“What did you do to provoke the abuse?”
A few examples from my life:
- Bought the wrong bread
- Smiled at a waiter
- Got stuck in traffic
- Got sick with a fever
- Sold a play
- Dressed up for an event he asked me to dress up for
- Made a nice dinner (accused of being “in love” with our guests)
- Ordered takeout (accused of “not wanting to impress our guests”)
- Chatted to an actor at a festival
- Failed to chat to a producer at a festival
- Lost weight
- Cut myself on a knife in a restaurant
- Took a phone call from my brother on my birthday
- Slipped on some ice
Abusers are controlling and irrational, FFS
Stop placing responsibility for their insanity on the people they hurt.
Friend: “do you see urself having more kids?”
Me (thinking about when my ex husband wouldn’t help when I had a c section bc it was unattractive that I wasn’t 100% independent anymore): “oh idk probably not” 🥲