PhD Candidate @cornell | Hemocompatibility of Cardiovascular devices | Biomaterials Enthusiast| Arsenal lover | Founder @MayMed Innova | Grad PA | Mrs A
Glad to have networked and had meaningful conversations at the #UBA’s cocktail reception during the just concluded #UNGA2024.
This event not only brought together African leaders but also provided a platform for young people to ideate the future of Africa.
I tried explaining this to someone before, but it never quite landed. Maybe this video will make it clearer. Learn to guard your soul carefully. Be intentional about what you allow in.
A lot of people are out here promoting “nonchalant men” like it’s something admirable.
Newsflash…..It’s not.
In Islam, emotional neglect, coldness, and indifference are not qualities to aspire to. They are far from the example of the Prophet ﷺ.
Tucker Carlson just gave men some straight, uncomfortable truth about marriage:
Communication between husband and wife is only about 75% effective because men and women are fundamentally different — and pretending we’re the same is “the biggest lie I ever told.”
He says it’s so easy for a man to dismiss his wife when she gets emotional — to think she’s “crazy,” shut down, and walk away. A lot of men do it. He’s seen it. He’s done it.
But if you keep doing that, you will destroy your marriage.
His advice: As the husband, you have to be the leader in the home. Not a dictator or boss, but the one who stays in the conversation, listens until he truly understands what she’s really saying, and helps make the call when needed.
She wants that from you. If you keep shirking it, she’ll resent you for it.
It’s a hard pill, but it rings true.
Married guys — does this hit home?
It’s one legit fear among people trying to date this days, the fear of conflict in relationships
People these days don’t want to have tough conversations, one conflict and they’re shutting down, calling it a red flag and leaving, meanwhile the beauty of a relationship is in repair.
You will always have disagreements, your childhoods were different, your experiences are different, you’d see the world in different ways, definitely you’d step on each others toes once in a while but knowing how to communicate and forgive will do so much for you in that relationship. Don’t run, learn to stay with that feeling and repair, you won’t regret it
For a relationship to truly work in real life, you have to accept that you and your partner are two different individuals..shaped by different backgrounds, experiences, and ways of seeing the world…coming together to build one future. That alone requires patience, grace, and deep understanding.
You won’t always think alike, feel the same, or see things from the same perspective—and that’s normal. Differences don’t mean something is wrong; if handled well, they become an opportunity for growth.
In reality, you’ll notice a pattern: you meet someone you’re attracted to, but they lack sense. You find someone who has sense, but they can’t communicate. You meet a good communicator, but they struggle with trust. You find someone who trusts you, but they’re nonchalant. Then the one who isn’t nonchalant may not even have a clear future. It starts to feel like something is always missing.
That’s where understanding the 80/20 rule comes in. If your partner is 80% right for you, chasing the missing 20% in someone else will only lead you in circles. Even if it’s 70/30 or 60/40, the principle still stands…there’s no perfect person anywhere. What matters is that the good clearly outweighs the bad.
At the end of the day, it’s not always about who is right or wrong, but how you handle the moments when things don’t align. Do you listen or just react? Do you seek to understand, or are you only trying to be heard? Do you choose communication over ego?
Healthy love isn’t about perfection or agreeing on everything…it’s about respecting each other enough to work through your differences, protect what you have, and keep choosing each other even when it’s not easy. That’s where real love shows up.
The doctors, from countries like Nigeria, Venezuela and Cuba, often work in rural and underserved areas, places where American doctors are in short supply. But those physicians, numbering in the thousands, are finding themselves with no way to remain because U.S. Citizenship and Immigration Services has withheld visa renewals. Lawmakers’ pleas on behalf of hospitals in their districts haven’t moved the agency to speed up
“An angry man can never be a good husband,” because love, by its nature, is delicate. It withers under the weight of fury and fear.
A good husband is not someone who raises his voice or lets anger take control, but someone who stays calm even in difficult moments. His gentleness softens the hardest days.
He does not demand love through dominance. He builds it with care and tenderness. His calm is not weakness, it is a place of safety. His words are not weapons, they are meant to heal.
Where anger lives, love slowly fades. But where kindness exists, in patience, in understanding, love does more than survive. It grows, deepens, and lasts.
You simply can’t love someone and not want to relive their burden. A woman that genuinely loves her man will offer support even when he doesn’t ask, a man with conscience will willingly relive his wife the stress of running a home instinctively.
If we were meant to do life alone with no support, God will not make for us the sanctity of marriage.
Allah describes the human experience with a single, heavy word:
"Kabad" (کبد)
It doesn't mean peace.
It doesn't mean happiness.
It explains exactly why you are tired.
#Preprint Alert!
I’m excited to share our new preprint:
“Geometry-Encoded Microtrenches Stabilize Endothelium on High Shear #Biomaterial Surfaces”.
Link https://t.co/d0uZ7DExcw
In this work, we show that meso-scale surface geometry can organize #Shear and #Vorticity
Quite unfortunate the state of several international students in the US right now.
Over 200,000 internationals expected to graduate in May 2026, and more than half have been placed on adjudication hold. No OPT, J1, EBs. Just wait until you can’t wait anymore 😢
.@realDonaldTrump - a request from the Iranian citizens of CA-17:
The USCIS pause on immigration processing for Iran is about to expel thousands of students who are graduating from college in May.
These are F-1 students, who will not be able to roll to OPT, STEM OPT, or eventually H1-B in time unless this pause is lifted.
These are young people who want to contribute to America; who are in school at places like Berkeley, Santa Clara University, and Stanford.
Without lifting the pause, they will have to return to Iran in 60 days.
We want these young, brilliant people staying and working in America, paying taxes in America and creating jobs here.
While USCIS figures out the broader timing and implications of lifting the pause against affected immigrants, we request that the pause for students graduating in 2026 specifically be lifted.
I'm happy to engage with whoever from your administration is best for this.
Thank you.
Never marry out of pity. Islam does not build homes on forced compassion.
Allah says He placed mawaddah and rahmah between spouses, love and mercy, not guilt and obligation (Quran 30:21).
When Barīrah was freed from slavery, she chose to leave her husband Mugheeth. He followed her through the streets of Madinah, crying from love. The Prophet s.a.w felt compassion for him and gently advised Barīrah, but he did not command her. When she asked, ‘Is this an order or advice?’ and he said ‘advice,’ she chose her heart.
The lesson is heavy: even the Prophet s.a.w did not force a marriage to continue out of pity.
Because marriage is a covenant of hearts, not charity.
Good intentions alone are not enough, sincerity, choice, and love matter.
Never bind two lives together just to save one.
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