💎ₕᵢgₕ🪞ₙFC🔍🆙 🚹🤝🚺🪽(egosyntonic productivity)

(~compulsive) slut for rational thought. gymcel. valuist. humanist. fan of reverence, wonder, curiosity, collaboration, honesty+nonvindictiveness, emo.stability

[💎ₕᵢgₕ🪞ₙFC🔍🆙 🚹🤝🚺🪽(egosyntonic productivity) @ForCognition]

how to never judge yourself / 3 key beliefs for maximum resilience + self-confidence:

1) actions are what matter

2) improvement is possible w/ focused effort

3) nothing worthwhile is beyond the scope of sufficient effort

[💎ₕᵢgₕ🪞ₙFC🔍🆙 🚹🤝🚺🪽(egosyntonic productivity) @ForCognition]

a lot of y'all don't believe ppl can meaningfully improve and it shows

[💎ₕᵢgₕ🪞ₙFC🔍🆙 🚹🤝🚺🪽(egosyntonic productivity) @ForCognition]

imagine a thoroughly trustworthy, utterly nonvindictive, responsibility-maxxed, forever-hot person who is ~always available, respects+believes in you, and sees all your wins as their own

[💎ₕᵢgₕ🪞ₙFC🔍🆙 🚹🤝🚺🪽(egosyntonic productivity) @ForCognition]

@ryiacy hell yeah

[💎ₕᵢgₕ🪞ₙFC🔍🆙 🚹🤝🚺🪽(egosyntonic productivity) @ForCognition]

idk who needs to hear this but the better you get at not lying, the less pull substances and addictive behaviors will have over you as your background anxiety resolves itself

[mahlen @mahlenr]

One of my strongest beliefs is that honesty is a skill you have to practice. It’s surprisingly easy to start once you make an agreement with yourself but it takes a long time to get really good at it.

But the better you get at it the more your world opens up and transforms in beautiful ways.

Because your old world falls away and a new world starts to form that is more aligned with your actual wants and desires.

And there is an interesting additional property - as you practice it and start pulling at this thread, you quickly realise there are dependencies in the skill tree you need to work on to get better.

The most obvious ones that quickly emerge are:
- Can you access what is true for you? (Introspection)
- Can you express what is true but difficult to someone while staying grounded in your body? (Candor)
- Can you take actions in alignment with your truth even if they mean upending your life/relationships? (Integrity)

It has a self reinforcing quality to it that is utterly elegant. Afaict once you start it’s a one way road that leads you deeper and deeper into Truth.

[Nornal Guy 🧙‍♂️ @theralkia]

Nothing should trigger you. Receive every insult, criticism, reflection with grace. Love yourself enough to recognize what is true, and then integrate the truth, and let any falsehood fall away as projection. You are whole and nothing can remove you from wholeness. But you have a responsibility to yourself, to your loved ones, and to the world to rise. When I tweet with daggers it is because I love you and want to see you rise.

[Grant Lannin @retirementkeys]

One of skills you want as a man is ice-cold objectivity. You want your minds eye to be able to pierce through all that is fake so you can see what is true/objective/real, no matter how painful it is to look. You want the ability to look in there, and use that data to show you what it actually is, regardless of your hopeful narrative on what you wanted it to be. No delusion stands in your way. a heat-seeking signal missile.

[💎ₕᵢgₕ🪞ₙFC🔍🆙 🚹🤝🚺🪽(egosyntonic productivity) @ForCognition]

why are you, as a person who wants power, getting fucked up?

[💎ₕᵢgₕ🪞ₙFC🔍🆙 🚹🤝🚺🪽(egosyntonic productivity) @ForCognition]

@Lars759 @Himanshutyg_ifs same; I kept thinking it would be over any second, so I was savoring it, but it just kept going!

[💎ₕᵢgₕ🪞ₙFC🔍🆙 🚹🤝🚺🪽(egosyntonic productivity) @ForCognition]

@LizzyStarrrdust is this just POSIWID or am I missing something?

why would it be important to filter for a thing that mostly indicates ability to pass the filter?

if ability to solve puzzles is the point, why not just be attracted to men who do so, w/o requiring this specific one in ~all cases?

[💎ₕᵢgₕ🪞ₙFC🔍🆙 🚹🤝🚺🪽(egosyntonic productivity) @ForCognition]

@LizzyStarrrdust curiosity, courage, humility, patience, + resilience are typically all required to understand (others' experience of) reality and be treated as anything resembling a respected peer (by them) (rather than resenting them + being patronized -- or even cynically deceived -- by them).

[kb @loquaciousbree]

not horny vs horny

[Yozarian22 @Yozarian22]

My morality is that people should act in their own game-theoretic self-interest - but only as defined by my personal version of rationality, under which helping and respecting others almost always serves your own long-term self-interest.

[💎ₕᵢgₕ🪞ₙFC🔍🆙 🚹🤝🚺🪽(egosyntonic productivity) @ForCognition]

@Authw8 interesting. what's an argument for the net benefit of having (in reality) a partially immoral law?

[Liz Is Amused @lizisamused]

Allistic people bond via a part of the brain that uses social autopilot to read the room without conscious effort.

Autistic people bond via a focused-thinking region of the brain used to solve a math problem.

I've... never seen a more perfect explanation of what it's like to be autistic 😭

[💎ₕᵢgₕ🪞ₙFC🔍🆙 🚹🤝🚺🪽(egosyntonic productivity) @ForCognition]

@buridansridge 🔥

[💎ₕᵢgₕ🪞ₙFC🔍🆙 🚹🤝🚺🪽(egosyntonic productivity) @ForCognition]

personal values inform
⬇️
individual rules for behavior, which describe + predict
⬇️
actions, which define
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character

[💎ₕᵢgₕ🪞ₙFC🔍🆙 🚹🤝🚺🪽(egosyntonic productivity) @ForCognition]

fascinating story here

~nowhere are the realities of respect + love for self + other (as beings defined by actions) harder to deny (in a society w/ individual property rights) than in the context of debt -- a disgraceful tool for the deflection of responsibility in so many cases

[Rook ✝️ @41KOOR]

Let me tell you a story why Wayne is wrong that his advice is the only advice, and how a father ought to look out for his son, and how men ought to guide and protect younger men.

A woman I know owed $75k in student loans. Her boyfriend loved her and wanted to marry her. His dad believed they were a great match, but was concerned about his son starting off life $75k in the hole.

What did his father do? His father approached the young woman’s father about her debt. He respectfully told him that his daughter’s debt was his since she accrued it while under his authority, and that his son should not be burdened with such at the beginning of building their life together. The girl’s father disagreed at first, but over time came to realize that his future son-in-law’s father was right.

Rather than passing on the debt to the next generation at the beginning of their marriage, the young man’s father ensured the right man took responsibility for his daughter’s debt.

[💎ₕᵢgₕ🪞ₙFC🔍🆙 🚹🤝🚺🪽(egosyntonic productivity) @ForCognition]

@stationerycar @ClickingSeason this is great advice; everyone should find their niche in part by putting their own twist on existing endeavors, if not by devising ~entirely new ones.

to the extent these are compelling, new opportunities for others to shine are thereby created as well.

[💎ₕᵢgₕ🪞ₙFC🔍🆙 🚹🤝🚺🪽(egosyntonic productivity) @ForCognition]

@Otakundead I want (solely) the good parts of every ideology to be effective 🤷‍♂️

[💎ₕᵢgₕ🪞ₙFC🔍🆙 🚹🤝🚺🪽(egosyntonic productivity) @ForCognition]

for a long time, I've had a weird sexist preference: it seems more valuable to me when a woman tolerates (or ideally endorses) my potentially beyond-the-pale thoughts/views than when a man does. This study may shed some light on why it's more meaningful:

https://t.co/e1DlRKdFEn