Andrew Wilkinson | HI

Helping Men Become Attractive & Master Relationships Using Data & Dialogue | Creator of Honest Improvement |

[Andrew Wilkinson | HI @AndrewImproves]

I felt like my life was over before it had even started

18yo
No real friends
Never had a girlfriend
Never even kissed a girl (lol)
Coasted A-levels missing out on 1st choice Uni
Only claim to fame was a ridiculously good K/D ratio on Domination in Black Ops 1.

Then I glitched ....

This is what I call it anyway, because I don't think I should have ended up with the life I have now.

Honestly part of me thinks I'm going to have to pull some Back To The Future level sh*t to ensure no one messes with this timeline.

Amazing Social network
Multiple Girlfriends
Successful business
A clear sense of identity and direction
Just to name a few.

To quote Infinity war

"How many do we win?" , "One"

I feel like I'm living that ONE

And the thought of going back to being that loser at 18, without this knowledge and doing it all again terrifies me.

BUT... SURPRISINGLY

My 27yo self doesn't give a f*ck and will wade in the abyss without fear of plummeting into the darkness.

- I'll walk away from careers I have spent 10 years building (Soz Finance)
- I'll move to new cities where I know not a single person
- I'll even terminate relationships 18yo me would have given his third nipple to be in

ALL because now I know one thing

I know the Route Out of HELL

Not because I've escaped ONCE - BUT because my dumb arse managed to get us back there again for a SECOND TIME

God damn... I was so annoyed with myself.

I managed to get everything I wanted, the love, the life, the social connection, the sense that I was no longer the butt of every joke and I actually belonged.

It was bliss

BUT

I did what is oh so very common... I went all in on my first relationship, allowed my growth to become stunted my friendship connections to wane all because I thought she was obsessed with me (apparently a thing I wanted) and that would never change.

Well this is no Bridget Jones, she dumped my ass... well let's say it's was mutual, it definitely wasn't but let's try and save face.

But now I'm left with a conundrum. I've let my whole life crumble because it was being held up by this one pillar. AND now this pillar has been removed.

You bet my self esteem came crashing back to Earth faster then Superman when he want's a quickie from Lois

BUT Once again I escaped - Less by good fortune and more experience this time too

And after not one but two bouts with the devil I was feeling pretty confident the fear of failure had dissipated

All this to say if you want TO WIN in this world you must become an Agent of Hell

Only those who know the route out of hell will be willing to risk ending up there in pursuit of the highest goal

So what is the route?...

Here are my GPS instructions (Not wayfinder - that movie sucked) for anyone who has never escaped or has found themselves back having a beer with Mephisto begging for a chance to live their Ideal life again.

1. STOP EVERYTHING YOU ARE DOING

Your patterns of behaviour are what have gotten you here in the first place so like a broken machine chewing up its internal cogs the 1st thing you need to do is STOP.

Okay now breathe, we are going to get out of this but dear god man you have made a mess.

Next
2. Do Not take on any additional responsibilities or obligations.

For the fight ahead you need to be fast and nimble.

If you're still
- Taking loans out to finance a car you don't need
- Agreeing to look after pets that aren't yours

This isn't going to work, the only way you fix a dilapidated house is through a lot of TIME & EFFORT (&MONEY but we'll get to that)

And ain't no way you're fixing your sorry mess if all your energy is bound up in unnecessary bullsh*t you keep accumulating

3. Reduce all unnecessary expenditure

I'm not saying you 100% have to have money to do this journey but I will refer to my previous example.

If you are tasked with fixing up a ramshackle house, it's falling apart and you have no experience and no money. What do you think your chances of success are?

Exactly, money doesn't solve all your problems but if used correctly it bloody speed up your solutions.

END of PART 1

Next

PART 2
Invest In Yourself Hard

Like that house let's hit foundations first

INTERNAL WORLD

You need to find one person to engage in dialogue with to reconstruct/construct your world view and how to get out of this mess
I'd recommend a paid professional as unless you've got some top tier friends/family this is too big of a burden for them to deal with as you're about to construct a whole new identity through this dialogue.

I did this. I needed to redefine who I was as the previous me had led me back to the bottom. I spent 18 months with weekly calls devoted to WHO I AM and WHO I WANTED TO BECOME.

This saved me and will forever be a key pivot point to the direction of my life.

NEXT

Get in shape

I am not fitness influencer I'm just a guy in decent shape so I'm gonna bullet point out what I did if you want better instructions check out one of zilllion online PT's in this space

- Stop eating cr*p, cut the sugar and the unhealthy carbs want a quick rule - STOP BEER & BREAD
- Actually sleep 8 hours
- Started performed 100 press ups a day (Pick any increment you can do) (50*2, 20*5, 10*10, 100*1)

Okay that was super basic but you get the gist

Next

Begin consuming better quality content

Listen to Jordan Peterson from circa 2018 this was him at his best, I've listen to 1532 hours and met him in person (Biggest fan girl moment of my life) but reading 12 Rules should be good enough

As a cheeky plug I have a youtube channel checkout the link in my bio

Start reading classic books

All the while reduce the same old Netflix drivel

You've heard 'You are what you eat'

Well there's a reason we use the term consume in relation to content.

So unless you what to be living out the world's sh*ttest version of love island for the rest of your life get working on finding content that speaks to you.

Finally

Now your ship is running smoothly and no longer sinking, its time to charter a course. So start plotting out exactly where you are going and dedicating yourself to putting the actions in to make this happen.

For me that has always been Honest Improvement in one form or another, helping others walk the same path I did has always been my eternal calling

I see it as.. I glitched I got out! and I don't know that I was supposed to. So I have a morale obligation to pull as many people out of that miserable HELLish existence as I can.

I don't want to see another guy suffering as another year ticks by and he's desperate, lonely and not fulfilling his potential. The world is a troubled and dark place and it gets darker because you don't pick your burden.

There is place in history waiting for you to fill it

SO JOIN THE FIGHT

[Andrew Wilkinson | HI @AndrewImproves]

@WillionaireG hey man i appreciate this is on the late side, i don't check twitter much. youtube is my main platform.

i've worked with lot's of guys based in the US.

if you want to find out more just drop me a direct message or follow the calendly link on my website to jump on a call.

[Andrew Wilkinson | HI @AndrewImproves]

I felt like my life was over before it had even started

18yo
No real friends
Never had a girlfriend
Never even kissed a girl (lol)
Coasted A-levels missing out on 1st choice Uni
Only claim to fame was a ridiculously good K/D ratio on Domination in Black Ops 1.

Then I glitched ....

This is what I call it anyway, because I don't think I should have ended up with the life I have now.

Honestly part of me thinks I'm going to have to pull some Back To The Future level sh*t to ensure no one messes with this timeline.

Amazing Social network
Multiple Girlfriends
Successful business
A clear sense of identity and direction
Just to name a few.

To quote Infinity war

"How many do we win?" , "One"

I feel like I'm living that ONE

And the thought of going back to being that loser at 18, without this knowledge and doing it all again terrifies me.

BUT... SURPRISINGLY

My 27yo self doesn't give a f*ck and will wade in the abyss without fear of plummeting into the darkness.

- I'll walk away from careers I have spent 10 years building (Soz Finance)
- I'll move to new cities where I know not a single person
- I'll even terminate relationships 18yo me would have given his third nipple to be in

ALL because now I know one thing

I know the Route Out of HELL

Not because I've escaped ONCE - BUT because my dumb arse managed to get us back there again for a SECOND TIME

God damn... I was so annoyed with myself.

I managed to get everything I wanted, the love, the life, the social connection, the sense that I was no longer the butt of every joke and I actually belonged.

It was bliss

BUT

I did what is oh so very common... I went all in on my first relationship, allowed my growth to become stunted my friendship connections to wane all because I thought she was obsessed with me (apparently a thing I wanted) and that would never change.

Well this is no Bridget Jones, she dumped my ass... well let's say it's was mutual, it definitely wasn't but let's try and save face.

But now I'm left with a conundrum. I've let my whole life crumble because it was being held up by this one pillar. AND now this pillar has been removed.

You bet my self esteem came crashing back to Earth faster then Superman when he want's a quickie from Lois

BUT Once again I escaped - Less by good fortune and more experience this time too

And after not one but two bouts with the devil I was feeling pretty confident the fear of failure had dissipated

All this to say if you want TO WIN in this world you must become an Agent of Hell

Only those who know the route out of hell will be willing to risk ending up there in pursuit of the highest goal

So what is the route?...

Here are my GPS instructions (Not wayfinder - that movie sucked) for anyone who has never escaped or has found themselves back having a beer with Mephisto begging for a chance to live their Ideal life again.

1. STOP EVERYTHING YOU ARE DOING

Your patterns of behaviour are what have gotten you here in the first place so like a broken machine chewing up its internal cogs the 1st thing you need to do is STOP.

Okay now breathe, we are going to get out of this but dear god man you have made a mess.

Next
2. Do Not take on any additional responsibilities or obligations.

For the fight ahead you need to be fast and nimble.

If you're still
- Taking loans out to finance a car you don't need
- Agreeing to look after pets that aren't yours

This isn't going to work, the only way you fix a dilapidated house is through a lot of TIME & EFFORT (&MONEY but we'll get to that)

And ain't no way you're fixing your sorry mess if all your energy is bound up in unnecessary bullsh*t you keep accumulating

3. Reduce all unnecessary expenditure

I'm not saying you 100% have to have money to do this journey but I will refer to my previous example.

If you are tasked with fixing up a ramshackle house, it's falling apart and you have no experience and no money. What do you think your chances of success are?

Exactly, money doesn't solve all your problems but if used correctly it bloody speed up your solutions.

END of PART 1

Next

PART 2
Invest In Yourself Hard

Like that house let's hit foundations first

INTERNAL WORLD

You need to find one person to engage in dialogue with to reconstruct/construct your world view and how to get out of this mess
I'd recommend a paid professional as unless you've got some top tier friends/family this is too big of a burden for them to deal with as you're about to construct a whole new identity through this dialogue.

I did this. I needed to redefine who I was as the previous me had led me back to the bottom. I spent 18 months with weekly calls devoted to WHO I AM and WHO I WANTED TO BECOME.

This saved me and will forever be a key pivot point to the direction of my life.

NEXT

Get in shape

I am not fitness influencer I'm just a guy in decent shape so I'm gonna bullet point out what I did if you want better instructions check out one of zilllion online PT's in this space

- Stop eating cr*p, cut the sugar and the unhealthy carbs want a quick rule - STOP BEER & BREAD
- Actually sleep 8 hours
- Started performed 100 press ups a day (Pick any increment you can do) (50*2, 20*5, 10*10, 100*1)

Okay that was super basic but you get the gist

Next

Begin consuming better quality content

Listen to Jordan Peterson from circa 2018 this was him at his best, I've listen to 1532 hours and met him in person (Biggest fan girl moment of my life) but reading 12 Rules should be good enough

As a cheeky plug I have a youtube channel checkout the link in my bio

Start reading classic books

All the while reduce the same old Netflix drivel

You've heard 'You are what you eat'

Well there's a reason we use the term consume in relation to content.

So unless you what to be living out the world's sh*ttest version of love island for the rest of your life get working on finding content that speaks to you.

Finally

Now your ship is running smoothly and no longer sinking, its time to charter a course. So start plotting out exactly where you are going and dedicating yourself to putting the actions in to make this happen.

For me that has always been Honest Improvement in one form or another, helping others walk the same path I did has always been my eternal calling

I see it as.. I glitched I got out! and I don't know that I was supposed to. So I have a morale obligation to pull as many people out of that miserable HELLish existence as I can.

I don't want to see another guy suffering as another year ticks by and he's desperate, lonely and not fulfilling his potential. The world is a troubled and dark place and it gets darker because you don't pick your burden.

There is place in history waiting for you to fill it

SO JOIN THE FIGHT

[Andrew Wilkinson | HI @AndrewImproves]

No worries @taylor_vahey, I actually met my current GF doing exactly this.

She walked out of a thrift shop.

I spotted her, told her i thought "she looked awesome" (my exact words lol)

We talked for 10mins.

Then went for Peppermint teas.

She was on apps. but found them overwhelming & confusing.

she even sent me this screenshot recently of what it was like being on Bumble. (see below)

We're now 9 months in and still going strong

In 2024 the only way dating makes sense to me is through building the courage to approach

[Andrew Wilkinson | HI @AndrewImproves]

@taylor_vahey 16 first dates IS THE NORM when using apps.

We're forced to make a logical decision over an emotional reaction.

Here's a random group of stats (height, school ect)

Make your choice.

30s interaction on the street will tell you more than

10 hrs of profile staring & texting

[Andrew Wilkinson | HI @AndrewImproves]

Dating Hack:

"the best way to achieve success, is to deserve success"

In the same way

The best way to get an amazing partner, is to BE a great partner.

The shortcuts never worked for me I just did the work.

[Andrew Wilkinson | HI @AndrewImproves]

@GraceRandolph Won't make as much as incredibles 2 as that film was mid/disappointing and the first movie was 🔥

EST 680m

Which I guess still isn't bad

[Andrew Wilkinson | HI @AndrewImproves]

@guideforlovers I'd say it's less attractive to hide your tears out of concern for "what she might think"

Vs

Expressing how you actually feel and owning it

[Andrew Wilkinson | HI @AndrewImproves]

meeting women is a skill.

how could it not be?...

modern living has us isolated.

you can easily go a week without having an in-person conversation.

where'd you expect to meet your future wife?

on an app? come on.

master the art of meeting women or forever live in scarcity.

[Andrew Wilkinson | HI @AndrewImproves]

i recently said "Take any trait to the extreme, & you become the villain"

Because all positive traits have a tradeoff

Most women are attracted to men...

-In good shape but not extreme shape
-Experienced with women but not manwh*res

Successful daters are the jack of all trades

[Andrew Wilkinson | HI @AndrewImproves]

Sexless relationships are men who got friendzoned after getting the girl

[Andrew Wilkinson | HI @AndrewImproves]

@Yes2dayYT Repping the burgers love to see it.

The king of foods 🍔

[Andrew Wilkinson | HI @AndrewImproves]

@rileyschoettler Love this. "I just want things to happen naturally" is the most low agency phrase I know

[Andrew Wilkinson | HI @AndrewImproves]

@MasculinePeak I remember someone discussing that Instagram had hurt women more than porn had hurt men

Status games, addictive reels, the pursuit of validation from likes.

I don't agree but I hadn't considered how insta affected women differently to men before.

[Andrew Wilkinson | HI @AndrewImproves]

@ANerd556308 @PsychToday @ArashEmamzadeh See this tweet

https://t.co/cvGbtb6pNt

[Andrew Wilkinson | HI @AndrewImproves]

@Patriarchaic @PsychToday @ArashEmamzadeh My suspicion is, it's not attributes that make a man attractive to a new partner but variables of men who ended up single.

So men who have kids in previous relationships are less likely to be single due to those relationships lasting

[Andrew Wilkinson | HI @AndrewImproves]

RIP this man

[Andrew Wilkinson | HI @AndrewImproves]

The WORST personality profile for a man

Agreeableness: High
Neuroticism: High
Conscientiousness: Low
Extraversion: Low
Openness: Low

He's highly agreeable (nice guy) with high self doubt & low confidence. Lazy & can't stick to a schedule. Struggles to socialise & isn't creative

[Andrew Wilkinson | HI @AndrewImproves]

@rileyschoettler One of my favourite Hormozi quotes is "volume negates luck"

Most men don't 'get lucky' because they have no volume.

The 2 girls from the office who both already have boyfriends, don't count.

[Andrew Wilkinson | HI @AndrewImproves]

@Patriarchaic @PsychToday @ArashEmamzadeh That's interesting, men certainly have a greater option to be late as we have fewer biological pressures.

But speaking as a "late bloomer" myself. I hit puberty at 18. Very embarrassing.

But it did teach me.. by not being first I can often do it better.

Late is relative.

[Andrew Wilkinson | HI @AndrewImproves]

@Patriarchaic @PsychToday @ArashEmamzadeh My suspicion is, it's not attributes that make a man attractive to a new partner but variables of men who ended up single.

So men who have kids in previous relationships are less likely to be single due to those relationships lasting

[Andrew Wilkinson | HI @AndrewImproves]

Relationships and matches hurt Tinder

Because then you leave the app.

In order for tinder to win

You need to lose.

Tinder isn't in the business of matchmaking it's in the business of loneliness.