Beau Avila

Husband/Father/Son. Faithful believer in Jesus Christ. Ice bath enthusiast

[Beau Avila @CoachBeauA]

@KurtBenkert @iamdschenk Guess I’m getting there a few days too late

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@shairnn 18

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@Seraphinaf5 61

[Merriam-Webster @MerriamWebster]

That was not the definition of a red card.

[Beau Avila @CoachBeauA]

@CodyBrownBets 2-0 USA 🇺🇸

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@MilesParkerBets USA

[Beau Avila @CoachBeauA]

I will add that it is easier to follow the teams for countries that speak English (EPL). However I’m sure each club has English social media sites

[Rooney @CoachRooney16]

Dear fellow Americans,

1. Find a player on any of these teams
2. Find what club they play for and the league
3. Support them vigorously
4. Have this feeling year round, every year instead of every 4

Alternately, pick an 🇺🇸 player and just follow them

Either way, it’s awesome

[Beau Avila @CoachBeauA]

@ClawForThatInch Dude that was incredible to read. Good stuff

[Beau Avila @CoachBeauA]

@Easton__Butler Hey Easton can you tell them to ask for Benson, too?

[Beau Avila @CoachBeauA]

@MLFootball Treyveon and Eli first day of camp

[Beau Avila @CoachBeauA]

@HoggNFL Said his favorite player to watch film on was Charles Woodson too 🫡

[AJ Dillon @ajdillon7]

Sheesh #panthers twitter I wasn’t familiar with your game 😂🤝 respect!

Add a 0 for a signed one ?

1000 and you’ve got a deal! 🤝

[Beau Avila @CoachBeauA]

Only validate feeling that are VALID

[Redd @ReddCinema]

opinion about PARENTING that would get you like this???

[Beau Avila @CoachBeauA]

@ZiggySmalls_ @iamdschenk Maaaannnn.. Packer fan in Indy. How can I get an autograph before the move?

[Dr Danish @operationdanish]

We now have evidence that gentle parenting doesn’t work.

Here’s an uncomfortable truth about parenting no one wants to say out loud:

The data is not kind to gentle parenting.

According to teenagers, strict curfews. strict bedtimes, screen limits, device drop off times, dedicated homework blocks, and sleepover restrictions IMPROVE higher relationship quality.

And yes, parenting difficulty goes up.

Of course it does. Leadership is harder than appeasement.

For the past decade we have been sold a watered down, Instagram friendly version of “gentle parenting” that often collapses into boundary avoidance, endless negotiation and emotional processing without enforcement. Parents terrified of saying no because they do not want to rupture connection.

But connection without authority is not connection. It is dependency.

When parents impose structure, the relationship improves.

Teenagers report better parent child relationship quality in homes with curfews and rules. Younger kids report better relationships in homes with screen limits and bedtimes. Even device drop off times correlate positively.

Why?

Because structure is not cruelty. Structure is love made visible.

A bedtime says: your brain matters more than your entertainment.

A screen limit says: your dopamine system is not fully developed and I will guard it until it is.

A curfew says: your safety matters more than your social standing.

That is not authoritarianism. That is caring.

Boundaries create friction. Friction creates growth. The parent absorbs the short term discomfort so the child does not pay the long term cost.

Children do not experience well calibrated limits as rejection. They experience them as stability. The human brain craves predictability. Predictability reduces anxiety. Reduced anxiety strengthens attachment.

That is why relationship quality goes up.

Notice something else in the data. The strongest effects are around time structure. Bedtime. Homework. Devices. Outside play. These are environmental constraints. They scaffold executive function.

The winning formula is not tyranny.

It is high warmth plus high structure.

The modern failure mode is high warmth plus low structure. That is just abdication of responsibility wrapped in empathy.

Children need leadership, not negotiation. They need adults who can tolerate their anger. They need boundaries that do not move every time emotions spike. They need someone whose prefrontal cortex is fully myelinated.

The harder path produces the stronger bond.

Because when a child feels that someone is strong enough to hold the line, they relax. And relaxed nervous systems build durable relationships.

[Beau Avila @CoachBeauA]

@ShadowofEzra Well well well @zachhomol_

Your wild conspiracies are getting out of control.

[Hustlerz Hub @HustlerzHub]

Your brain literally gets stronger when you do something you don’t want to do! 🧠💪

[Beau Avila @CoachBeauA]

@zachhomol_ 6 AM cold plunge in the crick!

[Andrew D. Huberman, Ph.D. @hubermanlab]

Showing up to the work, the workout, the relationship etc on the hard days, when you would otherwise not, is how you expand ability. That’s how you get really good at something and in the case of work and performance, gain an edge. ⁦@JamesClear⁩ on the Huberman Lab podcast.

[Zach Homol @zachhomol_]

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