Once a bridge player, now mostly a poker player, Emeritus Professor of Computer Science at University of AK Fairbanks, and father of 3. Hedonist. He/Him.
I’ve been thinking about this David Foster Wallace quote more and more recently
“The technology is just gonna get better and better and better and better. And it's gonna get easier and easier, and more and more convenient, and more and more pleasurable to be alone with images on a screen, given to us by people who do not love us but want our money. Which is all right. In low doses, right? But if that's the basic main staple of your diet, you're gonna die. In a meaningful way, you're going to die."
I keep thinking about this one tweet I saw about parents who treated every inconvenience like a tragedy and how it basically conditioned their kids into believing that life was way harder than it actually is
Two people could come from similar socioeconomic backgrounds, cultures, generations, etc. but showcase completely different levels of emotional fragility because of this
One person gets hit with an unexpected bill, accidentally breaks something, etc. Actually ends up debilitating them for a good portion of the day. Another person gets pummeled by a string of consecutive L's and ultimately laughs about reality being the greatest comedy
Just because as kids they didn't have the agency yet to question their inputs and had to make sense of them at face value. All they could do was see their mom freak out over forgetting to put the food in the fridge overnight and think "all mistake bad and scary" or see their dad calmly navigate through a recession and think "sometimes bad thing happen but never need to worry"
Honestly made a huge impact on me because it not only started making me hyper aware of my own knee jerk reactions, but also allowed me to better understand how other people act. Like no you're not being punished. You don't have to be exhausted all the time. Your family just oneshotted you but the good thing is you have the power to break the generational curse. Please believe in yourself
Everything is a matter of perception and your perception can be fully controlled. Life is truly only as hard as you believe it is. Catch yourself being dramatic, just take a step back and ask yourself why. Realize you were fed beliefs that you didn't ask for. Forgive the past, accept the present, and commit to the process of replacing those beliefs with new ones. Before you know it, you stop reacting in the way you once did and change not only your life but everyone who comes in contact with you from here on out
i love my friends. please Bless them with a breath of fresh air every single day. send them love when the love i give isn't there to be their companion. let them be loved like it's something natural that stays with them every second.
If you're going to stand beside this man, then stand beside him. Defend this. Mount an ethical defense of this behavior. Explain to those of us confused TDS sufferers what we get wrong when we are revolted by this vulgarity, by a man who is to be our standard bearer.
My GOP colleagues, who privately tell me they don't hate LGBTQ+ people, should find the courage to reject the dehumanizing rhetoric. Your silence is deafening.