for example, if you can tell your partner is being passive aggressive. instead of being equally passive or calling them out, ask: “did I do something to upset you?” and now you’ve not only made this person feel seen but you can also understand how your actions may trigger them.
when you are consistently self-aware, it can feel extremely draining to be in the presence of those who deliberately avoid self-awareness. you know the ones that know their ways are problematic & possibly harmful to self & others yet just insist on continuing.