You did not 'lose' a seat because of reservation. That seat wasn't yours to begin with. You lost it because someone else worked harder than you. Grow up. Stop crying.
How your partner was loved as a child will show up in: how they react when hurt, how they communicate during conflict, and how they respond when you share your feelings.
Dowry should be abolished. Married women should be encouraged to work. Property must be divided equally between brothers and sisters. Then alimony becomes unnecessary. Men who accept dowry have no right to complain about alimony.