Actually saying the bad or sad thing doesn't make it "more real." It's already real. You know what makes the bad or sad thing hyper real, though, makes it take on massive, mythological, terrifying, overwhelming proportions? Trying to keep it crammed inside our head & heart. Woof.
Put Recovery Supporting Rituals (RSR's) on autopilot. Trauma recovery stalls & skips when we're overwhelmed by too many decisions. Don't leave your RSR's up to your mood or memory. Build them into your day & reduce the friction to doing them.
Successful recovery is a lifestyle.
Our nervous system, "parts," & inner child need consistent communication from us. Checking in w/ ourselves, talking to ourselves, writing to ourselves, about what's going on, what we want, & what we need, are non-negotiable trauma recovery tools.
Recovery withers in silence.
Prioritize yourself unapologetically. That doesn't mean be mean to anyone else; that doesn't mean be dismissive toward anyone else; that doesn't mean hurt anyone else or violate your morals or values. It means have your own back & be on your own side, daily-- no matter what.
Realistically healing CPTSD and/or DID means remembering that underneath every reaction & symptom spike we have, there is a scared, overwhelmed kid holding & trying to manage feelings & memories a kid should not have to hold or manage.
Some people have had burnout since they were children. They don't want to work and want to crawl under the blanket because they've never actually been taken are of or had someone help. It's not that people are lazy, it's that they're at a breaking point.