point here.

Summarily, for avoidance of doubt: there are evil men, just as there are evil women. Nature's/God's design is such that in most of the context, the men have an advantage and hence have a moral obligation to lead and protect. This is, in simple terms, PATRIARCHY.

There's nothing inherently bad about patriarchy. We are all enjoyers of its merits. We all must accept the sacrifices we make for it too and not keep considering it as losses. These days (online), everything is misogyny. Hence, nothing is really misogyny anymore.

[TrustLion @Trust_Lion_]

The concept of "gender equality" is dispelled by the fact that women cannot handle the same standards of interaction that men live by. We understand implicitly that we have to restrain our conduct otherwise other men will respond to us with violence. Women don't understand this.

[BEX @_scorpiomel]

One of my favourite traits about myself is that when i do things, i do them extremely well. There’s absolutely nothing I don’t do without proper execution, I maintain a high standard of excellence across all boards.

[Hadiza Isma El-Rufai @hadizel]

A few days ago, the hot topic on social media was polygamy. Allow me to add my two cents (two kobos?) to the discourse.

There are several types of marriages that are being practised around the world. These include monogamy (one man, one wife), polygyny (one man, two or more wives) and polyandry (one woman, two or more husbands). Though polyandry exists, it is rare. All these marriages are valid depending on the environment. And who is to say that one is superior to the other? After all, even same-sex marriages are legitimate in some places.

In Nigeria, we practise monogamy and polygyny. I will subsequently refer to polygyny as polygamy because that’s what we are used to calling it.

My husband was raised in a polygamous family, while I, by contrast, grew up in a monogamous one. When we agreed to get married, I envisaged a monogamous marriage, even though the subject was never discussed.

Now I find myself in a polygamous marriage, not by choice initially, but subsequently by choice. I say ‘not by choice initially’ because the transformation of our marriage from a monogamous one to a polygamous one was my husband’s choice and not mine. I say ‘subsequently by choice’ because deciding to remain in the marriage was my choice and nobody else’s.

We got married under Islamic law and under that law, a woman reserves the right to opt out of a marriage, even without giving a reason. One condition, though, is that she must return the dowry that was paid to her. (Could that have influenced my decision to stay? Because, frankly, by that time, I don chop my dowry clean mouth. LOL).

Anyway, jokes apart, it is often said that ‘when life gives you lemons you make lemonade’ and that’s what I’ve tried to do. I decided to look at the good side of things.
Let me list below some of the advantages of polygamy for a first wife:
· You’ll have more time to focus on your career, your interests and do what you’ve always wanted to do.
· You’ll have more time for your children.
· If you, like me, are of the same age as your husband, and you’ve both started experiencing the signs of old age, you won’t be expected to rub his back. Because… who will rub yours?
· The wahala of In-laws will be divided and shared.

By contrast however, apart from one thing, I cannot think of any advantage of polygamy for a man. But then again, I understand that that one thing is very important.

Really, at the end of the day, it is: ‘To Each His Own’.
Let’s keep striving to be happy. We only have one life to live.

[Wale Adeyemo @ceo_wale]

I’ve been reading 40 books/yr (avg) for 12 years now. I consider myself smart and intelligent, but most of my friends are several times more intelligent than I am.

Michael has never used ChatGPT. According to him, he’s never faced a problem complex enough to use an AI. David, the BGS in my department, built a file compression system as his final year project. Dami is a Senior SE at AstraZeneca, and Phil is a Senior SE in a U.S. telecom company. Kemi has a PhD in Financial Maths, and her husband has a PhD in Architecture.

None of these people is popular or vocal online or offline. Kemi is not on any social media at all. I’m probably the most visible amongst my friends, and for a tech founder, and for what I've accomplished, I’m not visible enough. Do I care? No.

But just maybe excellence and competence thrive on decorum. This is not to say that every loud person is incompetent.

Remember the most brilliant students in your class, they aren't usually the most visible (of course there are outliers).

Most don't fancy the limelight and posturing. Most don't even care about the so-called opportunities that come with visibility.

They just want to focus on their skills, do their stuff and that's it. The no/low visibility is perhaps the trade-off.

It’s difficult to think, be, or do, and talk at the same time.

History has shown that the most visible aren’t always the most powerful, richest, or most skilled. Perhaps that’s why the world is the way it is, which further supports your argument.

Should it be this way? I don't know.

[جوہی✿ @Juuhiiiii]

This is truly wise and much-needed advice.
Sisters, the fiqh of menstruation is far more important than we care to admit, yet it is a topic many of us overlook or feel hesitant to study properly.
When I began learning its rulings, I realised how many mistakes I had unknowingly made simply due to a lack of correct knowledge. It made me understand how deeply this subject is connected to our worship, our salah, fasting and our overall relationship with Allah.

As many sisters are preparing for Ramadan, this is the perfect time to prioritise learning it, so our worship is not only sincere but also correct, in shā Allāh. Seeking knowledge in this area brings clarity and peace of mind.

Note: I studied the fiqh of menstruation from Bulūgh al-Marām under the guidance of a teacher. I strongly recommend learning it with a qualified teacher as well because studying it on your own can easily become confusing and overwhelming without proper explanation.

[Enyinnaya @enyinna_]

There’s a type of man who’s very zealous about concepts, principles, and philosophy; he’s read all the revered books he can lay his hands on, at the expense of truly living; yet he isn’t skilled in any trade.

I see this type very often today. They know how to analyse every problem of the world; they condescend on the vocation of others, as they shy away from doing anything embarrassingly difficult. Yet, they consider themselves as having reached the peak of enlightenment—ultimately invested only in giving themselves crowns.

Cowardly, arrogant, and overambitious.

[Ahmad Salkida @A_Salkida]

A former sex slave recounted a harrowing experience of repeated rape and labour. “He didn’t speak much, but before sex, he would try to be chatty and touchy,” she said with teary eyes. He would force himself upon her once or twice a week, depending on his availability or her monthly cycle... https://t.co/NVcOgFuGqh

[Mubarak Umar @Mubarack_Umar]

There is nothing wrong in producing a movie showing real social, religious, political or cultural issues, it is the pattern all over the world. Hollywood, for instance, will forever portray China, Russia or Iran as bad actors. India will always portray Pakistan as a terrorists’ den nation. There are thousands of movies following this pattern, and more will come till the end of time.

What these countries above do? They don’t come online crying that they are being stereotyped. They invest heavily in media and communication. Even Iran that tagged “Islamic” in its name, produce movies to counter narrative. That is psychological warfare.

The question is, how many of us see movies as communication channel to tell own story to the world? How many of us see northern film producers, directors, actors and actresses as human beings, to begin with?

Are they not the same individuals being insulted daily, despite the fact they have large followers on social media, which can be leveraged to counter narrative educationally?

I know, as you know, many of them have written proposals to various institutions soliciting support to produce movies that will portray the good side of the North, can counter whatever narrative, with the supervision of intellectuals that can better the script and the output. What did they get? Nothing! We/they all prefer to see them/themselves dancing on the podium during campaigns.

When fim village was about to be built in Kano, what happened? You know. The movies you see in the North, are produced solely by the producers themselves. Do research on movies supported by CIA, Mossad, CAN, etc. We see movies as mere entertainment, they see movies as communication channels, so they institutionalized them.

Bash, our house (North) is on fire from all front, and this war is largely psychological. Until you, me, and everyone who is enthusiastic enough come together and change this, expect more. Netflix has found a new market, and they will usher in billions to produce more.

[Mr. Possible @Mrpossidez]

No bro, your take is not rigorous enough and you’re missing my point. There is something fundamentally wrong with turning an impulse into a principle. The impulse to judge people by their looks is pre-rational. It’s a flicker of instinct, a biological alert system reacting to novelty, difference, or perceived threat. It is automatic and unchosen. A principle, on the other hand, is post-rational. It’s a deliberate, conscious rule you endorse as a lens through which to interpret the world. To collapse the former into the latter is very silly. You cannot canonize an impulse because an impulse hasn’t yet passed through the filters of scrutiny, context, or moral responsibility.

When you see someone dressed in an unusual way, your mind sends a signal that something is “off.” That is not judgment. That is a nervous system reacting to unfamiliar data. The mature response is to suspend that reaction long enough for reason to intervene, leaving space to evaluate the person on their actual merits. It’s the same distinction between having thoughts and thinking. Thousands of thoughts pass through the mind each day but they only become judgments when you endorse them.

This is how you confront racism, tribalism, bigotry, or any other form of instinctive bias. You cannot say “judge people by how they look,” because that turns a reflex into a rule. Judgment is a conscious act. It’s an imposition of your prejudice onto someone else. And if we were all judged immediately and absolutely by appearance, none of us would benefit. By the same logic, the state would be justified in arresting you on sight simply because your appearance deviates from someone’s personal standard of “conventional.” That is the absurdity this thinking leads to.

In a multicultural, heterogeneous world, our minds are constantly making micro-assessments about appearance, tone, posture, belief temperament etc. But these subtle assessments are not judgments; they are intuitions. They are invitations to investigate further, not permissions to conclude.

Also, judgments based on appearances are the worst of all judgments. The range is extreme and the margin of error is catastrophic. Appearance is the least reliable proxy for character because it reflects the conditions of a person far more than the constitution of a person. It tells you what they could afford, what they inherited, what their culture normalizes, what their anxieties mask, or what their aesthetics prefer, not who they are, what they value, or how they behave.

[Osaretin Victor Asemota @asemota]

The only thing current Nigerian politicians understand and respect is the fear of violence and the threats from a greater power. There is nothing like self-awareness of remorse. Just greed and fear. This is sad. OBJ was the last great statesman and leader we had as a nation.

We have to be careful that they don't turn around and use what they fear against us, as that which they fear is simply a greater evil. They are not afraid of good at all because they don't believe that good people have power.

They fear evil because they know that evil doesn't have restraints or boundaries. It is raw power that seeks dominance. They would quickly align with it to subdue the weak and powerless.

Internal and external aggressors can quickly become their friends. Never underestimate the Nigerian politicians' will to survive and what they will give up to make sure it happens.

[Elnathan John @elnathan_john]

A Country of Particular Concern: The Fulani, Faith, and the Failure of the Nigerian State https://t.co/MPEh3mxH7B

[Abdallah @AA_Sharika]

@Lifeatsea_ What is the full meaning of VC?

[Abdallah @AA_Sharika]

@babygirl_szn V

[Abdallah @AA_Sharika]

@Maryamarhh_ Always Hun!

[Abdallah @AA_Sharika]

@Meenerl4 And as children, we have no rights whatsoever to judge or to an extent punish. We are obliged to respect and take care of our parents despite scenarios or circumstances.
However, parents must do themselves good by refraining from feeding children off rancor.

[Abdallah @AA_Sharika]

@Meenerl4 It could be anything.

[Abdallah @AA_Sharika]

@OwoichoAluh @asemota They know their craft perfectly. I know of a particular house from where I grew up, these skills were passed onto them for generations. They are highly skillful.