Happy feast of St. Martin of Tours, patron of soldiers and veterans, whose feast providentially aligns wirh Veteran's/Armistice Day and whose handing on of his cape to the beggar lives on etymologically in "chaplain" and "chapel"
Small, temporary churches meant to house the relic of the cape as it traveled were called "capellas", or "little capes". The term gradually evolved to mean just small chueches in general, and from this we get "chapel".
Those priests assigned to care for the relic of the cape, or "cappa", in the Middle Ages became known as cappellani; gradually this term came to apply to priests caring for soldiers, and through the French "chapelains" became "chaplain" in English.
@cath_menarion@melodymlyons Indeed. Any vagueness I sense from someone who sounds to be an adult male, I'm going to push on and challenge. Different situations call for different tools, though
@OVTweetmarck He agrees. He's saying we can't ascribe biological sex to all persons of the Trinity, which is correct. Biological maleness and femaleness reflect the image and likeness of God, the fatherhood of man reflects the fatherhood of God, but God is not constrained by it.
@cath_menarion@melodymlyons Melody is talking about a very serious issue and your response to it was to apply a one-size-fits-all response to a not one-size-fits-all situation.
@cath_menarion@melodymlyons To the point in your OP, if someone said "I was impure" I usually ask, as clinically as possible, "with yourself or with another". Asking anything beyond that is situation-dependent, especially if it's a woman. A priest needs to avoid all even appearance of titillation.
@cath_menarion@melodymlyons If, in my judgement, it would be gravely harmful to ask a penitent about a certain subject - even if that subject was not technically integrally confessed - I do not need to, and indeed should not.
@cath_menarion@melodymlyons The manuals state that one need not ask questions if it is morally impossible to do so without causing scandal or harm to the penitient.