All these to teach us that women must always hold their own in marriage because having money will not protect you from shege but you know what it will surely do? Enable you move the fuck on as quickly as possible.
Dear Muslim brothers and Sisters,
Amidst all that’s going on, please don’t forget to hold this prayer tightly:
“Rabbana hab lana min azwajina wa dhurriyyatina qurrata a’yunin waj‘alna lil-muttaqina imama.”
May Allah grant us comfort for our eyes and peace for our minds.
Anytime the cohabitation conversation comes up, I just laugh 😂
If you ask 99% of people who preach cohabitation why they support it, they’ll tell you it’s so they can “get to know” the person they want to marry. That reason? fair enough.
But think about it — if both people already know that the purpose of living together before marriage is to be “fully seen,” what stops them from acting a certain way just to pass that phase? People can pretend for as long as the cohabitation lasts, and I think this is also what all/most of us will agree on.
In my own opinion, cohabitation can never truly reveal someone who is intentional about hiding who they really are.
Even couples who have been married for decades still discover new things about each other. So why do we assume that a few months or even years of cohabitation will completely expose a person?
That belief is a bit unrealistic.
And honestly, I find it even more ironic when some women strongly advocate for cohabitation, because many times they end up at the receiving end of its downsides.
If you want to test it, as a lady, tell a man you’re talking to that you used to cohabit with an ex, and watch how his interest changes.
An average man may accept that you’ve had past relationships and accumulated body counts, in fact most men do not believe a non virgin can have one body count. But tell him that you cohabitated with all your ex, and watch how he will start to view things differently.
That’s just the reality of how a lot of men think.
Now look at the irony: many of the same men who preach cohabitation, go to their pages, they are also the ones who shame women for having multiple body counts, write horrible things about non virgins, and want to marry virgins.
Also, most of them if they can, they would never allow their own sisters or daughters to live with a man outside marriage.
The contradiction is obvious.
To be clear, people who don’t cohabit still engage in premarital sex and other premarital affairs — so that’s not even the main point here.
The real point is this:
Cohabitation does not guarantee that you will truly know someone.
If someone is determined to hide who they are, they will hide it — whether you live with them or not.
So the idea that cohabitation is some foolproof method for “knowing someone” is simply not as reliable as people make it seem.
I didn’t fail. In fact, I’ve finished with the best possible grades in my journey to the bar. A First Class degree holder, twice. 🤍
God, I am full of thanks.
This Godddddd!😭
I graduated with a 4.46 CGPA in UNILAG. You know that kind of close margin that hurts.
But see me now 😭. A first class lawyer.
God is so faithful!
Reintroduction.
H O. IDREES
https://t.co/SyIQyxwMba UNILORIN (Second Class Lower)
B.L ( Second Class Lower)
Alhamdulilah, Which of the favour of Allah will i deny! Absolutely none.
And if you worked real hard for that first class but didn’t get it please give yourself grace, we did the best we could honestly.
Anyways, get familiar with this lawyer🧏🏾♂️🧏🏾♂️
This week
Monday - I got the job at my desired law firm
Tuesday- I moved into my new apartment
Friday - Got my desired grade from law school (First class)
What a week
Alhamdulilah
Which of the favors of the lord will i deny?
Didn’t get a first class but imma give my 2 cents
Everything my first class friends did is what I also did except there’s hidden tips somewhere (which I know there isn’t)
I read my eyes out, I was practically sleeping no more than 4 hours a day
Always did my pre class task…