Guy: Oga, I am getting married in Enugu and sending you an invitation.
Me: Congratulations! The only thing is that I won't make it as I hardly travel to Nigeria.
Guy: Oga, I know but you can send your transport fare.
I am still wondering how to respond. We are acquaintances and not close friends. He did something for me once and I was grateful. I am in his debt but this is unexpected.
If I was not going to be there, why should I send transport fare? I would prefer to help in another way and in kind. Wedding registries need to become more popular.
This brings another issue of the obligations friends and family impose without considering that you may have not included them in your plans and budgets. Any contingency budgeting I do is for medical emergencies and not needless events.
I have a policy of not doing any funeral contributions anymore. They have also stopped adding me on WhatsApp groups for those things.
One friend made me the Chairman of his Catholic church’s harvest twice. I have never been to the church. I warned him the third time he tried it and stopped giving.
I prefer to give with joy rather than to give with a grudge. I have far too many family obligations already to do charity. My closest friends know and understand this. Some even sent me money recently when they heard that I had surgery and was at home. I didn't ask them for it but I was very grateful. They know I would do much more for them when I can.
“Nothing impoverishes a man faster than unbridled generosity” - Prof Osuide.
The first big money I earned, I gave a large chunk away before I spent a kobo on myself.
People thought it was reckless. I thought it was the point.
To this day the biggest line item in my personal finances is not rent or tax. It is giving.
I am not telling you this to impress you. I am telling you because it is the single habit I would hand to my younger self first.
My money has never really felt like mine. I am just a custodian.
To grow, you have to learn to let go.
@OptaAnalyst Interestingly...
The four countries had the letter 'A' and 'R' in common while the three hat-trick scorers also had the letter 'A', 'N' and 'E' in common as well in their names.
@RedHatPentester Wow 😲,
I can't believe this is the same Carlos Queiroz which was mentioned and highly respected by Sir Alex Ferguson in his autobiography.
He once managed Real Madrid after leaving Manchester United before returning back again to work with Ferguson.
Dear Parents,
Let me share a secret with you. I pray it benefits you.
After my post on the anatomical psychology of a child yesterday, I received some questions about how to help children who struggle to focus on their studies and what parents can do to help them. If your child or your children is struggling academically, or lose focus easily, then this post is for you.
What you are likely seeing is a child who starts a task but wanders off. You might see them staring at a book for an hour without remembering a single line. It is easy to think they are being lazy, but what you ought to see is a mind where the internal powers are not connected.
The Almighty God in the Quran mentions the Nasiyah in Surah Al-Alaq (96:15) as the place of decision and control. Science has shown this to be the prefrontal cortex, the part behind the forehead.
In Kitab al-Shifa, Ibn Sina identified a power box called Al-Quwwah al-Mutakhayyilah (the Composative Imagination). This power is the pilot of the brain. Its job is to take information and turn it into focused thought. When focus is gone, the bridge is broken.
To help them overcome this problem, you can use a mental drill called Reverse Narrating (RN). Reverse Narrating is a modern concept, but, it has root in our religion too.
The principle behind RN is deeply anchored in the works of Abu Zayd al-Balkhi. He is considered the father of Islamic psychology. In his book Masalih al-Abdan wa al-Anfus (Sustenance of the Soul), he talked about Riyadat al-Nafs (disciplining the mind). He taught that the mind needs specific "mental rehearsals" to regain control over wandering thoughts.
This mental rehearsals through reverse narrating is what you should adopt going forward because it forces the brain to reorganize information in a way that is not natural.
Here is how you can do it:
1.Ask your child what they are doing right this moment (when you call them).
2.Ask them what they did ten minutes before that.
3.Keep asking what happened before each step, moving backward through the day.
4.Continue until they reach the moment they woke up in the morning.
Do you know what you have done? You have just forced the Mutakhayyilah of your child to work in overdrive to pull data from the memory and flip it.
What this does is that It strengthens the pilot seat in their forehead. If you do this for a few minutes every evening, you would be building the mental glue your child needs to stay on a task. This is how struggling children improve their mental power and succeed in their studies. GIVE IT A TRY.
Allah knows best.
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With that amount of public repository they have access to, even before the birth of AI, they should be the leader any day and any time in any AI related products and not just Gemini alone.
Reintroducing: Aderibigbe Nurudeen Bisi (GMNSE, GMNIEE)
BSc. Agricultural and Environmental Engineering.
Second Class Honours (Upper Divisions)
President(AEESSUI), Interior Minister (HoR), Chairman, Financial Secretary and Class Representative (5 sessions).
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When I moved to the UK 🇬🇧 some years back, I thought my biggest advantage was my work ethic.
Turns out… it wasn’t enough.
Not because I wasn’t skilled. Not because I wasn’t qualified. But because I was playing by rules that worked back home, in a completely different system.
UK corporate has its own language. It’s own politics. Its own unspoken expectations. And no one hands you the manual.
I had to unlearn:
• Waiting to be noticed
• Staying silent in meetings
• Thinking hard work guarantees promotion
• Avoiding self-advocacy
• Oversharing with colleagues too quickly
Growth in a new country isn’t just about upgrading your CV. Sometimes it’s about upgrading your awareness.
So here are 10 things you need to unlearn to survive UK Corporate 🇬🇧
If you’re navigating UK corporate as an immigrant, this post is particularly for you. 👇👇
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