@GMB ... when my daughter was born, the midwives made it quite clear I wasn’t the patient. There was a chair, I could sit there or go home.
You need to respect the midwives and the ward. You’re not the only one there.
People who smack you down by saying that “parenting isn’t about you” are mostly wrong.
Parenting isn’t JUST about you, but some of it is: Your health. Your happiness. Those are still important.
Take care of you, too, or the whole damn thing falls apart.