Men do not hate women’s standards. They hate that the wife they dream about requires a man they have no interest in becoming.
You want softness, devotion, emotional safety, a woman who trusts you with her whole life, but you throw a tantrum the second effort, integrity, or self-control are mentioned.
The problem is not ‘modern women’. The problem is you want a wife who would never leave while living like a man no woman should stay with.