Dipam Vasani

Engineer | Philosopher | Athlete

Religion: @naval

[Dipam Vasani @DipamV]

"I don't wish to read all the books in the world! I just want to read the 100 best books over and over again"
- @naval on Joe Rogan podcast

Here's my list, in no particular order

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Is it even a parents' trip without your mom rearranging your whole kitchen?

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@majamediaco A couple things happened this week and I had the exact same thought :)) When you play positive-sum games in life, you never really know what might come out of it, or when.

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I remember my nephew was 2 months old when I held him for the first time.

While I was adoring his tiny, little hands he sneezed and I freaked out about what to do next

My cousin: “Calm down, he’s a human just like you. He will sneeze”

I spent the rest of the holidays adoring him do human things :)

[FLDAromatherapy✨💐🕯️💝 @Fleightondiaz]

My husband and I, 13 years ago, when we had first become parents. I remember we’d just stare at her for hours, amazed.

[Norgard @BrianNorgard]

The universe is mathematical engine that rewards courage, focus, and tenacity.

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However, when you refuse to let something end, you refuse to let something new begin

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Acceptance is the way!

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Let everything that’s not aligned fall through and see how peaceful life gets (won’t be obvious immediately as the loss will leave a hole in your life)

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@ayushe_n This is one of my dream events to host!!

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@lilyyang169 Try https://t.co/cIo5gQ9fel

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Reflection has an end to it, rumination doesn't

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So cool

[Sam Terris @samterris]

Freckle is the first kids phone built for real-world adventure.

Shipping in December. Pre-order today: https://t.co/zsJgDBUpda

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@heyitsyashu I was trying to get assignment when it was at 210 recently by selling PUTs. Should’ve just bought it outright

[Possible | Video Editor @Possible_Ugwa]

Always come back to this video before you conclude you can't.

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@christineist https://t.co/L4IeEsvl58

[Naval @naval]

The price of growth is outgrowing people.

[Dipam Vasani @DipamV]

1. I had a friend who over time adopted the "I hate all men" mindset and it got exhausting just hanging out with her! (can't imagine the kind of energy she was exuding on dates)

2. I did this too! It's freeing and fun to be open to connection in general, not just suitors. There's a lot of lovely people in the world.

I also had thought patterns preventing me from adopting an abundance mindset. I wrote about them here: https://t.co/OdhJCSOfMq

3. Again, same. I made a list of everyone who loves me and my long term habit of maintaining a gratitude journal helped as well. Sometimes these things are just decisions. Decide to be happy. Decide to romanticize life.

4. This is something Im still working on :)

All of these are a journey in becoming

[maggie love @maggielove_]

I manifested @jonwu_ into my life, and I did four very specific things to make it happen:

1. I stopped consuming all man-hating content. Jokes count. I realized I would say "I don't hate men" but my TikTok would tell a different story. I had been down a bad rabbit hole after a breakup. You are what you consume. I deleted TikTok and never looked back.

2. I re-programmed my energy to be open to men. Instead of having closed off energy to potential suitors, I just told myself, I am open, I am open, I am open. It made dating way more fun and stopped me from judging books by their covers right away.

3. I stopped believing I was in lack of love. This was very important. I used to be so sad about being single. Then one day I woke up, and I decided to list out all of the ways I had love in my life -- my family, my friends, myself -- my whole life was romantic. And how could I be without love if I am love. I stopped going to bed upset, I lived with an energetic, playful and loving energy that was truly oozing from me inner to my outer self.

4. I wrote down 80 words in a notebook about the type of man I wanted to call into my life. My list had 0 attributes, as in I did not write about his wealth, his interests, his height, what he looked like. Instead I focused on qualities: kindness, generosity, deep, loyal, funny. Literally I filled a whole page of qualities only, tore it out of my notebook and put it in the Little Prince.

The day after I wrote the 80 qualities on a page, I was talking to Jon Wu about Joshua tree. I felt a calm voice tell me from my inner world that he was the one.

I had never had such clarity about a man in my life. The rest is history.

Words are magic, energy amplifies it. You want love, be love.

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[maggie love @maggielove_]

I manifested @jonwu_ into my life, and I did four very specific things to make it happen:

1. I stopped consuming all man-hating content. Jokes count. I realized I would say "I don't hate men" but my TikTok would tell a different story. I had been down a bad rabbit hole after a breakup. You are what you consume. I deleted TikTok and never looked back.

2. I re-programmed my energy to be open to men. Instead of having closed off energy to potential suitors, I just told myself, I am open, I am open, I am open. It made dating way more fun and stopped me from judging books by their covers right away.

3. I stopped believing I was in lack of love. This was very important. I used to be so sad about being single. Then one day I woke up, and I decided to list out all of the ways I had love in my life -- my family, my friends, myself -- my whole life was romantic. And how could I be without love if I am love. I stopped going to bed upset, I lived with an energetic, playful and loving energy that was truly oozing from me inner to my outer self.

4. I wrote down 80 words in a notebook about the type of man I wanted to call into my life. My list had 0 attributes, as in I did not write about his wealth, his interests, his height, what he looked like. Instead I focused on qualities: kindness, generosity, deep, loyal, funny. Literally I filled a whole page of qualities only, tore it out of my notebook and put it in the Little Prince.

The day after I wrote the 80 qualities on a page, I was talking to Jon Wu about Joshua tree. I felt a calm voice tell me from my inner world that he was the one.

I had never had such clarity about a man in my life. The rest is history.

Words are magic, energy amplifies it. You want love, be love.

[Dipam Vasani @DipamV]

I've been thinking about this a lot recently. I think we may have swung too far in the other direction and our expectations have risen a lot

My parents met thrice before saying yes and have been happily together since (obv some amount of luck but like @majamediaco said, most people from that generation tried to make it work).

My dad was not her type, she wanted a macho man (her words). Instead she found the sweetest man who works 10 hours a day but still never says no if she wants ice cream at 11 pm. They have their issues, but I've never seen them mad at each other for more than a few hours :) (In fact I've never even seen them apologize, they just hug and it's all good).

They don't have shared hobbies, they don't have an intellectual partner or understand love languages.

They travel together, watch movies and eat out. But most of all, they enjoy each others company in whatever they do. They're content and happy.

I've also been talking to friends in successful relationships who have advised me how important it is to find a kind person who genuinely makes you happy.

Friend C showed me Instagram of her crush who was tall and thin and had similar fashion sense as her. Her current partner is also muscular but shorter and has a chubbier build. They have almost nothing in common. But I've seen them together and boy do they complement each other well and care for each other.

(to be clear she was not sad or complaining, just showing me how she made the choice)

Friend R is ultra ambitious and is dating someone who is not as much. But he says "I just come home from a long day and look at her smile and it just melts everything away. She brings me so much peace and joy" (again they have their problems, they're doing therapy together, but they're choosing each other and making it work)

Friend F advised me to find someone who is not a quitter. She has been with her partner for over a decade and they've had all kinds of situations but they've chosen each other through it all.

You need two to do this though (plenty of examples of one person trying / forcing to make it work)

Bottom line seems to be that all of them chose someone who was kind, someone they felt safe with emotionally, enjoyed their company and kept choosing each other.

[maja 🔭🍒 @majamediaco]

People used to marry at 20, into a culture where marriage carried a much stronger expectation of permanence. Whoever you chose, there would inevitably be major setbacks and incompatibilities and periods of unhappiness. The default assumption was that you would put profound effort into figuring it out. Leaving was a much higher bar

Some of that change is obviously good. There are things nobody should be expected to persevere through simply because they made a promise at 20

But I often do wonder what we lose when the pendulum swings toward endless optionality. Today it is normal to have many relationships, marry later, ‘fuck around and find out’ as the kids say. There is always the imagined possibility of someone more compatible waiting around the corner, an app ready to present endless alternatives, with no perceivable flaws

Does having more shots on goal actually lead us toward deeper or truer love? Are we better at finding the right person, or simply quicker to discard the imperfect one?

I find myself yearning for some of that indomitable spirit of the past. The strong-heartedness of ‘this is the person i chose, things are hard, so we knuckle down and figure it out.’ Not every relationship should be saved, but love probably requires some periods where running away cannot be the easiest available answer

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Notice how you think about or speak about certain things to yourself. Notice the judge within :)

The compassionate version of it is always a choice

[Heidi Priebe 🌆🍁 @HeidiPriebe1]

An ounce of early discernment around whether someone treats you (and others) with decency, thoughtfulness and respect is worth a thousand pounds of repair work down the line. Truly.

[Heidi Priebe 🌆🍁 @HeidiPriebe1]

Things like forgiveness, mutual growth and the capacity to repair ruptures are useful skills, but most of the things that make relationships work on a fundamental level are downstream of mutual respect and consideration of one another.