In order to become a better person, you must first realize how horrible you really are. Not in the dramatic sense, but in the quiet ways you sabotage yourself, repeat unhealthy patterns, hurt people who care about you, or tolerate what wounds you. You cannot grow if you keep pretending you're innocent in the story you've created.
Met on a Sunday and from the Tuesday night we were inseparable, sleeping in each other’s apartments and by the Sunday we thought heck why can’t we just officially move in together lol
We are now approaching 21 years and very much still in love 🥰
your abusive father controlled his temper around coworkers, neighbors, friends, church members, cashiers, & strangers.
then he brought the rage home to people with less power to leave.
that was a choice he kept making.
We often overlook how expensive traveling is nowadays, someone traveling +-400km to show up for you should mean a lot. . If they bring along gifts/money for you then that’s a bonus. The same can be said about those who choose to send you money instead of traveling too.
@oTate_Daniel@Khaze10 I think it does coz price of everything has gone up and is exaggerated. I need someone to break it down for me how one can host a 2 day wambo wedding with a couple spending a total 100k combined for two days.
Ashike aawambo people have money to waste ngaa. Imagine the person is getting married, s/he is expected to build a nice modern building that is fully furnished. And sometimes build or renovate other buildings in the house. One will need at least 2 oxens, food, drinks, a big tent, outfits from the best tailor in the country, dresses for aunts, uncles and parents’ friends etc.
Does one really save up for all these or they are accumulating all unnecessary debt and start their marriage with financial crisis?
I was taken aback to learn that we have Damara on a whole government data system as a language option. Damara is not a language, Damara is an ethnic group. The language spoken is Khoekhoegowab. I think precision matters to preserve cultural identity and representation.
People should give you birthday gifts when they genuinely want to, not because you pressure them with an unrealistic wishlist of things you can’t afford yourself. If you want something, work for it and buy it yourself.
Women don’t hate having kids.
They hate how marriage turns motherhood into martyrdom.
Last one to sleep, first one to wake, body permanently altered, career paused, identity erased - while everyone claps for the “proud father” who posted one story.
My mother still apologises for sitting down for five minutes.
We don’t want medals for sacrifice. We just want partners, not spectators.
I hope when you watch #ThePolygamist, you’ll watch beyond the drama …
Your greatest lesson should be to decenter marriage, husbands and men altogether.
You can have them; but they shouldn’t be your entire identity. ❤️🙏🏽
The funny part is the devil always attacks marriage from a female perspective using friends and family and burning bridges in important relationships but never from a male perspective. Women always carry the burden of forcing things to work out. 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Nobody wants a city on Mars. Nobody wants AI in every app. Nobody wants a robot butler. Nobody wants data centers everywhere. Nobody wants flying cars or humanoid robots. We want clean water, we want bees to survive, and we want a habitable planet.
Somewhere in a war-torn country, there is a boy smarter than me, more disciplined, resilient, and with more potential than I have. My burnout is a luxury he cannot afford; his only goal is to make it through another day. The only difference between us is geographical luck.
People talk about 50/50.
But motherhood was never 50/50.
Pregnancy wasn't 50/50.
Birth wasn't 50/50.
Breastfeeding wasn't 50/50.
The mental load wasn't 50/50.
Postpartum recovery wasn't 50/50.
The sleepless nights weren't 50/50.
The physical changes weren't 50/50.
By the time the bill arrived,
the woman already paid.