Before you get married, take a quiet moment and ask yourself one deeply honest question. If the unthinkable happens, and this person loses their health entirely, unable to walk, talk, or care for themselves, would I still stay? Would I gladly take care of them, day in and day out, until death parts us, even knowing they might outlive me in that condition?
It is a heavy thought, but remove the romance, the wedding planning, and the butterflies, and ask yourself that single question.
Why? Because the answer to that question reveals the true foundation of your relationship.
It is what determines whether your love is built to withstand the hardest storms life can throw at you.
When you choose a life partner, do not just look for charm, success, or shared hobbies.
Marry a truly kind person.
Marry someone who possesses the depth of character to stand by you when the laughter fades and the hardships begin.
Look for the person who will hold your hand in a hospital room just as tightly as they do on a sunny beach.
Life is unpredictable, and forever is a very long time.
Choose a partner who will be your steadfast anchor, and make sure you are ready to be exactly that same anchor for them.
True love is a profound, lifelong choice to stay, no matter what happens.
I'll give married guys some free advice...
Chase your wife around the house. You turn something on in her. You guys become children for just that 4 minutes running around. 😉
Lift her off the ground. It says something to her mind. 😉
But if you want to keep the spark alive in the middle of a busy life, add these to the list:
Take over the dinner chaos. When she is staring down the pot trying to figure out how to feed everyone, stepping in and saying, "I've got this," or just ordering the Friday night pizza or food so she doesn't have to cook, speaks directly to her soul.
Handle the unsexy logistics.
Give her the gift of absolute silence. Sometimes taking the kids out of the house for two hours so she can just exist in a quiet room without anyone needing anything from her.
Flirt with her during the ordinary moments. A wink across the room while you are both cleaning up the kitchen reminds her that underneath the heavy titles of "Mom" and "Dad," you are still just two people crazy about each other.
Notice the invisible labor. Thank her for remembering the scheduling, the grocery, and all the behind the scenes magic that keeps the house running. It bridges the gap and silently says, "I see exactly how hard you work for us."
The movie romance is great, but the trenches of everyday life are where the real connection happens.
Show up for her there.
It is very possible to go completely blind without your eyes ever turning red, itching, or giving you a single day of pain.
Just like Hypertension is known as the silent killer, there’s also the silent thief of sight. Let me explain how it works.
Imagine your eye is like a kitchen sink. There is a tap constantly producing fresh fluid to keep the eye healthy, and a tiny drain to let the old fluid out.
As long as the drain is open, everything is balanced.
But what happens when that drain gets blocked?
The tap still runs, but the fluid has nowhere to go. The pressure inside your eye starts building up fast. Because your eye is a closed space, this heavy pressure has to push against something. And unfortunately, it pushes directly to the back of your eye.
Right at the back of your eye is the Optic Nerve. Think of it as the main wire connecting your eye to your brain.
This heavy pressure starts crushing that wire. It steals your vision from the sides first, so you won't even notice.
You will read WhatsApp messages and walk around, completely unaware that your side vision is gone. You'll just think you are getting clumsy or bumping into doors.
By the time it affects your center vision and you notice it, the damage is almost already severe. And here is the most heartbreaking part...
Unlike cataracts that can be operated on to bring back your sight, any vision stolen by Glaucoma is gone.
No surgery, eye drops, and no Agbo can bring a dead optic nerve back to life.
This is exactly why the theme for World Glaucoma Day, "Uniting for a World Without Glaucoma” is so important.
We need to stop minding our business when it comes to our family's health.
Your parents will complain of blurry vision, and you will just brush it off.
Take them to a proper eye clinic to check their eye pressure. Take yourself too, especially if you are over 40 or someone in your family has had it. It takes less than 1 hour.
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