I've been told in some contexts that I'm great at flirting, but I'm in a flirty groupchat and I feel totally out of my depth. Perhaps text simply isn't the right medium for me
@shaggysurvives@gptbrooke Seems like people could just go for part of it and be no worse off for the event being longer, but I guess there's a psychological component. Maybe extend the event by having a "main" section and an "extra" section?
I really liked reading this. Sometimes I worry that I'm not providing value to my community, but one of my key roles is meeting a lot of people and folding especially cool ones into my extant network. Tastemaking for community. Nice to recognize my value in that.
i think a lot about how high-profile mutuals, warm intros and social proof shape who gets read as credible in a networked world
part of me wishes we could perceive people more directly, but in a world of infinite noise, these signals often do carry useful information
ofc not the only information, but they are real information. same with references in hiring, or warm intros for jobs/startups. reality is socially mediated, and that is not inherently bad
the failure mode is mistaking the signal for the whole truth, or only noticing what is good after other people have already blessed it, e.g. mimetic desire, VCs chasing a deal after it has become hyped
the rarer skill is learning to recognise quality before the external markers arrive, which is why people with this skill are so valuable