Ed Fitzcarraldo

Go read something old and true.

[Ed Fitzcarraldo @EdFitzcarraldo]

@TatianaSiegel27 @THR Lol. Watching this generation lose the only books they've ever read is going to be hilarious.

[Ed Fitzcarraldo @EdFitzcarraldo]

@BecketAdams Gloves to bed lol?

I don't know what that means, but I know exactly what it means.

[Ed Fitzcarraldo @EdFitzcarraldo]

@KyleKulinski @billybinion Everyone knows that no one believes this, hoss.

You know that you don't believe it.

[Matt Whitlock @MattWhitlock]

I hope the New York Times genuinely recognizes the catastrophic damage they did here - to journalism and to victims of abuse.

[Ed Fitzcarraldo @EdFitzcarraldo]

@rkylesmith Amen brother. The new Whopper is the same as the old Whopper.

[Lyndsey Fifield @lyndseyfifield]

Anyone who has ever extracted themselves from a relationship with a narcissistic abuser knows it isn’t clean or easy.

I cringe remembering how many times I tried to play the “cool girl” or fawn in response to what was clearly abusive, coercively controlling behavior by Graham.

I also know how dangerous it is to become the target of a narcissist — so even long after our relationship ended I continued to be upbeat any time he reached out, though I would also immediately shut down any attempts on his part to initiate flirting or romanticizing of the past.

Yes, the day I saw him announce he was running I wanted to make sure people knew he had a Nazi tattoo — and I was terrified he would find out it was me.

But of course he knew it was me.

What’s ironic is I absolutely never would have shared my story if he hadn’t been relentlessly attacking my character behind the scenes for months once the tattoo story came out.

I tried to signal that I wasn’t the source and stayed completely silent about him on social media even as most of my friends posted regularly about what a bad person he is.

But then in early April the New York Times came to me. I asked how they got my number. I said I was not interested in sharing my story. They said but wait—there are other women. Women terrified to tell their stories, too, and you need to band together. WE will help you. We will protect you. Men can’t keep getting away with this.

Hours before their first call to me I saw Eric Swalwell’s name plate get removed from his office door in Cannon. It felt like fate.

I welcomed the two journalists into my home days later, nervous and overwhelmed. Justin Fairfax had just murdered his wife and himself the previous day and even conservative pundits were conjecturing that “if only those women hadn’t accused him of abuse, this never would have happened…”

But I told them my story. I let them take pictures of my diary pages. I sent them screenshots of messages and gave them phone numbers and contacts. It was excruciating. I was surprised by what details I remembered, and as I poured through old messages I was horrified by how much I had forgotten.

I explained very clearly that, like many women abused by their partners, I had not told anyone about his violence at the time—I had covered for and defended it. I accepted his earnest apologies. They said that’s fine because the diary entries and my on the record story was enough.

They connected me to two of the other victims so we wouldn’t feel so alone. I insisted to each of them that I trusted the NYT journalists and that we were doing the right thing despite their (sadly very accurate) sense that something was wrong.

One of the victims and I realized our relationships with Graham overlapped completely - he had been cheating on both of us the entire time we were together.

I should note here that my life is just… beautiful. These are the best years of my life. Raising two young girls in a safe, beautiful neighborhood where I work from home and shuffle my children from dance classes and soccer to church events — I am blessed far beyond what I deserve with wonderful friends and family and the most loving, brilliant husband in the world. Why would I blow my life up like this? Why would I risk the psychotic doxxing from violent leftist activists?

Because while I have been terrified to come forward I decided this was the “hard right thing” to do. The guilt of staying silent has nagged me.

Most therapists recommend a “gray rock” approach to extracting yourself from narcissistic abuse — it works really well, but it is a gift to the abuser, allowing them to persist in their delusion that they’ve done nothing wrong.

I couldn’t stay silent as he continued to lie and lie and lie. I want my daughters to boldly speak out if they’re ever abused as I was.

[Lyndsey Fifield @lyndseyfifield]

I bucked all advice from my friends (and resisted my conservative bias) and decided to fully trust the Times journalists.

As they left my home they asked that I not talk to any other outlets and I insisted then and repeatedly over the following weeks that I would keep my word and only share this story with them.

But then the weeks dragged on. They kept coming back to us saying the editors needed more. I needed to go on the record (okay). We need more screenshots (okay). I met every bench mark they set, eager to provide more sources or evidence as needed.

After the story went up I began to ask them … wait, where are the stories from the other women? Where are their accusations of sexual assault? Why am I the focus? Why are there 11 paragraphs dedicated to detailing my work history (more than has been published about Graham’s by far)?

Why does it say “nobody could corroborate” when I offered them sources that COULD corroborate?

Why did they include an out of context quote from a friend joking “do not call Graham” after I called off my wedding? (Because she knew I would never).

Where were the screenshots they’d said they would use? Or the mention that I’d supported local democrats and that most of my family (and husband) are liberal?

The editors said it was too much, they explained.

The Times also failed to include any mention that I DID confide in multiple friends through the years that Graham had been abusive — long before he was running for office. Those friends confirm they told the Times so.

It dawned on me that this really was a set up all along. The journalists I trusted who convinced me to share a story I never wanted to tell methodically delayed and twisted this into a gift to the Platner campaign. Violating the trust of his victims. Shattering the trust I placed in them with the most vulnerable story of my life.

And at the end of my call with them I reluctantly accepted their insistence that this was still a powerful story and that I had done a brave thing. And I thanked them for all the hard work they had put into it.

Still fawning after all these years.

[Ed Fitzcarraldo @EdFitzcarraldo]

@Alsadius @asymmetricinfo That's a good point actually. Sometimes I forget how poorly this site represents reality.

[Ed Fitzcarraldo @EdFitzcarraldo]

@3YearLetterman @emilyetaylor23 @CourtAnne1225 @sondraa Dude I had no idea. Get better soon.

[Ed Fitzcarraldo @EdFitzcarraldo]

@TheCougChron @jjgallini This entire debacle is a case study in how lynch mobs form. Online dimwits have fallen for a ridiculous story by a YT influencer who is about as smart as Forrest Gump. Read the lawsuit to find out what really happened. Schneider is the bad guy here. https://t.co/oGCDCC9hjk

[Rob Freund @RobertFreundLaw]

Bricks and Minifigs is suing Reckless Ben for RICO, defamation, civil conspiracy, tortious interference, stalking, and trespass, among other claims.

Link to complaint here: https://t.co/qG9utaxW2d

[Ed Fitzcarraldo @EdFitzcarraldo]

@MattWhitlock Help? He needs his ass kicked. And some jail time.

[Ed Fitzcarraldo @EdFitzcarraldo]

@GabrielValles @ImKingGinger No, he's going to be in prison

[Ed Fitzcarraldo @EdFitzcarraldo]

No

[Sky News @SkyNews]

Stop speculating about Henry Nowak murder, warns police watchdog https://t.co/X7F76YG4Rn

[Ed Fitzcarraldo @EdFitzcarraldo]

@JXakc @GovCox This is Cox:

[Not the Bee @Not_the_Bee]

This YouTuber told the internet he aborted his baby with Down Syndrome and the comment section LET HIM HAVE IT
https://t.co/9clDsAvT2e

[Ed Fitzcarraldo @EdFitzcarraldo]

@Not_the_Bee

[Ed Fitzcarraldo @EdFitzcarraldo]

@instapundit Vigilance Committees would go a long ways toward fixing this problem.

[Ed Fitzcarraldo @EdFitzcarraldo]

@SwipeWright Yep. The loss of trust this letter caused has been paid for with human lives.

[Ed Fitzcarraldo @EdFitzcarraldo]

@RyanFaircloth 15% down, 85% to go

[Ed Fitzcarraldo @EdFitzcarraldo]

@Not_the_Bee That's because same-sex marriage isn't real just because Justice Kennedy says it is. Marriage has always been between a man and a woman, and it always will be.