@SuddenWidow None of us are the same people we were before loss, it’s not possible to endure that amount of pain and remain unchanged.Overall, I think that’s a good thing. The one gift of this is getting to know yourself again as an independent adult.
@SuddenWidow A friend recently asked me if, after 2+ years, it was still heavy. I’ve found that it is heavy, but it’s now a load that I feel I can manage long term, rather than the crushing weight it was at the beginning. Be patient with yourself.
@SuddenWidow That sounds like a full and productive day to me! You’re way too hard on yourself! Many, many people never get out of their pj’s let alone into running clothes! You did that, and some. Plus, who’s to say reading and planning a camping trip are not productive?!?
@SuddenWidow You’re not massively failing! This widowhood game is a full time slog. You’re getting up out of bed every day and putting one foot in front of the other. Anything else is a bonus!
@stilehorse I keep kosher at home, and it’s both/and (spiritual and annoying) some days it informs my decisions and actions, and others, it makes me nuts. That’s sort of the point of observance for me, it’s a practice, even when it’s not smooth.
The IESNYC presents a 2022 LUMEN AWARD OF MERIT
to the
Winter Visual Arts Center at
Franklin & Marshall College, Lancaster, PA
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Wei Jien
June Park
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@AlbaJra7750@SuddenWidow Actually, I lost a middle aged husband and my daughter lost her father. Sorry if I was unclear. But I appreciate the support all around.
@KosherSoul Are you? It honestly never occurred to me to wonder. I did think about you today though when someone asked me “aren’t Jewish people white?” Shabbat Shalom, I’ll see you at Sinai this weekend! #shavuot
@TallisHolly My husband also died of Covid 2 years ago. I still have his voice on our outgoing voicemail. Last night I went on my first date….fits and starts.