Dimitra Kufudi @DimitraKufudi - Twitter Profile

Dimitra Kufudi @DimitraKufudi

11 days ago

@RogersHelps 4 hours later and we have a scheduled time for Monday. Great thanks. To Bell we go!

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Dimitra Kufudi @DimitraKufudi

11 days ago

Hey @Rogers @RogersHelps our neighbors moving truck broke the cable wire to our house and we have no internet. My husband has been kicked around numbers for 2 hours, I’ve been in the queue for 45 minutes and still number 3. We work from home! Can you help us out please?

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Dimitra Kufudi @DimitraKufudi

11 days ago

@RogersHelps @RogersHelps is this a joke? We’ve been passed from line to line. We’ve already called that number!!! And we’ve been waiting for 3 hours!!!! I’m also waiting online for a Roger’s specialist! This is the whole reason I’ve contacted you!

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Dimitra Kufudi @DimitraKufudi

11 days ago

@RogersHelps @RogersHelps

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Dimitra Kufudi @DimitraKufudi

11 days ago

@RogersHelps No trouble! Thanks for the quick response. How do I set up the time? We’re in St. John’s, Newfoundland!

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Jason Helmes

@anymanfitness

over 2 years ago

Just finished this book - Bad Therapy by @AbigailShrier This is one of the most eye-opening books I've ever read. It's a must read for any parent, any teacher, and should be required reading for any school administrator as well. The book dives into trying to figure out why kids are having so many mental health problems, when there are so many resources devoted to improving mental health outcomes. Anxiety, depression, suicide, etc are all higher than they've ever been with kids, even though their lives are arguably better than ever before. It just doesn't make sense. A few key takeaways from the book: A constant attention on how kids are "feeling" or "thinking" is causing negative outcomes. Constantly ruminating on your emotions and how you feel negatively impacts your mental health. If all you do is focus on your emotions, you are destined to be anxious or depressed. We incessantly ask kids how they're feeling, if they're happy, how their mental health is, etc, and this is creating kids who think they're fragile instead of resilient. Trying to solve every problem for kids has caused a generation who can't do anything for themselves. We (Gen X) were told to "suck it up" or "you'll live" or "rub some dirt on it" all the time. Many of us came to the conclusion this is "bad parenting" because our feelings were neglected, and we vowed not to do this to our own children. Because of that, kids immediately over-dramatize everything that happens to them, making mountains out of molehills, and thinking the world must revolve around their emotions and feelings. You develop confidence and strong mental health by doing things, not by thinking or via therapy. You can't think your way out of anxiety. You don't gain confidence by analysis of your thoughts or mental health issues. You gain confidence and eliminate anxiety by doing gradually more difficult tasks, excelling at them, and realizing you are a competent, capable person. The non-stop attention therapy gives to these small, common emotions we all feel blows them out of proportion to their seriousness (not talking about genuine disorders here, just normal anxieties that millions of people go to therapy to try to avoid). One of the best ways to decrease your happiness is to chase it. Our society constantly tells kids they should be "happy" and asks them if they are. Happiness isn't a state you should be in 24/7. That's not realistic. Joy and bliss aren't permanent states - they are fleeting. Contentment, stillness, and being even-keeled are much better goals to aim for mentally. The happiest, most well adjusted kids come from families with loving parents that have strict rules for the household. This one really set off the confirmation bias in me... I feel really blessed we have 2 well adjusted middle school kids who do great in school, are very respectful and well mannered, and we barely even need to parent them. But for years, we were very strict with them. Bedtimes, family rules, how we do things, etc. The in-laws and lots of friends thought we were totalitarian. In reality, we just had high standards. And it's really paying off right now. I found it really interesting that strict rules equals happy kids. Makes sense, though, as kids need to know what their boundaries are. Constantly surveying school-age kids about their mental health causes more issues than it solves. Mental health resources is big money. Districts need to validate all the resources allocated towards mental health, and they often do that via surveys. Asking kids non-stop questions like: - Have you thought about self harm? - Have you thought about suicide? - Have you been so anxious you can't get out of bed? Etc, etc puts into their heads the idea that themselves, or many of their peers are broken and cannot function properly in the real world. It normalizes situations that would be incredibly rare at any other time in history. There's a lot of other takeaways, too, but I'll stop there. It's a fantastic book. Go pick it up and read it. This isn't an affiliate thing or a promotion thing at all. I just really enjoyed it, and it will further shape the way I parent moving forward.