@sappholives83@di_nitterwitter I’m guessing that will have been his last got a very long time!
We don’t know what behaviour he has presented in the past. Maybe nothing that made them suspect something so awful could happen.
@sappholives83@di_nitterwitter We used to lock them all away in institutions. We know now that was cruel and exacerbated many behaviour issues. The balance between keeping everyone safe and giving people with a severe disability a bearable life can be delicate. Sadly, very wrong on this point occasion.
@sappholives83@Me_only_me76 I agree that if he knows what a crocodile is, he likely knows what a child is, but he may still have no concept of the danger crocodiles pose, or that a child could die or feel pain. We know so little about him.
@sappholives83@NicolaD21835930 There’s a big difference between being able to answer yes to a simple question and being able to understand police questioning. If his cognitive functioning is very low, then there would be nothing to be gained from questioning him. Managing him securely is the only thing.
@nikki_twine@Northpr7@Bozenka_2023 I think sometimes people can’t bring themselves to think it, even. Especially if someone does a good job of being personable and likeable on casual acquaintance. The idea that they could do something so terrible seems so unlikely that you feel bad for even wondering.
@Northpr7@Bozenka_2023@nikki_twine I worked with children at that stage of development for many years, and they fall a lot but rarely enough to injure themselves. It’s a tricky balance for professionals-spotting concerning injuries while not putting families through investigation for understandable bumps.
@Bozenka_2023@nikki_twine I feel like he must have been giving off enough signs that he wasn’t coping to warrant increased supervision, especially with the hospital trips and the fact that this was a healthy normally developing baby, in contrast to many children with disabilities, older family groups, etc
@Bozenka_2023@nikki_twine Children are placed with prospective adoptive parents but the adoption order doesn’t go through for 6 months to a year. In that time, you have visits from social workers, and you need their permission for things like medical treatment.
@EvacTony I would imagine the consequences are the same as if the client themselves are injured in someone’s care - an enquiry will look at whether it could have been prevented. People lose jobs, licences and even go to prison for negligence that results in harm.
@juliewash01@DearRebelAda He seems to blame them for ‘spoiling’ the baby rather than showing any awareness that this little lad had been moved away from the family he had known, and now needed comfort and help to feel safe.
@DearRebelAda I agree. My experience as the adoptive mum of a toddler was similar to yours. Not everything was easy, but parenting has expected challenges, and the joys of it, after waiting so long, were wonderful. Varley’s extreme struggles should have been a concern for his sw.
@Nic21121970@Yorkslrehlker I used on that was very similar at a pre school and the top bit could be removed, turned over and placed in the cube. There were little tabs to hold it in place.
@melanieander3y@DLCDonut Exactly. Not a fashion statement for us, but a reminder of a potentially fatal illness and the worry and suffering that brings to our families.
@DLCDonut@amandakf95 Can you imagine that many women with these scars have not yet defeated cancer? They may still be undergoing treatment, they may be in remission with a strong likelihood of recurrence, they may be anxiously awaiting results of a follow up scan, or already facing it coming back.
@DLCDonut@fletcherkathy8 It’s not shame, it’s fear and dread because while we felt well, cancer was growing in us. It takes time to have any confidence that we are now well, to worry less about recurrence. Celebrations can seem too soon, tempting fate.
@DLCDonut@fletcherkathy8 For women with breast cancer the scars are a reminder of a condition that can kill them, of radiotherapy, chemotherapy, of drugs that we have to take for years. We don’t go straight to celebrating beating it because recurrence is so frequent, and we have years of follow up. 1/2