Filipino family culture is very toxic.
"Utang na loob" is just the legal bare minimum your parents should do to not get arrested for child neglect.
"Pakikisama" is the fear of conflict, it is better to have people step on you than say something.
"Hiya" is the worst.
“he’s talking to her like a child” have you considered some of us grew up getting screamed at for minor mistakes? as someone with childhood trauma from explosive anger, if i make a mistake, i need that exact level of gentleness to keep from freezing