My therapist told me, "When a woman grows up feeling unseen, she learns to love by overgiving. She pours into everyone else, hoping that one day someone will finally pour back into her. She becomes the caretaker, the fixer, the one who shows up even when no one shows up for her. And the hardest part? Deep down, she's not trying to be strong. She's just waiting for someone to do for her what she's spent her whole life doing for everyone else."
So one time I posted about The Polygamist on my status and my friend’s partner replied and it was looking like he wanted to talk more about it, I immediately texted her to go and watch it so they can discuss it.
That’s my own service to the society.
Avoiding people’s men.
I joined colleagues in Nairobi for the nationwide @LawSocietyofKe purple ribbon march over the recent killing of Advocates. Our role as defenders of the rule of law is historically premised on the principle that Advocates must never be victimized or persecuted for representing their clients. The persistent attacks on advocates not only deprive Advocates of their right to work, it undermines the administration of Justice. These atrocities must be investigated and the perpetrators brought to book.
This is for you! Our beloved clients and all who support & voted for @minahs_beauty_studio I APPRECIATE YOU bila nyie kutuamini na kutusupport tusingefika tulipo leo, Mola awazidishie! #glammedbyqueeenminah
We treat our children like slaves from childhood, and then we wonder why we ended up with a nation full of cowards...
Look at the contrast in those pictures. In rich schools and homes, kids are raised to have voice, to question, to negotiate, to carry themselves with worth... In poor/government schools, the lesson is different: “Shut up and endure.” Teacher humiliates you for the slightest things and call it discipline… You complain and your poor parents either can’t fight back or they beat you at home…
So you learn early: your dignity doesn’t matter, that authority is not to be questioned, just survive... This conditioning kills curiosity, it kills the instinct to stand up for yourself… It turns potential leaders into people who grow up bowing to every small power; from wicked teachers to corrupt bosses to terrible politicians... No wonder we have a country where people endure bad roads, bad governance, insecurity, and exploitation without collective pushback... We were trained for it from primary school… Poverty alone doesn’t create this... It’s the mindset we pass down: small people oppressing even smaller ones to feel big... Until we start raising kids (rich or poor) to know their worth, to ask questions, and to reject nonsense, we’ll keep producing generations that accept mediocrity as normal...