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[C @cyrusamanya]

You should have things you don't do, places you don't go to, substances you don't take, words you don't say

By all means, have Principles and Standards.

[Nsikan @CkanJohnson]

When you sexualize a conversation early, you’re not just flirting or testing the waters. You’re fundamentally reframing what kind of interaction this is. And the other person has to decide, right then, whether they’re willing to operate inside that frame. If they were interested in you as a person, curious about your thoughts, drawn to your energy, maybe even attracted but not ready to make it the center of everything yet, you’ve just asked them to skip about seven steps.

Most people won’t tell you that you’ve done this. They’ll just drift. They’ll match your energy for a bit out of politeness, or awkwardness, or because they’re trying to figure out if they misread you. But the curiosity is gone. You’ve answered a question they weren’t asking yet.

I think this happens because we confuse attraction with urgency. Like, if you feel it, you have to do something about it immediately, or the moment dies. But real attraction doesn’t actually work like that. It builds. It breathes. It happens in the margins of normal conversation, in the way someone laughs at your joke, or the fact that they remembered something you said three days ago, or the split second where you both go quiet and it doesn’t feel empty.

There’s this idea that if someone’s really into you, they’ll match your sexual energy right away. That anything else is just performance or playing games. But that assumes everyone experiences desire on the same timeline, in the same way. Some people feel attraction as a slow burn. It starts as intrigue, then comfort, then one day they look at you differently and suddenly it’s there. For them, leading with sex isn’t authentic, it’s disorienting. It doesn’t feel like honesty. It feels like a test they didn’t know they were taking.

When you sexualize too soon, you’re collapsing all of that into a single transaction. You’re saying, “I want to know if this is going somewhere now.” And maybe it was. But now they have to wonder if you were ever interested in them, or just interested in what they represent.

The fumble isn’t that you expressed desire. It’s that you made desire the whole conversation before there was anything else to hold it up.

[Better Men @Better_men]

Everyone should see this for the new year… it’s so simple yet intricately profound

[EarthtoGazelle @EarthToGazelle]

“Late bloomer” isn’t actually real. Nothing in nature blooms late, you’re right on time in your own garden.

[soli @solisolsoli]

Love by Ilo Künst

[Celestara @celestaracosmos]

Life is strange. You arrive with nothing, spend your whole life chasing everything, and still leave with nothing. Make sure your soul gains more than your hands.

[Novelle art. @artistryhere]

one's inner self.

[Earth @earthcurated]

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[𝗚𝗿𝗮𝗰𝗲. @graciell__]

i love when someone remembers little details about me. not because they had to, but because they genuinely paid attention.

[feyisayo 💸 @feyiszn]

You’re an adult, have that difficult conversation. Articulate yourself and speak. Nobody is going to beat you. Please talk.

[soli @solisolsoli]

oh.. by garlicbunny

[Scion (PanAfroCore) @ScionofCulture]

This is quite interesting, the Avatar franchise by James Cameron may have based the Na'vi on various African (Sudanese) ethnic groups.

[Libriscent @libriscent]

People hear “high standards” and think money. I hear it and think integrity, emotional depth, self respect and sexual discipline. A bag can’t fix a broken character.

[COCO @TWOTIMESABITCH]

i am actually disgusted with everything i tolerated in the past. i never want to be her again. SELF LOVE IS SO IMPORTANT.

[lets heal and recover @recovery_your]

Suicidal ideation, for many, isn’t about death.
It’s about relief.
From shame.
From feeling overwhelmed constantly. From feeling like a fucking burden.
The goal isn’t always “not wanting to be alive”
It’s just not wanting to live like this.

[Martha Ahumuza @MarthaAhumuza]

Your mental illness might explain your behavior but it doesn’t excuse your impact on other people. It might explain why you did what you did but it doesn’t erase the fact that someone else had to live with the impact. It gives context and not absolution. You can say

[GREGY @Gregy_Online]

i hate having a body i should just be a floating thing