Darin Yocum, RE/MAX DFW Associates Realtor

Trusted DFW Realtor since 1994. Calm guidance, smart negotiations & long-term perspective for buyers, sellers & investors.

[Darin Yocum, RE/MAX DFW Associates Realtor @DarinYocum]

Great insight! Yep, our mindsets determine the life we live.

[Gia Macool @GiaMMacool]

I had one of those moments that stay with you for a lifetime

I was at the veterans hospital taking care of my husband.

In the room next to him was another veteran.

I had brought my husband food because, let's be honest, hospital food is terrible.

So I offered some to the veteran next door.

We started talking.

As the conversation unfolded, I learned he was deeply immersed online

He pulled out his phone and showed me comment after comment, thread after thread, where he spent his time trying to convince other men never to get married.

So I asked him about his own life.

His relationship had been filled with conflict.

At this point in his life, he had decided it was better to stay single.

His worldview was shaped by defeatism

He spoke with complete certainty, convinced he had already figured life out.

As time went by, he watched me care for my husband.

He saw me dress him.

Help him get comfortable.

Check on him.

Make sure he had everything he needed.

He watched my husband and me interact, and eventually he started asking about our marriage.

We shared what has made it work, not perfection, but commitment.

Sacrifice.

Forgiveness.

Choosing each other over and over again, especially when life isn't easy.

His entire demeanor changed.

He looked at us and quietly said,
"Man... I wish I could find that. I wish I had a woman who understood these things."

A little while later, the nurse came back into his room.

She was kind, patient, and genuinely caring.

After helping him, he started flirting with her, telling her she was exactly the kind of woman he would marry, it was cute seeing him smile for a change.

But at the same time, great sadness came over me.

It was realizing much of what we see online isn't confidence…it’s coping.

The loudest voices preaching that marriage is broken are often the very people longing for love, companionship, and someone to stand beside them when life gets hard.

The problem isn't marriage.

The problem is the mindset that develops after being hurt and disappointment by those we loved

The unresolved pain is what makes most people self-sabotage new relationships

Those wounds become limiting beliefs.

If you convince yourself that commitment is slavery, vulnerability is weakness, and every relationship is destined to fail, you've already sabotaged the very thing you claim to want.

Many people don't go online because they've found the truth.

They go online because they're hurting.

The internet becomes therapy, and the echo chamber validates the pain instead of healing it.

Sitting in that hospital reminded me of something I'll never forget.

One day your beauty fades.

Money comes and goes.

Success rises and falls.

Health can disappear in an instant.

And when you're lying in a hospital bed, the question isn't how many debates you won online.

The question is...

Who is sitting beside you because they genuinely love you?

I'm profoundly grateful for my marriage.

I know that if my husband is ever lying in a hospital bed, I'll be right there beside him.

And I know, without a doubt, that if our roles were reversed, he would do exactly the same for me.

The good times make marriage enjoyable.

The hard times reveal the strength of the couple because that’s what marriage actually is.

It's beautiful because two imperfect people choose to carry one another through life's heaviest moments.

Today reminded me there is no substitute for that.

[Darin Yocum, RE/MAX DFW Associates Realtor @DarinYocum]

@texasrunnerDFW Every flight is full & hotels (especially the nicer ones) are almost at max capacity. I always trust my eyes 👀 more than narratives. The economy is hopping.

[Darin Yocum, RE/MAX DFW Associates Realtor @DarinYocum]

Well said!

[InfantryDort @infantrydort]

The greatest privilege in the modern world is becoming an American. The greatest ingratitude is spending that privilege trying to convince Americans their country deserves to be dismantled.

I can think of few things more tragic than inheriting the greatest republic ever assembled and mistaking it for the problem instead of the prize.

[Darin Yocum, RE/MAX DFW Associates Realtor @DarinYocum]

I’m helping a CEO purchase a home. Every time I send him a document to sign, it comes back within minutes. The busiest leaders I know are the most efficient people I work with. It’s always been this way. Funny how that works! 🤓

[Darin Yocum, RE/MAX DFW Associates Realtor @DarinYocum]

@texasrunnerDFW

[Darin Yocum, RE/MAX DFW Associates Realtor @DarinYocum]

I think about these things a lot. That if I were dying, what I would cherish and value the most?
It would be all of the great friendships we have established. The memories we have shared.
Being a part of defining moments in people’s lives. 👇🏻

[Darin Yocum, RE/MAX DFW Associates Realtor @DarinYocum]

Now this is a cool closet!

[Darin Yocum, RE/MAX DFW Associates Realtor @DarinYocum]

All solid suggestions! Especially the frequent haircuts and avoiding “free” lunches. Remember, no such thing as a free lunch. Somebody wants something. Buy your own food.

[Dear Son. @DearS_o_n]

Get a haircut every 2 weeks to stay sharp, wait 5 secs before answering the phone to control the rhythm, always arrive 15 mins early, stay away from free lunches, never talk about people who aren't in the room, and when anger rises, wait 10 mins before reacting. These habits may look rigid, but they're the hidden discipline of the elite.

[Darin Yocum, RE/MAX DFW Associates Realtor @DarinYocum]

@clayandbuck I agree! The USA should literally dominate everything! Literally every sport. Excellence is the bar in the USA.

[Darin Yocum, RE/MAX DFW Associates Realtor @DarinYocum]

@SkylarSkye3 Facts are stubborn things.

[Darin Yocum, RE/MAX DFW Associates Realtor @DarinYocum]

@creation247 The bigger the State, the smaller the individual. The smaller the State, the larger the individual. America was founded on the primacy of the individual, not the collective. This is why the USA is the most innovative and creative nation on the planet.

[Darin Yocum, RE/MAX DFW Associates Realtor @DarinYocum]

@SkylarSkye3 I agree!

[Darin Yocum, RE/MAX DFW Associates Realtor @DarinYocum]

@Budgetdog_ Incrementalism. Once you open the door, even a tiny amount, you probably have to go to war to close it. Know your history.

[Darin Yocum, RE/MAX DFW Associates Realtor @DarinYocum]

@jordanbpeterson I was born ambitious! I believe in excellence, success, improvement, hard work, grit, tenacity, winning. I can’t imagine having any other mindset.
🇺🇸 AMERICA 🇺🇸

[Darin Yocum, RE/MAX DFW Associates Realtor @DarinYocum]

@RonDeSantis Courage is a rare virtue. Thank God our Founders had so much courage! They’re an inspiration for the ages!

[Darin Yocum, RE/MAX DFW Associates Realtor @DarinYocum]

@SkylarSkye3 2 were born in the West Indies (Caribbean)

[Darin Yocum, RE/MAX DFW Associates Realtor @DarinYocum]

@SkylarSkye3 Of the 56 men who signed the United States Declaration of Independence, then approximately 41 were born in the American colonies and 15 were born elsewhere. Of those:

* 8 were born in England
* 2 were born in Scotland
* 2 were born in Ireland
* 1 was born in Wales
👇🏻

[Darin Yocum, RE/MAX DFW Associates Realtor @DarinYocum]

@SkylarSkye3 Freedom is universal! You should absolutely celebrate it. 🙌🏻

[Darin Yocum, RE/MAX DFW Associates Realtor @DarinYocum]

@LeahRay44 You’re welcome to stay and become an American citizen yourself. You’re not a subject here. You are free to pursue the life you dream of. There are no guarantees, but the opportunity is here for those who love freedom, personal responsibility and are willing to work for it.

[Darin Yocum, RE/MAX DFW Associates Realtor @DarinYocum]

@texasrunnerDFW I don’t understand these off sides calls either. They are annoying! And…..the flopping….oh the flopping! So cringe! That needs to stop!