Someone shared an exercise with me and it was an eye opener.
So here goes;
Get a sheet of paper and write down ten names of people you can call when real life crisis happen to you. If you have up to 5 names comfortably penned down, then you're lucky
CHECK YOUR CIRCLE CAREFULLY
1. Sending your pictures to people to post on their status on your birthday. If you’re important to them, you absolutely don’t need to do that BS.
2. Forgiving a cheating partner. It shows that you don’t think you deserve better. A sign of low self-esteem.
3. Listening to music and watching movies you genuinely don’t like or enjoy because of social media validation.
4. Pandering to a particular set of people by saying things you don’t even believe in just to gain their attention or approval.
5. Dating or marrying someone who doesn’t know how to cook.
6. Famzing or àss-kissing just to get close to someone you don’t even like for your own selfish interests.
7. Posting birthday wishlists.
8. Using money to impress or prove a point to someone who has made it clear, without mincing words, that they don’t like you.
9. Doing giveaways on social media when you have friends, family, and loved ones who are struggling.
10. Begging for love, sex, attention, care, and reciprocity.
11. Doing a BBL instead of going to the gym.
12. Trying to prove to an audience that
doesn’t care about you that you’re rich.
13. Frequently mocking, belittling, or judging people to feel superior by comparison.
14. People-pleasing: constantly sacrificing your happiness and comfort for people who wouldn’t do the same for you simply because you lack the courage to say NO.
15. The need to win every argument. You don’t want to learn; you always want to be right. And more often than not, you’re just loud, ignorant, and wrong.
I no get money to buy food wey you go take do monthly dump.
I no get money wey you go call “just” or bare minimum.
I no get money wey you go take upgrade from XR to 13 or higher.
I no even dey engage wig conversations so the money no dey.
I no get money to support you join asoebi of person wey them no force you.
I no get money for money bouquet because say you do sign out wey everybody dey do especially as you never clear all your carry overs.
If you dey do ajo, e better make you sell your kidney because I no get such money.
To crown it all, I no get the money wey them take dey prove love.
I get money for anything you wanna eat and drink when you come over
I get money for taking US out to places I wanna see as well
I get money for affording soft lifestyle for myself( you can tag)
I no get money for wigs, to change your phone or your family issue, or back to back craving or clubbing for Snapchat aesthetics!!
You can find the right person, and it still won't feel right cause you are two different people, and there's work to be done.
Love is about intentionality, commitment, sacrifice, and going through the refining process together.
The craziest thing about catching a cheating partner is that most times, your instincts know long before your eyes do.
I dated this girl for almost two years, and everything seemed normal until she suddenly became overly protective of her phone. The funny thing was that I wasn't even a jealous person. But overnight, her phone started following her everywhere, bathroom, kitchen, even when she wanted to buy sachet water outside. If her phone was charging in the room and she needed to use the restroom, she'd unplug it and take it with her. That's when the little voice in my head started whispering that something wasn't right.
One evening, we were watching a movie at my place when she fell asleep on my shoulder. Her phone lit up on the table beside us. I wasn't planning to check it, but the preview message popped up right on the screen. It simply read: "I miss sleeping beside you already ❤️"
@hovie_09 I need any of these:
-Saka's far post banger
-Martinelli's late counter
-Ødegaard's Ø zone classic
-Gabriel's corner header
-Rice's top bins free kick
-Gyokeres tap in
Backup to icloud (less than 3 gb),
Delete whatsapp and data
Reinstall whatsapp
Restore backup from icloud
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You should get like 15gb to 20gb back at least
You welcomed
12 life hacks for You:
1. Before you screenshot a WhatsApp conversation as evidence, delete or unsave the contact first so that the number shows and not the name. It carries more weight that way.
2. If you inherit land or property alongside a sibling and your portions share the same space, fence out your own immediately. Do not assume your brother cannot betray you. Blood does not cancel greed.
3. Save every important document on Google Drive or any cloud storage. WAEC results, birth certificate, property documents, everything. The day your house gets flooded or robbed, you will be grateful.
4. Set up a separate phone number strictly for online transactions and registrations. Keep your main number private. It reduces spam, fraud attempts and SIM swap risks significantly.
5. Always have a separate emergency account that you do not touch. Not a savings account, a dedicated emergency fund. Job loss, hospital bills and sudden expenses will always come. Be ready.
6. When buying land in Nigeria, do not just collect documents. Visit the land registry yourself and verify. Many people have bought land that was sold to five different people at the same time.
7. If someone wrongs you and you want to address it, never do it in the heat of anger. Wait. Sleep on it. The response you give after 24 hours is almost always better than the one you give immediately.
8. Whenever you come across content on TikTok or anywhere else where people are discussing scam tricks and fraud methods, do not just scroll past. Stop and learn them. Not to use them but to protect yourself against them.
9. Never tell anyone your exact salary. Not your friends, not your colleagues, not even some family members. The moment people know what you earn, they begin to calculate what you should be doing for them.
10. When you enter a new environment, a church, a market, a gathering, identify the exits first. It is a habit that could save your life one day.
11. Learn basic first aid. Know how to handle a choking emergency, a deep cut or a seizure. One day it will not be for a stranger. It will be for someone you love.
12. Always screenshot or record any important agreement made on WhatsApp or any platform before the other person deletes it. Evidence disappears fast.
Above all, love God.
Men, if your girlfriend or wife cheats on you, one of the worst things you can do is go after the person she cheated with.
Your issue is with your partner, not the outsider. The only person who owed you loyalty, respect and commitment was the person you were in a relationship with.
If anyone owes you an apology, it’s your partner.
Instead of dragging yourself into fights, arguments or public drama with the other person, focus on your dignity and your next move. You only have two real options: stay and work through it or walk away and protect your peace.
You’ve already been disrespected once. Don’t disrespect yourself further by losing control, begging, fighting or competing over someone who betrayed your trust.
Handle it with maturity. Know your worth, make your decision and move accordingly.
Be guided.
It's easier to apologize for cheating & plan to make up & be better...than, tell you what myself & the boys are saying in our group chat.
Abeg, I won't talk to the girl again, I was distracted. Just forgive me.