Faith Udoh

I’m a really down to earth guy because, you
know, gravity. Arsenal is my religion. I live and breathe Arsenal. I'm also a fledgling developer. I love CS

[ftlsid @ftlsid]

Here, the edge of my understanding of suffering:

As I've worked to dismantle psychological conditioning, I've noticed the following cycle. First, a sense of stuckness or badness arises, due to a particular combination of external circumstances and internal conditioning. If this is approached using some therapeutic technique (eg IFS, imaginal dialogue), and the underlying emotions are resolved, then the badness tends to dissipate and leave a sense of blankness. I interpret this as an old, fixed structure in the mind dissolving, and the systems that generate meaning, motivation, and action struggling to figure out what to do in a new emotional landscape. Eventually (hours to days) the blankness passes, and leaves a raging energy and impulsivity. This too fades in hours to days, leaving a sense of liberation from the need to do anything at all.

After fifty or sixty of these cycles, some strange things started to happen. Unpleasant memories started to arise spontaneously, one by one every hour or two for days at a time. Many of these were things I had “forgotten”, and often they would make me flinch when they arose. I guess this is memory reconsolidation happening spontaneously? Probably because after so much inner work the mind starts to feel that it’s safe to bring up those things, as it expects the conscious mind will meet them compassionately. The really strange thing is that these memories, upon arising, distinctly feel like they’ve always been there, coloring the way I view the world but hidden from conscious awareness. As this progresses I became noticeably less reactive (from a baseline of already feeling fairly non-reactive). My memories of the past became really fuzzy, which is strange because I used to have video-like play by play memories of all kinds of things. Also I started to notice my vision becoming very detailed and colorful and expansive - not more focused or clearer, but more luminous, saturated, and beautiful. Even looking at a leaf has become deeply pleasurable. This feeling comes and goes but corresponds especially with the end of the “blank” phase in the cycle above. Finally, the sense of self-consciousness or embarrassment has basically vanished, which gives me much more range of expression in social settings.

As this progressed I started to recognize that when I experience suffering, it always leads to a related memory coming up later. So I guess the suffering is caused by the memory being combined with or overlaid on the present. But it’s not just the expectation that something bad will happen in the real world because it happened in the past - I think a large part of it, or possibly all of it, is the expectation that something bad will happen internally, most commonly some form of self-betrayal or self-coercion.

Why betray oneself? I think probably because one comes to the reasonable conclusion that compromise is necessary in order to bring about desirable external conditions. But since it seemed like betrayal or internal fracture was the root of suffering, I got interested in what would happen if I just committed to always doing what felt right all the time. Disclaimer I have really excellent impulse control and executive function and self-awareness at this point so I have no idea if this is going to lead to positive outcomes in general. But it turned out that as I made a point of not managing my life every time the impulse to manage it arose, the above cycle continued. Instead of energy, though, it led me in a direction of devotion, or submission, to things that matter more than me. Simultaneously the sense that I am doing anything in my life, and the sense that I have to do anything, is noticeably diminished. It’s a bit of a paradox - if something matters more than you, shouldn’t you be going to great lengths to express that? But I don’t see that happening. The kind of devotion that arises naturally is simple and quiet. It seems that as long as I make choices that are internally aligned as they come up, I am not really “on the hook” for anything else, and as I get more aligned, the parts of my mind that are controlling and planning and managing just drop away. The future feels unreal and insubstantial.

This all sounds great but to me it’s a powerful indictment of our society and overall philosophy of life. We take for granted the notion that you’re supposed to be able to formulate and execute plans, behave consistently, and operate as part of large, rigid systems. In fact not being able to do that is often classified as pathology. But rigidity and regularity are often the source of self-betrayal and self-coercion, which (at my current level of understanding) form the core of suffering. You can have all the freedoms you want on paper but if you’re not free to act according to moment-to-moment feelings I don’t think it matters. The bait and switch is creating a “free” society but installing guardrails within peoples’ minds instead. The cool thing is that you can still develop that freedom, but of course it’s a lot of work to undo social conditioning, and it could result in terrible consequences.

The inner investigation has reached a natural conclusion now because it seems to be running in the background - the memories come up, less often now; I get random insights into how some big thing in my mind was a story constructed from smaller things, and that goes away; and so on. I think the open question for me is “what now?” - what is worth doing? is this all there is? should I become a monk? (mostly joking) and various things along those lines.

[Arsenal @Arsenal]

Lion tamers.

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[Faith Udoh @FaithUdoh11]

@athenaeumbc Malazan Book Of The Fallen

[jaden @JadenAFC]

Bukayo I can’t defend this bro I’m disappointed

[Arsenal @Arsenal]

It all worked out.

[Mesut Özil @M10]

Congratulations, Champions! 🏆

[Ethan 🇨🇲 @tebzafc]

Just deeped I’ll never have to hear “Warra trophy for Arsenal” again

[Kanu Nwankwo @papilokanu]

KAN U believe it??? Arsenal Forever. The Gunners worked so hard for this. Difficult but they fought.
Very well deserved. Come on you gunners #congratulations @arsenal #arsenal

[Tosin @tosin_1109]

"Arsenal are Premier League champions"

[Denver Nuggets @nuggets]

Let’s go!

[B/R Football @brfootball]

22 years since the Invincibles.

Arsenal are Champions again ❤️

[Arsenal @Arsenal]

This belongs to all of us.

[Arsenal @Arsenal]

The Arsenal. Your Premier League champions.

[Arsenal @Arsenal]

CHAMPIONS LEAGUE FINALISTS ❤️

[Naoki Yamamoto @NaokiQYamamoto]

Naoki Yamamoto "Is Tradition a “Curse”? — Reflections on Jujutsu Kaisen"
https://t.co/SvfGFg2CWI

[Faith Udoh @FaithUdoh11]

@1ONE56503676 @Inevitably_Dope Well compared to the slop they’ve released so far this was a breath of fresh air

[Evan Luthra @EvanLuthra]

POV: Sam Altman refreshing Anthropic’s X account every morning

[Faith Udoh @FaithUdoh11]

TIL I would have been a top 10 Rocket League player in 2016 💔

[GGM1 Coconut @JamaicanCocoRL]

"Rocket League isn't hard because I was top 10 in 2016"

Meanwhile this is what the best player in the world looked like in 2016 btw:

[Faith Udoh @FaithUdoh11]

@techsfuct @nostalgiafkninc

[Adam @AdamJoseph]

Ange is right, Tottenham aren't a big club. The big six is a myth. It is a big three - Manchester United, Liverpool & Arsenal - huge clubs with global fanbases.

United are a global behemoth, Liverpool are bellends with history, Arsenal have sustained elite status. That is among why they are universally despised by rivals.

Chelsea pre-2003 were mostly also-rans with one title since 1955. Russian billions bought fleeting relevance, soulless mercenaries & now player trafficking.

City pre-2008 Abu Dhabi were nobodies. Their charges shroud their entire existence for fake dominance, amounting to empty seats & cheats.

As for Tottenham (or Newcastle), lol. Perpetual chokers & losers defined. Zero relevance beyond North London derbies, no global pull, just a big stadium.

The facts don't care about your feelings.