A man who is always “testing” women usually isn’t looking for love. He’s looking for proof that someone will tolerate his behavior. And the test never actually ends.
It's not worth the cortisol spike to argue with someone with high narcisstic traits. Their narratives don't reflect reality. Let your silence confirm you've unsubscribed from their delusion.
the 6 C’s of every healthy relationship:
• communication.
• comprehension.
• consideration.
• compassion.
• consistency.
• conflict resolution.
once one is missing, things begin to feel off balance. always prioritize the 6 C’s.
Projection is when they call you out on their bullsh*t. Maturity is detaching from their perceptions and projections because they don't know you, that's not your sh*t to own, and you're not responsible for the version of you they created in their minds.
If you don’t like someone that’s fine, but don’t make up a whole lie to get others to join you in disliking someone. That’s a sickness honey. If you feel so strongly in disliking someone and it’s your truth, you should be able to stand on that alone.
Show a man that you will stick with him through His worst behavior, and he will keep showing you his worst behavior. Struggle love doesn’t lead to change. It leads to more struggle...