Coach Campi

SS teacher at Weehawken High School- Weehawken Football HC- University of Rochester

[Brad Stulberg @BStulberg]

Young men are looking for a way out of a contrived bullshit meaningless existence.

The problem is they are looking in all the wrong places—such as paying $3000 to cosplay as a soldier at a weekend retreat.

The struggles of men are back in the news with stories in places like the New York Times and The New Yorker. They rightfully highlight data showing declining educational and work attainment; increasing loneliness, isolation, and nihilism; and rising political polarization.

But what elite outlets miss is the solution.

It’s not a “Joe Rogan of the left.” It’s not to pretend there are no differences between men and women. It's not to call masculinity "toxic." It's to hold up better alternatives.

At the extremes of performative masculinity, you find people like Andrew Tate, who draws young men in with promises of riches, women, and superiority over minorities.

Slightly less extreme is the rise of the alpha bros, who suggest that real men are alphas: they are dominant, take what they want, and are obsessed with power over others. They love to have big, overpriced retreats.

At the other end of the spectrum, there are those who call anything related to traditional ideas of manhood toxic. Or a new breed of leftist streamers—a different message but still hollow, the sole goal being to capture attention. It's emptiness and anger and resentment all the way down.

All humans have foundational psychological needs: to belong, participate in meaningful endeavors, feel competent, cultivate hope for the future, and have a direction to follow. We need sources of mastery and mattering. We need paths to pursue personal excellence.

In a chaotic world where young men don’t know where they belong or where they are headed, they grasp onto groups and ideologies that make them feel good in the short term but backfire over the long haul. Without better alternatives, the alpha bros of the world fill the gap.

Performative masculinity is not about developing world-class men. It’s about converting anxiety and loneliness into anger and tribal loyalty. It’s about turning a young man’s real feeling of being lost into a superficial feeling of being dominant, even if that dominance comes from bullying, trolling, and demeaning people.

We’ve got to offer a better path that provides young men with quality ways to meet their foundational psychological needs. We need a more realistic and positive view of masculinity. We need to model what it means to be a good human for half of the population that, on average, is born programmed to have higher testosterone than the other half.

It’s okay to be strong. It’s okay to bench press and deadlift. It’s okay to be competitive. It’s actually great. We need to do real things in the real world with real people, perhaps now more than ever.

The problem is when this gets steeped in an us versus them mentality, where everything is zero sum, where there is always some boogeyman to blame.

Mind your shit. Be kind. Be useful.

Instead of talking about being an alpha, high-T lion, or whatever other pseudoscientific garbage is on the internet, we need to refocus our attention to create mental models for masculinity that include the following qualities:

• Being a good father, brother, friend, husband.
• Having integrity and honor.
• Caring deeply about others.
• Pursuing meaningful work in diverse careers.
• Striving for intrinsic excellence.
• Showing up consistently.
• Being a protector of the weak.
• Showcasing your physicality in competitive pursuits (if you are so inclined), and doing so within the rules of those pursuits.

It’s not that there are no incredible men. There are millions of incredible men.

The challenge is that these incredible men are too busy out in the world living their lives and being useful to sit around and prey on young people’s fears all day.

They are coaching their kid’s baseball team.
They are volunteering in their community.
They are playing with their children.
They are mentoring at local gyms.
They are starting small businesses.
They are supporting their wives.

We need to elevate this kind of man.

[Robert Ferullo @RobFerullo4]

Emilio is still missing. Any information or assistance you can provide would be appreciated. Please contact Weehawken police or message me directly. ⁦@EricCrespoEDU⁩ ⁦@WHSAthletics53⁩ ⁦@FAmato53⁩ ⁦@bcalligy⁩ ⁦@WeehawkenTSD⁩

[Chris Parker @chris_parker222]

Coaches: Work hard and get the job done, but there are no extra points for “most hours worked”. Get home and spend time with your families too.

[Jake Franklin Football @JakeFranklinFB]

"Violence matters in this sport."

The X's and O's are important, but at the end of the day, violence is mandatory.

Brute strength, hard hitting, and physically dominating the opponent (between the whistles) is a "must have" to win championships in this game.

[Floyd Morris @CoachFM3]

It’s going to be another fun fall for #7 💪🏾@coachrg18 @coach_saint @TodderickHunt @CoachEvanDurand

[Chad Peevey @chad_peevey]

I have been coaching for a while now, and I have yet to meet an athlete who regrets showing up and working hard during their 4 years in HS. However, the number of athletes who regret not showing up and not working hard is endless.

Choose discipline or choose regret. 🤷‍♂️

[Brad Stulberg @BStulberg]

One of the hardest and most important things is to keep showing up, even—and perhaps especially—when you don't want to.

[Brad Stulberg @BStulberg]

Being loud is not the same thing as being right.

[Eneaz Wells @EneazWells4]

https://t.co/EMfgTafQcX
Senior Season Highlights
1st Team All-Patriot
452 Rushing Yards | 5 TDs
440 Receiving Yards | 4 TDs

[Weehawken Schools @WeehawkenTSD]

WHS vs Butler tonight in the @NJSIAA state playoffs 🏈
@EricCrespoEDU @FAmato53 @al_orecchio @RobFerullo4 @StefanieCirill1 @SuzanneMera @DeStefanoEDU @MrsCullinane @bcalligy @BriannaReganEDU @JColasurdoEDU @WHSAthletics53 @Coach_Campi @CoachFM3 @gioahmad

[Floyd Morris @CoachFM3]

Reservations for 6..another big game from @EneazWells4 . Best play is the next play…See you Friday night.

[Floyd Morris @CoachFM3]

Nominate them all! @VarsityAces @JBernsteinHS

[Floyd Morris @CoachFM3]

Crazy stat line from last night’s shootout..

Chris Ramirez, 127 yrds passing, 80 yrds rushing, 67 yrds receiving, 5 total TD..and 7 tackles.

Eneaz Wells - 58 yards rushing, 87 yards receiving, 3 total TD, 5 tackles (2 TFL)

Manny De La Hoz - 101 rushing, 2 TD, and 9 tackles

[NJIC @NJICathletics]

Congratulations to Week 4 Alliance Orthopedics NJIC Offensive & Defensive Player of the week!

Offense: Manny De La Hoz, Weehawken @WeehawkenTSD

Defense: Luca Toriello, Butler @football_butler

[Miss Rhodes @MissRhodes20]

Excited to start a new tradition 😎

[Weehawken Schools @WeehawkenTSD]

Weehawken 40 Wallington 14 🏈
@EricCrespoEDU @FAmato53 @al_orecchio @RobFerullo4 @StefanieCirill1 @DeStefanoEDU @MrsCullinane @bcalligy @gioahmad

[Zach Even - Esh @ZEvenEsh]

Coaches - At the high school level, brilliance with the basics will go a LONG way.

Athletes - Consistency is the BIG ticket. If you're consistently missing, how can you expect to be good let alone great?

Success is NO accident and neither is Mediocrity.

DO. THE. WORK.

[Albert Young @AlbertYoung__]

🇫🇷 ➡️ 🇺🇸
6’ 1” 185lbs. 2026 WR @ResendoH

[The Winning Difference @thewinningdiff1]

"Complacency creates a blatant disregard for doing what is right.
You can't do what you feel like doing.
You have to choose to do the things that will help you accomplish the goals that you have.
When you get complacent, you lose respect for winning."

[tony franklin @coachtf]

Congrats/You won a huge game/So what/I’m sorry/You lost a huge game/So what/The only thing that ever matters in life is your response…You won? Get better! You lost? Get better! Control what u can control…See the details…Be honest…Fix what is fixable. Then laugh. Life’s short