I hate people that say "if you don't make an effort to talk to me, you're out if my life". FUCK OFF, Jesus Christ, staying in contact with people requires effort on both sides. You don't get to live an effortless life of people conveniently throwing themselves at you. Make effort
you absolutely do not have to be ‘fully healed’ to be worthy of healthy relationships or friendships. there is no such thing as ‘fully healed’, anyway. as long as you are self-aware, inviting in calm and mature connections can be a relationally healing experience in itself.
If this was about babies, there would be universal healthcare. Free education. Free daycare. Southern states would be doing all they can to drop the Black maternal mortality rate. This is about power and control