I cancel the spirit of 'almost' in your life.
"Almost got into school, almost got that job, almost got married" is no longer your portion!!
Reply 'My Season is now.'
This HMO thing going on is more complex than it looks. So let me do my part. How it actually works, and what needs to be done better.
I had brain surgery in 2022
I did not have health insurance at that time.
I paid ₦12 million naira in cash from my own pocket
somewhere in your 20s or 30s you’ll get the opportunity to rebuild your life after a negative loop. its very important that you see that journey through
Instead of reacting emotionally or impulsively, try a smarter approach.
Ask this one calm, strategic question:
✅ “May I understand how this information relates to the requirements or performance expectations of this role?”
That single question does three important things:
1. It keeps the conversation professional
2. It protects your boundaries
3. It signals confidence and awareness
If HR says it’s about availability or flexibility:
✅ “I’m fully able to meet the role’s expectations regarding time, travel, and deliverables.”
If HR says it’s about long-term commitment:
✅ “I’m committed to delivering value and growing within a role where performance is the key measure.”
See the shift?
From a personal question
- to a role-focused discussion
- without confrontation or disrespect
You’re not being difficult.
You’re being professional.
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A Gen Z walked into a face-to-face interview.
Midway through, HR asked,
“Do you have samples of your work and past projects?”
Gen Z paused.
Then said,
“I can walk you through my work.”
“I can explain my process.”
“But I won’t submit raw samples.”
The room went quiet.
- No arrogance.
- No defiance.
- Just awareness.
HR looked surprised and asked,
“Why not?”
Gen Z replied,
“I’ve seen companies collect ‘samples’, then launch products built on them.”
“Candidates don’t get hired.”
“The work still gets used.”
Again, silence.
That’s when they realized something.
When people say
“Gen Z is difficult,”
what they really mean is:
Gen Z watched the old generation
- give free trials,
- submit unpaid tasks,
- share proprietary ideas,
- and walk away empty-handed
only to be told,
“That’s just part of the process.”
So Gen Z chose differently.
- They protect their work.
- They value intellectual labor.
- They ask who owns the output.
They’re still skilled.
They’re still capable.
They just refuse to work for free.
It’s not entitlement.
It’s pattern recognition.
Gen Zs are booting with a different software
Men don’t leave you for someone better or prettier. They leave you for someone easier to be with. The real work is becoming someone who brings peace, respect, and growth to the relationship.
As a parent or intending parent
Always be big on prevention rather than cure.
It's a general advise that most parents do not take strictly
Sadly most parents do not know this
Here are 4 important prevention areas to focus...
Dear parents, if in the course of your pregnancy journey you run anatomical scan and there are traces of birth abnormalities, please end the pregnancy for the sake of that child. We need to consider how their disabilities can affect their mental well-being and stop being selfish.
Deciding to carry an abnormal pregnancy to term and birthing same is pure wickedness
I saw a quote that said.. "You could literally be fighting for your life, and some people will only notice how you're not showing up for them." Let that sink in.
If my man doesn’t like it, I won’t do it. Not because he controls me, but because I choose to respect him and value his leadership. I’m not beneath him, I’m with him.
For me, any modern day young single man that says he wants to have 4 children or plenty children, is just being delusional.
As a father & a full provider, I'll tell you that you don't mean well for yourself, your wife & unborn children.
Life will teach you a lesson.
End.
This reminds me of what happened in 2022 during 8 months of ASUU strike. Armed Robbers came to our house that night and all our items were stolen. They stole my laptop and my phone while my lil brother’s phone, money and ATM card were stolen as well.
The following day, my big brother called my lil brother to go and get a new phone, in his word “Go to a phone store and get any new phone of your choice”. My lil brother got there and called me, “which phone should I buy” and I told him to get iPhone 11 Pro Max. He called our big brother and told him the price, our Egbon made the payment.
I on the other hand, I told our big brother that I needed to get a new phone and laptop the same week but my Egbon turned me down. After two weeks of back and forth, our bro called me and said, go to a phone shop and ask for phone that’s not more than #70k. I told him what about my laptop and he said laptop can wait. At this point I was destabilized. Nevertheless, I went to get an iPhone 6s 64GB because there’s a budget constraint.
I told our mum about the whole incident immediately I got home and our mama said “is he your dad?, he’s your brother for crying out loud, you’re privileged to even have someone like him, and whatever he does to you, he has his reasons”. I began to look at the situation critically after my conversation with our mum. I asked myself, why would he give me a budget and did not give my brother, does he hate me, am I the problem etc.
I searched internally and I found out the following:
1. My lil brother has more economic value than I do because he works closely with our big brother. My lil brother can’t go a day without a phone because of the day to day running of the business while I can go months without a phone and nothing will affect the business. In all honesty, my lil brother contributes to the growth of the business and is more productive than I do.
2. We were not in a session because of ASUU strike so there’s no need for laptop or gadget. All I was doing was to eat, play games, surf internet etc.
After I carefully analyzed the situation, I realized that our big brother’s action was reasonable and justified. What do I do to correct this anomaly, so I asked myself. I took the blame because I put myself in that situation. If I had been contributing my own quota to the business and all, his actions would have been different. At this point, I told myself to be more useful and productive henceforth. I told my big brother the following day that I will be following him to work anytime we are on holidays and I will start tomorrow. He was like “Alakowe ni wo(student) and we are businessmen, what do you think you can do to help the business”. I responded, I will manage your warehouse and he said no problem.
I used all the period of strike to work closely with both my Big brother and lil brother in order to know how business activities are being carried out. Throughout my 7 months with them, I gained practical experience, valuable skills, customer relations, and I improved their modus operandi by putting in place organizational structures that can make their business to thrive. Someone that gave me a budget of 70k seven months ago later gave me over #1M When I was going back to school and that was the first time a million enter my account. The same person has been single-handedly sponsoring my undergraduate and postgraduate studies including professional qualifications. Imagine if I had vexed for him, call him out, or swear for him just because he did what he thought was the best, I wouldn’t be where I am right now.
Moral of this epistle
No matter how people treat you, regardless of what gestures shown to you, or your encounter with people, please do a self reflection, internalize and analyze your actions first. We are quick to say “that lecturer gives E but when you score an A, you won’t say that lecturer gives me A”. We tend to ascribe our failure, maltreatment, misfortune to external factors while neglecting the
I know that alot of you Gen Z men are very stupid.
But do not be stupid enough to marry a woman that doesn't have shame.
You'll be doing alot of harm to yourself.
But many shameless women will become single mothers, unfortunately.
Don't just make them wives.
End.
Terrorists kill thousands yearly = forgiveness & rehabilitation
Yahaya Bello and Umar Ganduje loot billions = forgiveness & political appointment
Kidnappers flexing on TikTok = forgiveness & applause
Depressed frustrated 20-year-olds criticises government = death penalty 🤦