CatJam

[CatJam @CatJamarchist]

@Gattungswesen25 @smalldick66667 There is a theory that posits primitive religions helped with social cohesion and organization - and just like our jaws evolved to accommodate cooked foods. Our brains evolved to accommodate 'religious' influences. Some brain regions fire specifically in response to religion.

[CatJam @CatJamarchist]

@Archer_TN @tweets4twits I think it's *really* gross when these sorts of selfish people try to excuse their actions with "well I have ADHD" - because that unfairly maligns everyone who has ADHD and puts in extraordinary effort every day to be punctual and reliable.

[CatJam @CatJamarchist]

@Archer_TN @tweets4twits And the whole debate is around people who are chronically late *and are unwilling* to work with their friends to improve the situation. They just *expect* to be waited upon, as though it is their right, and the other people's time is irrelevant.

[CatJam @CatJamarchist]

@Archer_TN @tweets4twits You have been! The premise of your argument is that it is unreasonable to expect someone to be responsible for their own time and commitments.

[CatJam @CatJamarchist]

@Archer_TN @tweets4twits It's wildly disingenuous to continue to suggest any of what I have said is 'punishment.'
You continue to prioritize some people over others for no particular reason, and insist on ignoring the impact on those other people because the implications are uncomfortable.

[CatJam @CatJamarchist]

@Archer_TN @tweets4twits It's remakable how consistently you argue in bad faith. An *example* is not 'pretending everyone behaves the same'

I'm asking you to have empathy for other people, and not only just the chronically late person. And you're suggesting that's unreasonable. It's weird!

[CatJam @CatJamarchist]

@Archer_TN @tweets4twits You're acting like experiencing disability is a free license to selfishly disregard all other people - including others who also experience disability! It's baffling! The impact is not ignorable; intent does not always supersede effect.

[CatJam @CatJamarchist]

@Archer_TN @tweets4twits Again you misrepresent. I never said, and do not think it is 'easy' to control. It's hard for me personally! Experiencing difficulty does not give me permission to disregard and disrespect other people's time. Be an adult, take responsibility for yourself.

[CatJam @CatJamarchist]

@Archer_TN @tweets4twits Oh sure, respect goes both ways, but the stress of the person who is over an hour late to an agreed-upon meeting is more important to consider than the stress caused to the autistic person who forced to wait and is sent spiralling due to how their day's plans were blown up. FFS.

[CatJam @CatJamarchist]

@Archer_TN @tweets4twits Being late is not a trait. It's a result. Traits, like ADHD can explain the tardiness. But the lateness itself is not a trait. What matters more? Intent or impact? If you intend to be on time, and are egregiously late. The impact is a disrespect of my time.

[CatJam @CatJamarchist]

@Archer_TN @tweets4twits This is *the* scenario of debate!?! You're arguing a point no one made! And WTF are you talking about 'punishment'?!? Me not trusting a person because they don't hold their own word is not punishment! That's an insane take! I'm baffled by your apparent position, it's incoherent.

[CatJam @CatJamarchist]

@Archer_TN @tweets4twits Again you're shifting the goalposts away from the actual topic of conversation: constant, egregious lateness. We're talking at *minimum* 30-45min late. Persistently. And for things that were mutually agreed upon, not demanded of them.

[CatJam @CatJamarchist]

@Archer_TN @tweets4twits It is not always my responsibility to provide or find assistance! This is the issue! You're inherently demanding that others provide service and support without recognizing the impact you have on them, nor communicating effectively! Which is exactly how children behave!

[CatJam @CatJamarchist]

@Archer_TN @tweets4twits Why are you so apparently resistant to the idea of someone not fully committing to something if they're not confident they can follow through? Communicate! I can't read your mind!

[CatJam @CatJamarchist]

@Archer_TN @tweets4twits I don't understand your point. It's a completely reasonable preference. Any mature adult must try to be responsible for themselves. You seem to be implying I should just treat anyone with a disability like an incapable child, it's wildly patronizing.

[CatJam @CatJamarchist]

@Archer_TN @tweets4twits Because that's the natural result of two people mutually agreeing on something and then one person not following through! The responsibility for that thing falls on the other party! All I'm asking is that they follow through on what they themselves committed to! And communicate!

[CatJam @CatJamarchist]

@Archer_TN @tweets4twits Again, you're just mischaracterizing my position and attacking a strawman. I don't want people to do what I like - I want people to follow through on what they tell me. To not lie. I want to trust people when they commit to things.

[CatJam @CatJamarchist]

@Archer_TN @tweets4twits I just utterly reject the implication that other people's disabilities and struggles are somehow my responsibility to manage and rectify. I have enough troubles of my own. I expect other adults to behave like adults, just as I am expected to behave like one.

[CatJam @CatJamarchist]

@Archer_TN @tweets4twits No, you're assuming and projecting that onto me. In real-life situations, I am very accommodating and understanding of lateness, for most reasons given. But perpetual, egregious lateness will absolutely colour my view of a person, and if I think I can rely on them.