@alterxfantasy mungkin dia lagi stress jadi ga bisa sange? atau emang gay?
ga ada yg tau juga si, cukup surprising semua pancingan sender ga ada yang tembus
@AdjieSanPutro Betul to mas dulu obrolan kita?
Kadang emang ada orng yg logikanya tu “tolol” banget
Ada yg pemikirannya “edan, kok kepikiran gitu sih?”
Itulah alasanku, kadang kita harus berkata goblok ke orng yg emng statementnya guoblok banget.
gue suka banget kalimat ini:
“Orang yang gak terbiasa komunikasi sehat, tiap masukan kerasa kayak sindiran.
Orang yang kurang tanggung jawab, tiap kritik kerasa kayak disudutkan.”
Ego itu harus dikontrol, bukan diturutin.
Karena kalau ego yang selalu pegang kendali, semua hal bakal diputer jadi soal harga diri.
Dikit-dikit ngerasa diserang, dikit-dikit pengen ngebela diri, padahal belum tentu orang lain punya niat seburuk itu.
Ego bikin kita susah denger, susah nerima, dan akhirnya susah berkembang.
Padahal gak semua masukan itu jatuhin kadang itu cara orang lain biar kita bisa jadi versi yang lebih baik.
Kalau ego terus diturutin, yang ada kita bakal stuck di situ-situ aja.
Gak belajar, gak berubah, cuma makin pinter ngehindar dan nyalahin keadaan.
cewek paling vokal soal micro cheating tapi malah justru menormalisasi “platonic friendship” yang isinya attention, intimacy, dan akses emosional dari cowok lain.
btw, gue relate sama si cowok. keliatan banget udah muak sama ceweknya yang megang standar ganda bullshit.
Scar from the Lion King.
He is the only lion there that behaved like a lion. Mufasa was running that Kingdom like a circus. "Hey, look. I know I eat you but I really like you. Come look at my son who will grow up to eat you". Busy involving monkeys in lion affairs and leaving his brother to have no choice but to form frienships with the enemy hyenas.
He had every right to fight for that throne because that is what male lions do. He didn't even kill that dude, it was the wildebeests that finished him off. The same ones he was doing musicals with.
To show that he was right, Simba started a new life of eating bugs when he ran away because he has the same weak genes as his father. When there was a drought, Scar didn't eat bugs. He kept it real and starved, but they made it seem like the drought was his fault. He was leading in difficult times!
When it was now convenient and the rains were coming, your Bug Eating king came back to take on a starving Scar while he had a stomach full of caterpillars and cockroaches because even when living with prey he is not the leader.
Scar's only mistake was letting Simba live. If he killed that little dude then the rains would come and the Kingdom would thrive again under his leadership. But no, he let him live and he came back when it was convenient because he can only lead in good times like his useless father.
Mufasa and Simba were good dudes, Scar was just a real lion. Which is what you would expect in a movie about lions 🤦🏾♂️
the reason why emotional intelligence is extremely rare is simply cuz it is expensive.
actually modeling another person’s internal state in real time is computationally brutal.. it requires suppressing your own frame, running a parallel simulation, & updating continuously.
the “inference costs” of eq in humans are likely much higher than the most expensive ai model in existence today.
my last relationship taught me that the biggest act of love is consideration
to love someone is to think about how your actions affect them
to pause before you speak
to be aware of what your silence does too
to understand that people are shaped by different families, culture, friendships, trauma, experiences
but too much consideration will kill you
because at some point love stops feeling like love and starts feeling like emotional risk management
especially when your partner is anxious
what would she feel if i said this
what would she feel if i didn’t
what would this mean to her
what would she read into now
eventually you get exhausted because every reaction gets tied back to you
and on the other side, constantly trying to explain someone’s actions to yourself is exhausting too
being patient forever
empathizing forever
making excuses for why they keep showing up in ways that hurt you
there is a sweet spot
too little consideration feels careless
too much feels like captivity
and once it tips too far either way, the whole relationship starts collapsing
kalian sadar ga sih!??
Indonesia ini negara "religius" tapi cuma tau ibadah ke Tuhan doang. dosa ke sesama manusia? ga kepikiran.
ada yang sholatnya ga pernah telat, tapi urusan ngomongin orang dia yang paling rajin.
ada yang keliatan alim, tapi urusan cari duit paling dzolim.
ada yang ceramah soal dosa tiap hari, tapi bikin orang nangis juga tiap hari.
ibadahnya buat Tuhan, tapi kelakuannya bikin sesama manusia kapok.
@HeyyyJali@tanyakanrl sender, jujur aja gw juga pernah ngalamin. mereka cuma bakal delay respon dan kasih jawaban templatr.
duit lu ga akan balik sama sekali. gw akhirnya mutusin buat ga pernah pake gojek atau apapun yg berhubungan sama goto