No matter how good a woman is, her character, her beauty, her heart—a man can still be tempted to look outside.
It is not a good thing.
And I say this with humility: I repented of it long ago.
Sometimes, all a man really needs to do is calm down and hold his woman tight.
She is your best.
The rest, hmmnnn? Na breeze o.
There was a season when something came over me.
I started noticing other women.
Enjoying their company.
Feeling drawn to the noise.
Meanwhile, my wife,
A nurse.
Quiet.
Focused.
Studying.
Building capacity.
Growing in silence.
Instead of fighting, accusing, or breaking down, she did something extraordinary.
She calmly befriended those same women.
One by one, they became her friends… even her best friends.
I still don’t know how she did it.
One day, I jokingly told her,
“You have taken all my babes”
And we laughed.
But looking back now, I see wisdom.
I see strength.
I see maturity.
I see grace.
My wife has grown, emotionally, intellectually, spiritually.
And I am deeply grateful I did not lose her to my own restlessness.
Men, let us calm down.
What we are looking for “outside” is often growing quietly at home.
Protect it.
Nurture it.
Choose it, again and again. 🙏🏿
I had lots of mixed feelings reading this. I remember when I arrived Canada, I asked hubby, all these years you've been alone, how's sex life? He said he has a lady that pops in and out when he needs sex. I started scanning all his friends and one woman, a bit older than him, she is rich, pure breed caucasian. I noticed that whenever he says he's coming, she will make nice dishes of food, veggies, and upon arrival, they always kissed right before me, I'll just sigh... because he once lived in France and Montreal, so he speaks French fluently, and he said that's the culture, guest kissed, Lagos babe wey no Sabi. Meanwhile, whenever she calls him to come visit, I'll calmly say, aww, I'll love to go with you, she cooks nice food, I miss her meal. So, he doesnt visit her alone anymore.
So, she asked him on one of our visit, Is it that mattress in your room that you and your wife still sleeps on? Gbam! My Lagos mind arose" chaiii" she's the one. 😆 🤣 😂
He just smiled. I focused on the chicken, well cooked. Then she said, well, I have a new king size mattress, I can give you. Immediately, I said, Thanks peret. We will come pick it up.
Then rather than call him, she's always calling me, to come pick this and that up, then she became a very very close friend of the family. My kids starts calling her grandma peret. Oneday, I told him, for her to know how the mattress feels, hmmm, I'm sure the deal has ended now sha?? 😆 🤣
Truth is, a woman who wants to stay in her marriage will endure so much but it is not a good place for any woman to be.
Not for someone like me because I will consider it disrespectful if he had continued embracing her emotionally.
No woman should be made to go through that stress in her marriage, not when she's doing her best to make her marriage work.
Men should respect their wives enough to set healthy boundaries around opposite sex. Having a woman that will give you all" is priceless.
Not all will stay, those who talks about it or complain aren't morally unwise or weak. Some women are fine with polygamy but not all women.
Know who you marry and please be an intentional man in your marriage.
She deserves to tell a story of you never cheating on her too.
Peace.
“Instead of fighting, accusing, or breaking down, she did something extraordinary.
She calmly befriended those same women.
One by one, they became her friends… even her best friends”
🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡
@ThatPHCBoy I can relate, the best help she would have given them is to rent a house for them and provide any necessary assistance they need. Wetin eye don see for family matter, na to turn witch sef.
I don’t understand all the things I’m reading on not taking in your nieces or nephews because of a man…lol someone actually said she should have rented an apartment for the kids so that it won’t affect the marriage lol. You people are crazy on here!
What you are yet to acknowledge about that Solomon Buchi video is his deep resentment for highly successful women. He subtly communicates hatred for accomplished women, but to sound politically correct, he finds a way to loop Christians in to defend his atrocious insecurities.
They are going to schools to kidnap girls so they can rape virgins. Raped through the night. We need to sit with uncomfortable truths. We should not be allowed to block out the horrific stories.
From wearing school uniforms to being married off, pregnant, dying in childbirth.
🇳🇬NIGERIA (May, 2025)
"They killed three of my children: the 14 year old was slaughtered right in front of the house; the 10 year old was burned inside the house; the 2 year old was also burned in the house.
They also killed my husband... They kept asking ‘where is your God’ "
- Asabe Moses
I would have given the benefit of a doubt to @YusufTuggar, on the assumption that our Foreign Affairs Minister didn’t see this 👇🏾clip or such thousands of testimonies; but doing so will also mean believing he didn’t know that, in one night alone, 258 Christians were massacred in Yelewata this year by Fulani Islamist Jihad 💔
Unless the mission of establishing an Islamic Caliphate, which sovereign state engages in an international propaganda to deny a genocide meted against its citizens, all a because they call on the name of Christ?
@gghamari@piersmorgan@realFFK@ProtecttheFaith@CassandraMTB@SonjaDahlmans@SKefason @PeterObiUSA @General_Oluchi@GeneralSnow_