what the fvck are you even afraid of?
death?
it’s part of life.
bankruptcy?
money can be made again.
failure?
congrats, most people are too scared to even fvcking try.
losing people?
not everyone is meant to stay, some departures are big blessings.
embarrassment?
100 years from now, everyone in this conversation will be gone.
judgment?
if they haven’t been where you’re trying to go, their opinion doesn’t matter.
rejection?
every no gets you closer to a yes.
taking risks?
better to pay the risk tax than the regret tax.
look, the graveyard is full of people who were waiting for the perfect time so jump, move, run, just keep going.
tick tock.
The endgame of competence is simple: you become so reliable, skilled, and difficult to replace that people think twice before mistreating you. At that point people smile differently, negotiate carefully, and mistake your calm for kindness. High value rarely needs threats. The loss already scares them.
Do not take so seriously people’s promises or their ardor in wanting to help you.
If they come through, so much the better, but be prepared for the more frequent change of heart.
Rely upon yourself to get things done and you will not be disappointed.
8 psych truths you should know;
1. slow reaction confuses manipulators
2. silence makes people fear you
3. anger reveals true colour
4. jealous people smile the most
5. never repeat weakness
6. always protect your secret
7. distance controls attention
8. never trust twice
Don't be idiotic
If you want to move up the ladder, or ascend in any workplace, you must apply 2 strategies:
1st, become perfect at what you do.
2nd, leverage your perfection to join or build your own coalition.
All individuals within any tribe (from apes to elites) need coalition for power.
If you keep trying to prove your loyalty to people who profit from your guilt, you are not being noble, you are funding your own control, because the easiest man to exploit is the one who mistakes constant self-sacrifice for recognition.
The weak treat every conversation as a confession booth, then wonder why strangers know where to press when they want obedience; the manipulator speak in controlled doses, keeping their motives covered, and let mystery do the work honesty would have ruined for them when tested.
Aura grows when you stop trying to be universally agreeable and start becoming deeply aligned; the man who knows what he wants, enforces his standards, and refuses to dilute himself for acceptance becomes someone others adjust to rather than someone who adjusts for them