Rememeber this is real life, none of this politics/ethnicity shit even exists if youre a conscious purpose-driven male living with intent and full focus. You must play life and blast upwards through the ranks merely as a sport for personal amusement and recreation.
When your 6f, tanned, cashflowing and built like hercules even on your worst days, the truth is any external opinion or narritive simply doesnt apply and never will. Doesnt matter what class, race or heritage you formerly self-identified with. These identity thought experiments are for the unemployed and more so, the eternally unfavoured. Zero exceptions.
Your genetic potential obviosly has boundaries. But those boundaries can be pushed, shoved, stretched, fissured and compensated/ accounted-for accordingly if you’re a true soldier of life.
If youre breathing right now, youre dealt into the game and you have options. An unlimited amount of options to be specfic. Brand new options bubbling to the surface every pasisng second.
Wether you choose to use and acknowledge them is of your own volition. Wether you try to find new options: play dirty, get new cards, reshuffle decks, is also a function of your own volition.
Very few situations can’t be fixed. But all circumstances can be made better if you try relentlessy and articulate through your ever-refreshing options aggressively.
First full summer with money / freedom probably the best summer you’ll ever have.
cherish that, was a feeling like no other even to this day.
by september my passport was inked out like wiz khalifa, and i’d made more memories than all the prior summers combined.
something that nobody talks about,
is that when you come from nothing and embark on a journey to acquire it all,
you’ll begin to reach the level of success that you’ve always dreamt of.
but, there will be days when you begin to miss the struggle and the beginning of the journey.
the truth is that the end goal seemed glamorous merely because you never knew what it felt like.
everything novel seems desirable at a glance.
once you acquire it, you get bored of it quickly.
almost as if, you never truly wanted the success,
you wanted to know what it felt like to have it.
the danger of this phase is that, you can begin to deleteriously self sabotage.
not only do you plot ways to subconsciously send yourself back to zero,
but, you begin to take the wins for granted.
the only way i’ve found to circumvent this, is to have something greater than yourself.
a wife, kids, family, a team, investors, social pressure.
something.
it merely has to be so important to you that you are unwilling to jeopardise their lives for your selfish need to ‘rebuild’.
this is also why the advice of:
“do not care what other people think, do it for yourself”
is complete and utter dog sh*t.
you need to have something beyond yourself that drives you to not self destruct.
it’s similar to getting and staying fit.
at first, you become fit for the fitness itself.
once achieved, you begin self sabotaging.
the only way to stick to your fitness is by laterally optimising for fitness.
you are no longer fit for the sake of it, you’re now fit because you want to impress your girl or it keeps you mentally sane.
the path to consistency isn’t simple.
regurgitating “be consistent” is cute in theory.
although, consistency isn’t hard physically, it’s hard mentally.
the truth is that it can be attained so long as it’s externalised and for a cause beyond self.
“kids born into chaos will always seek chaos,
you can mask it but it’ll always find you.
some give it cute names such as adhd.”
@annvhilator very applicable , many such examples.
“can take the man out of the X but cant take the X out of the man”
environment has always been surface level
All new action comes from a change in mindset. this prompts action, common mistake is ppl thinking new actions will change mindset, no-
3 things that actually change mindset:
- being around winners
- experiencing success
- experiencing losing
3 things that dont & will waste your time:
- new routines
- changing your location
- new business model
these things help only when supplemented with a new mindset shift. then shit gets parabolic.
I wouldnt quit until youve had atleast 1 win in online biz, even if its just 1 $10 profit day.
you want clear focus and vision on the direction youre taking before quitting.
otherwise all your new free time will be absorbed by finding this & little meaningful action will be taken. I see this all the time w people in similar sitch
This will only help if you rewire biz dopamine as absolute number 1 priority first, before you leave.
otherwise you will simply find new parties/women etc after about 2weeks in your new boring city. And if you dont find them, well you’ll feel sad, lonely & be unproductive and just move back, repeating the same cycle over and over again.
Goes without saying doing the right things is important, but doing the right things in the right order is literally everything
Too many things cant be undone and unlearnt.
And at this point everyone knows what to do, its not an edge.
Pretty sure men being pre-exposed to women or lifestyle (partying) before any kind of success is the single most detrimental reason why most never make it.
Its the only reason why i’d ever suggest working on biz when your young ~ 15 onwards, when outside temptations are pretty much nonexistent.
experiencing dopamine from online biz wins before real life/social is a lonely inversion, but important catylst to success.
otherway round and your fighting pandoras box trying to catch up & get into that same mental state again.