Betrayed & Still Married

Betrayed after 23 years of marriage and just taking it a day at a time...sometimes minute by minute

[Betrayed & Still Married @BetrayedStill]

Hoping to become a Phoenix, springing from the ashes of the fire of betrayal. You can walk with me and support me, or you can judge me and walk behind me why you watch me spread my wings and fly.

[Betrayed & Still Married @BetrayedStill]

@marriagetoday He would kiss me every morning before he left for work even if I was asleep. But he also did this while he was having a 4 month affair after 23 years of marriage. So eventually it is just a habit that holds no meaning.

[Betrayed & Still Married @BetrayedStill]

@cmaddenmft @BadassBam6 @Shatter28015761 @NancyNapAuthor I am not disagreeing that it was all his to own. He is the one who betrayed me, our family, and himself. I am just stating that there are people out there who love to destroy marriages, they get off on it. They are not innocent victims that got duped by an unfaithful.

[Betrayed & Still Married @BetrayedStill]

@reddgirl7371 @cmaddenmft @Shatter28015761 @NancyNapAuthor Crazy right!! I do blame my H but I don't think he would have gone looking for it. He still should have done right by me but if she hadn't of been there offering for over a year. She told me after I found out that he loved me, so she knew what she was doing.

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@cmaddenmft @Shatter28015761 @NancyNapAuthor I do think she is a little at fault. If she thought she had a chance then she should have waited til the marriage ended. Yes I blame him but she was offering sexual favors for over a year. She needs to take some blame for it. Loyal for 23 years and nothing before she attacked.

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@cmaddenmft @Shatter28015761 @NancyNapAuthor The woman who went after my husband knew he was married and told people that she could take him away from me. My H was stupid enough at that point in his life to fall for her lies. She lied about being married, to convince him they were both hurting someone. And Life goes on!

[Betrayed & Still Married @BetrayedStill]

@Countrymusicga2 I have noticed that most of the betrayed find a new strength in themselves after time. We are 2 1/2 years past D-day and I realize I have changed. So if I can I have to believe he is too. Sometimes I just forget and get lost in triggers.

[Betrayed & Still Married @BetrayedStill]

How many actually believe that a person can change? That there is a rock bottom to come back from? I just read a tweet that said he didn't care about my feelings when he started the affair..true! But can he change and now really care about my feelings?

[Betrayed & Still Married @BetrayedStill]

From the responses it seems that if you have an Unfaithful that is working on themselves then you believe people can change. If the unfaithful left or is still acting out you do not believe. I am going to keep an eye on what his actions are showing me.

[Betrayed & Still Married @BetrayedStill]

@mkostner4 Are you interested in saving the marriage? The day after Dday I read an article that said you are stronger if you stay for right now. If you leave you will always wonder what went wrong and carry it into you future. That is the only reason I stayed at first.

[Betrayed & Still Married @BetrayedStill]

He feels hurt if I don't respond right away to text messages. He should of thought of that before he threw it all away for a blow job that lead to a 5 month affair. Sometimes I think we are just to broken to repair.

[Betrayed & Still Married @BetrayedStill]

@mkostner4 I am so sorry that you have to go through this. I am now almost 2 years and 5 months since D-day. It is still a hard battle but we are surviving. Is your husband fighting for your marriage and being remorseful?

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@jerror45 Doesn't feel like it. It physically feels like I am breaking into pieces. How can this be my life? How can I be of so little value? Didn't he break me enough by having the affair, why does he still chose to be so angry?

[Betrayed & Still Married @BetrayedStill]

Not all marriages can survive this much damage.

[Betrayed & Still Married @BetrayedStill]

@ScottGabbriel Mine says he can't look at himself in the mirror sometimes. But he also sometimes can't look at me without seeing the hurt he caused. That makes it hard too. Seems like we can't get a break either way.

[Betrayed & Still Married @BetrayedStill]

@RosieBee511 I think this changed who I am. I am so anti social now. I don't trust anybody, friends or family. Everyone lies and are so selfish in my life. Makes it hard to make new friends when you can't trust the ones you had.

[Betrayed & Still Married @BetrayedStill]

@AnnaMarieRouge_ Pretty Heart by Parker McCollum*Her Man by Gary Allen*Never Should Have Done You Wrong by Lil Cuete*Why Does She Stay by Ne-Yo*Pray for Me by Anthony Hamilton*Into Dust by Mack Brock*Restore by Chris August*Let's Be Us Again by Lonestar*Little Do You Know by Alex & Sierra

[Betrayed & Still Married @BetrayedStill]

@watt_jd Wait, are you saying I should leave my husband and start fresh to find a new love?

[Betrayed & Still Married @BetrayedStill]

I hate this everyday battle. Why can't it ever just leave my head so I can have a really good period of time. Seems like we get better then boom here is another horrible day that leads into a week long argument. All the good that has happened just f-ing disappears.

[Betrayed & Still Married @BetrayedStill]

@Angela75157066 @wifebtrayed2019 I read it to my husband. He said it sounds exactly like what I say. Good for you saying it so firmly and thoroughly. I truly hope gets it and treats you the way you deserve. If not then you have your answer. You are strong enough either way it goes.

[Betrayed & Still Married @BetrayedStill]

We celebrated. 2 years 3 months past D-day. 26 years together. He had a 4 month affair. Maybe the math is in my favor. We had a great day and I feel happy...really happy. Hope it lasts.