Just to chime in on this special needs matter that I’m seeing today. Dear men, we are so ignorant and loud on many of these matters! The word I want to use is actually ignorantly selfish. Better still, selfishly ignorant.
In ALL the cases of a parent abandoning a child with special needs that I have seen, it’s the fathers who have left! And I have seen over 50! I teach kids with special needs EVERY WEEK!
Most of you guys virtue signalling up and down here will actually run! Let’s be careful speaking on crosses we haven’t had to bear o! Hmm!!
When the rubber meets the road, it’s ALMOST ALWAYS MEN who do the abandonment of the mother and child.
Some who are physically present in the home are already emotionally detached from the child, leaving the emotional weight on the mother.
Nigerians loveee to be custodians of pity, they'd rather you're in a miserable situation so they can offer their false sympathies than you were not in the situation at all.
Telling people sorry, while saying "Thank God my children are healthy" at their backs, Nigerians sabi ammm
everyone who is saying ‘parents need to be prepared for a disabled child for the rest of their lives, if they want to have a baby’ are being euphemistic.
They mean mothers.
Every severely disabled child I know is being taken care off primarily by their mom.
About this abortion issue for fetuses with Down syndrome or pathological defects. I feel Nigerians are very performative and selective moralists.
As far as e no affect them, they will ALWAYS take the moral high ground.
Sharon Stone gets emotional talking about the moment her marriage ended after her husband got FURIOUS over her decision to have a double mastectomy and breast removal due to a breast tumor instead of focusing on her health 😳💔👀
“He was furious. And the doctor said to him, ‘If I had more patients like her, we’d have more women alive today. You need to sit down.I said, ‘I make the decisions, not you.’ That was the end of the marriage.”
Pregnancy is such a personal experience you shouldn’t be online explaining your choices to anyone!
Especially random folks who would never be in your shoes
I would have never posted about such a personal issue BUT for everyone judging that couple, I ask: 1) How many disabled children have YOU raised? 2) How large is your support system? 3) How are you going to pay for YEARS of care? 4) What happens to that child if YOU die?
Love this! While my wedding was significantly flamboyant- myself and my husband only used disposable income.
We felt no hit to our lives, pre and post wedding
Still can’t believe my wife made us pay our rent way ahead of time and stocked up the house with food, prepaid meter unlimited, just before we started wedding expenses 😂 😂
Not necessarily fully true as Monzo also performs cross border payments.
Source: Trust me cause i led the cross border project 😊
The difference is more in the global financial services strategy
@naijadentist Monzo is building a UK bank. Revolut built a global payments empire. Not the same game at all.
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