Someone once told me something along the lines of "you've gotta do your best everyday, but remember that your best is going to look DIFFERENT every day". & it's one of the most healing things I've heard to this day bc it reminds me not to put too much pressure on myself.
Eventually, you'll realize that arguing is an act of extreme intimacy which gives them access to your nervous system, and you will stop doing it with anyone you wouldn't want to be intimate with. Some people don’t want understanding, they want a reaction. Protect your peace.
I love people who decide they want better and quietly start changing everything. No announcements, no explanations just new habits, stronger boundaries, higher standards, and a completely different life.
we talk about burning bridges like it's the end of the story. but then there's the deafening silence that comes after the fire dies down—the grief that shows up when you know the decision was right, and wish that it wasn't.
I think adulthood becomes much easier when you have enough money to enjoy your own life. You don’t always need company. You can take yourself out, order whatever you want, travel, stay home, buy yourself things. Money gives you choices.