Depends on the man, and even finding one at all - some can resent it, seeing it as competition, especially if the male wishes to be dominate and she may have greater earning potential or more prestigious work with how the western world is right now, thumb on the scale prefer9for hiring women.
As I’ve been posting all day, here’s the probability of finding someone close to your mental sphere:
Per Grok:
For IQ 160+ is ~1 in 30,000–31,000;
IQ 145+ is ~1 in 741 (top ~0.135%).
Also per Grok, the average American personally knows about 611 people (median ~472) over a lifetime.
This counts people recognizable by name/sight with recent contact (past 2 years), including acquaintances but not distant or one-off encounters.
Most of us do not encounter enough other humans to just bump into a single other person with an IQ => 145.
Now, add in the fact you may seek a specific sex among that number, if you;re looking for a partner, adding a difficulty rating above what’s already listed.
True, but why would you expect everyone to have access to such a circle?
And, if you’re suggesting academia… lolz, no.
I worked university research administration, and ONE professor out of all I helped was able to read as quickly as me and I didn’t have to slow down with him. One. And we had no shared interests and would not be compatible as friends, personaloty and life situation-wise.
Most professors merely liked being grad students so much they never left college, they are not big-brains.
They’re not excellent writers, can’t do math for grant budgets without Excel sheets I’d build them, can’t follow instructions/read amd comprehend, don’t meet deadlines, amd I’ve seen the, forget crucial info on assignments for students, and literally needed me to draw info graphics for them to understand concepts.
Just accept that many of us do not run across mental-capacity equals and that can be isolating at times.
@ryzerth@Fat_Electrician Americans live along the same latitude as Cairo. My house is 70F atm, and my insulation is in need of a refresh. U could do it. You’re not motivated.
It’s not hard to understand.
I didn’t suddenly need glasses at 10. 10 was when my struggling to see was finally externally noticed.
I had no idea the world wasn’t blurry. How could I? It was all I’d ever experienced.
My asthma was missed for 42 years. I was just told I was lazy, try harder. Seems all those gym classes where I needed to vomit from running weren’t jsut me being difficult.
Autistics who can mask (often correlates with higher than average IQ) observe other kids, and mimic them. It’s imperfect, they make mistakes, are often bullied, making them study their classmates like an anthropologist for years. They sprinting but keeping up with others who are walking.
Age wears you down, masking gets harder. Then, you just can’t do it well anymore. You can barely walk behind everyone let alone sprint to keep up.
It’s blindingly simple to understand: the younger you are, the more energy you can waste, masking. The older you are, the harder it is.
If they had learned from Barbie what women want to see on screen, glam looks in spite of ‘the message’, if Supergirl had been cute or had a makeover mid way through, women would have gone.
They needed the ‘I like it when they let her shop,’ feel-good-moment of Pretty Woman.
Instead they got Rooster Cogburn in drag.
@lyc_aon@BIMBOSATTVA_ Grugspeak fine when BigBrainspeak too much for Grugbrain. Sad BigBrain want other BigBrain for bigger-brain-discussions. Not possible when converting BigBrain idea to GrugBrain simplification. GrugBrin cannot climb ladder to BigBrain, conversion is always once-way.
@ElvisTheAlienTV She’s also wearing make up, here and looks like she showered in the last week, unlike the way the director and producers of Supergirl chose to have her look in her big screen role.
@LiquidusMex@foxyavelli Lol. Over 49 years, I likely have, too, across many states. But my day to day is not very expansive and as you age, you no longer meet people with the sam ease as you did as a 20-something.
Sigh. And that has nothing to do with the main complaint:
no one is saying high IQ=zero social skills.
No one is saying high IQ means you cannot strike up conversations with anyone. No one is saying that you can’t read a room, or engage with others AT THEIR LEVEL.
The complaint is that when you want to go scuba diving and all you meed at people in the shallows, it can be tiring and frustrating over time and leave you unfufilled.
You are always dipping into the kiddie pool for engagement and they cannot join you in the deep end.
Here’s the breakdown:
Per Grok:
For IQ 160+ is ~1 in 30,000–31,000;
IQ 145+ is ~1 in 741 (top ~0.135%).
Also per Grok, the average American personally knows about 611 people (median ~472) over a lifetime.
This counts people recognizable by name/sight with recent contact (past 2 years), including acquaintances but not distant or one-off encounters.
Most of us do not encounter enough other humans to just bump into a single other person with an IQ => 145.
Sigh. Been posting this all day in response to this kind of comment:
Regarding the numbers, as far as finding people in a higher IQ range:
Per Grok:
For IQ 160+ is ~1 in 30,000–31,000;
IQ 145+ is ~1 in 741 (top ~0.135%).
Also per Grok, the average American personally knows about 611 people (median ~472) over a lifetime.
This counts people recognizable by name/sight with recent contact (past 2 years), including acquaintances but not distant or one-off encounters.
Most of us do not encounter enough other humans to just bump into a single other person with an IQ => 145.
This means forever dialing down what you want to say, and suppressing your thoughts and feelings, those around you are expressing themselves in ‘internet pings’ and you want torrents.
Annnnd, you missed the point.
It’s not about being able to just talk to anyone. I’m effing autistic and that’s easy.
It’s not being shy. It’s not being awkward.
It’s about others providing meaningful input, back.
IQ disparity means one person is forever dumbing themselves down with that ability to just talk to anyone, because the high IQ person can always dumb themselves down. The lower IQ person cannot rise up.
This would be like expecting a normal 10 year old to talk to a nuclear physicist on the same level. Now, make that 99% of all people you meet. Talking to 10 year olds. Forever.
Have you BEEN to a university as anything but a student? I managed researchers. Little ol’ me had to explain to numerous PhDs how to read basic grant submission instructions and how to follow the very regulations on research ethics they were supposed to be teaching. They… were not the brightest lightbulbs in the box. They simply wrote a dissertation that mostly get rubber stamped these days (I saw the sh!tshow those submissions were, too).
Universities are not bastions of upper level IQs.