The Art of Being Straight

Just a guy trying to like girls. I write a weekly newsletter about it.

[The Art of Being Straight @ArtofBeingStr8]

I'm just a guy that sometimes finds himself attracted to other guys. I'm at the age now where most of my friends are having kids. That's something I've always wanted for myself too — a wife and kids. But for the most part, that's always felt impossible.

How can I simultaneously honor my feelings and my values? How can I have a traditional family when I’m not even sure I like girls? I certainly didn’t choose to feel this way.

I’d like to believe that I’m not a victim of my own circumstances — that I can influence my trajectory. Chart my own course. Consider joining my newsletter where I share with you my journey and what I’ve learned so far. https://t.co/DnAkDJ3IC2

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@Katy_Faust https://t.co/mlk98Hb5CO

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@tylersemail679 @KILLTOPARTY Same

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Not a fan of affirming care because

'1) It skips the root causes of our distress, choosing validation over exploration.

2) It functions more like advocacy and ideology than client-centered therapy, which can quietly rob us of personal responsibility.

3) It does more harm than good by leaving the deeper work undone, so distress often stays high instead of dropping.'

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@grok, what do you think of https://t.co/JzlyrYLZyC?

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Good news

[CHANGED Movement @changedmvmt]

This ruling reinforces something deeply important: people should be free to seek help that aligns with their beliefs, goals, and lived experiences.

No one should be limited in the conversations they can have when pursuing clarity, healing, or personal growth.

Today’s decision creates more space for honest dialogue and compassionate support. #supremecourt #chilesvsalazaar #changedmovement #righttochoose

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New study proves conversion therapy helps same-sex attracted people.

https://t.co/6YOORiXEXv

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Full article available here: https://t.co/U4Z5yGVdtq

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'For as long as I've been around, the message has always been clear: if you experience same-sex attraction, you're 'born this way' and there's nothing that could or should be done about it.

The idea that one is born gay is presented as a settled science — something you inherit, like eye color. No choice involved, no real change possible. For me, that idea kind of made sense for a while. After all, these feelings showed up early and they felt strong. And trying to change left me feeling frustrated and depressed.

But the older I get the more I realize something feels off about it. Sexuality is far more complex and nuanced than 'born this way' suggests. Research from a few scientific studies challenge the idea of a fixed, purely innate orientation:'

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'Sexual attractions can and do shift over time. Long-term research, including psychologist Lisa Diamond’s longitudinal studies, shows that for many people attractions are fluid³. Patterns that feel dominant in one season of life can change or weaken years later. This fluidity isn’t rare or imaginary — it’s documented across large groups of participants.'

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Thoughts on making friends while struggling with unwanted same-sex attraction.
https://t.co/22FsV77vVH

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@mrpaytonw These kinds of stories and questions do exist. But not many of us are brave enough to ask them publicly.

As I've been able to address my own traumas, my attractions have started to shift. It's not like flipping a switch, but I'm not nearly drawn to men as much as I once was.

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@Danielson_Mitch Thank you for reading it! Yeah, those forms are so frustrating..

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Is sexuality set in stone?

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I made an AI chatbot that can help answer questions about same-sex attraction. Try it out!