⚠️ TW: Domestic Abuse
The powerful and emotional words of a man who suffered 20 years of domestic abuse from his wife Karen Palmer are written below.
Palmer subjected her husband to daily abuse and violence, controlling his finances and preventing him from contacting his family and friends by monitoring his mobile phone use.
Palmer, 47, attacked her partner verbally and physically every day, with him referring to a good day if he “only got hit” and a bad day if he got “slashed or stabbed”.
He reported the abuse to police following an incident in March this year.
At around 7.45am on 31 March, paramedics attended to the victim on Dove Point Road in Meols. The man was found bleeding heavily from multiple injuries as he walked towards the promenade with the intention of washing the blood off in the sea. However, paramedics found him with a deep laceration to his forearm which was close to a major artery, along with further cuts to his arms, hand, forehead and head. He also had multiple scars to arms, chest, back and legs.
The wounds inflicted upon him over the years were catastrophic. Palmer wouldn’t allow him to get medical help for the slash wounds she caused, so he would tend to them using glue and cling film around the house.
It is truly heart breaking to hear the abuse this man suffered at Palmer’s hands, and he has shown immense bravery and courage, and found his voice, to support this investigation. We hope he will in time move forward and have a much brighter future ❤️
Domestic abuse can happen to anyone. There is help available to anyone who may be suffering domestic abuse of any kind and together with partner agencies, we will do all that we can to support you.
Today, Palmer has been sent to prison for seven years and six months for her violent acts of domestic abuse. She was also issued with a 10-year restraining order against the victim.
You can read an extract from the man’s 15-page Victim Impact Statement below 🔽
Yet, the proposed safeguard still depends on the CJS recognising coercive control and cumulative abuse properly. It failed my mother at trial. It still fails many women now. I know because I’ve sat through these appeals and watched deeply unsafe convictions remain in place.
Trauma recovery is going to ask us, over & over again, what we're holding in our body right now-- & to take the answer seriously. Neither you nor I are going to be the first survivors to figure out how to intellectualize our way out of trauma that impacted our every nerve & cell.
Complex PTSD (C-PTSD) and PTSD are not the same.
Both follow exposure to trauma, but C-PTSD includes additional disturbances in self-organisation that extend beyond classic PTSD symptoms.
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Trauma Brain is not you. It's not your brain. It is the internalized voices of your bullies & abuses that tries to trick & coerce you into sabotaging & harming & killing yourself. It is not a "part" to be understood or nurtured or f*cked around wtth.
It. Wants. You. Dead.
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My waiter had dementia and forgot my order.
I visited a cafe in Japan that ONLY hires people with Dementia. It's called the Cafe Of Mistaken Orders.
Sometimes the servers bring you the wrong food, never bring your order, or sit down and join you instead.
But the point of this cafe is to be a place for dementia patients to feel needed and have purpose.
And this cafe is working. Japan has discovered that being socially connected actually slows down the progression of dementia.
So now there are 8,000 dementia cafes all over Japan!
The U.S. should be more like Japan. We should keep elders out of nursing homes, find ways to give them purpose, and part of society until their last days.