I just got the classic Danfo gist version of Peller & Jarvis' wedding, how they supposedly started dating from kindergarten and all๐
It was more entertaining than factual
#pellerandjarvis#owambe#wedding#latestcouple
It's a win-win situation for the woman's family. Whether the husband is the wealthy one or the wife is the wealthy one, the woman's family is still likely to benefit financially.
If 10 rich men from poor homes marry 10 women from poor homes, 70% of the people from the wife's family will have a better life.
If 10 rich women from poor homes get married to 10 men from poor homes, 70% of the people from the wife's family will have a better life.
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@jon_d_doe It is a win win situation for the woman. The family the woman comes from benefits regardless of whether it is the husband or the wife who is the wealthy partner.
It is not your fault if you were born into a poor family. You had no say in your parents' marital decisions and finances. However, it is your fault and a shame if you are going into a relationship with your mate or senior brother's mate and putting your father's responsibility on them.
Regardless of your father's finacial reality, you are his responsibility. The pressure you're mounting on your mates, mount it on your old man. You cannot be understanding of your father's struggle or financial limitations, and be brokeshaming your age mates or killing them with pressure to foot your bills. If it is easy, why are you not footing your own bills yourself? Do you actually sit down to think these things through?
You say if he loves you, he would do it. Does your father not love you? Why is he not doing it? You call your dad the best dad but absolve him of irresponsibility. But your peer that you chose to date, which presupposes intention to love and cherish, you're judging him by his ability or inability to foot your bill. How shameless!
You say you don't want to sell your body for sex. But you're entering relationship to do just that. The whole point of a relationship is to love and to cherish, not to put your father's responsibility on your partner. If you want to sell sex, please do it. I'm too liberal to judge. Everyone is trying to survive. But don't enter relationship with the goal of wrecking your mate by mounting pressure you and your parents cannot carry, on him. Talmbout "if he wants to, he will." Don't you want to do it for yourself? Why have you not done it?
@novieverest This post reminds me of a former neighbour (now late). I escorted him to Shomolu General Hospital, and the doctors requested some tests. His wife refused because they were expensive and insisted they should just prescribe drugs. No be she dey pay o. "Abeg no let me die" his words
Recently, my mom was on admission. Everyday, myself, my siblings and my dad were at the hospital. We kept her company till 10pm before we dispersed, with one person staying back overnight.
Everyday, I looked around and saw the entire family and I smiled. It made me realized part of the ressons I hated living abroad. Your love one is sick and all you can do is send money. Meanwhile, your heart is beating fast because you cant see them. There is celebration or random Sunday family gathering and you are the only one missing. The reason I always show up in person for anything is that money cannot fill the place of presence. It is the memories we share that lingers.
Many families can't gather together anymore for celebration or caregiving. The only time some families can gather now is burial, and even burial no dey see complete family again. Nigeria has to work for the next generation. They deserve to gather around with their cousins, nephews, nieces, aunts, uncles, parents, and grandparents on a random Sunday.
substitute for signed, sealed, and documented proof. Women MUST prioritize ensuring that their legal standing is as solid as their emotional commitment, as the courts will almost always prioritize verifiable law over informal assertions or personal claims.
As a man, you carry the responsibility of being the "architect" of your familyโs future security. โIt is not enough to simply love your partner or provide for them while you are alive; you must ensure that your legal status is unambiguous to prevent your survivors from being
thrust into public, drawn-out court battles. Ignoring the need to formalize your affairs or update your documentation effectively leaves a legacy of chaos, which ultimately punishes the very people you intended to protect.
In the face of the law, sentimentality does not