@alisonwallis60@HadleyFreeman I strongly relate to this. I had an emergency c-section in the 2020s and both the NCT group and the hospital made me feel inadequate for both this and my decision to mix feed. No HCP explained that breastfeeding is difficult when your body is healing from abdominal surgery.
Did you know that if someone takes a knife to somewhere – a park for eg – and murders someone, the starting point for their jail sentence is 25 years. But if someone kills in the home with a knife already at the scene, like in the kitchen drawer, the starting point for their jail sentence is 10 years less
Why? It doesn’t make sense
Well now after incredibly determined campaigning by the mums of 3 young women – women who were killed in the home by their boyfriend or ex – the law is being changed
Carole Gould, Julie Devey and Elaine Newborough, from the charity Killed Women have been fighting for SEVEN years for the minimum sentence for domestic murder to be increased
Now it’s happening. The gov says it intends to close the 10 yr gap so domestic killers face higher sentences
The photos below show Julie & Carole, Carole with her daughter Ellie, Julie with her daughter Poppy, and finally Megan
Ellie was 17 when she was murdered
Poppy was 24
Megan was 23
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I'm finally reading Dune. This quote, which is in the first few pages, hits hard:
"Once men turned their thinking over to machines in the hope that this would set them free. But that only permitted other men with machines to enslave them."
The problem gentlemen is you think "rapist" means scary man in a hoodie lurking in an alleyway at 3am. Of course you'd block that guy.
But it's the boyfriend you really loved who was angry that you hadn't wanted sex for two days and pinned you for the bed and then felt really bad about it.
It's the really sweet guy backstage who you loved working with for the whole production who knew you only wanted to be friends and then got you drunk at the after party and raped you in a dressing room.
It's the husband who whined and pleaded for sex long after you've said no for hours and refused to take no for an answer until you gave in every night for four years until you realised what it was.
It's the childhood friend who knows your parents and is your brother's best mate who suddenly attacked you when you were 17 and then told you he'd be thrown out of Oxford if you said anything.
It's the kind colleague who offered to drive you home from that conference when there was a train strike and then forced his hands into your pants in a lay-by and then threatened to leave you there at 3am if you didn't stop being a cockteasing bitch.
We're not dumb. We see the constant attempts to make anything short of stranger with a knife made up, regret, our fault really, a matter of the woman not being clear.
We know why you keep trying to make this 'not rape'. Because if coercion, marital rape, pressure, manipulation and exploitation count, then the comforting fantasy that rape is only ever a stranger with a knife falls apart.
@v_j_freeman@Zoya_ki_batein Being a middle aged woman is like being in a movie where the main character travels back in time to warn the locals that a volcano or something is going to wipe them out, but they’re like “you’re just jealous because my toga is prettier”
@m_yellan@PaulEmbery@owenjonesjourno The first time I took my baby out alone in public, to Canary Wharf shopping centre, I had to wedge the pram across the cubicle doorway, leave it open and sit on the seat, and hope that any women would be understanding about me peeing basically in plain sight.
“Tell him to enter the password he knows is correct. Inform him it is incorrect. Invite him to reset it. Watch as he enters the password he believed it to be all along. Then tell him he cannot use it… because it is his current password.”
We hope this post about orphaned negatives makes you gruntled.
An ‘orphaned negative’ is a word that SHOULD feel like it has a related word, but doesn’t.
‘Nonchalant’ is an orphaned negative because there is no ‘chalant.’
I saw one post this morning that said women over 50 shouldn’t wear their hair long and another post that said women over 50 shouldn’t wear their hair short because it ages them more and I just want to say that women of all ages should wear their hair however the fuck they want