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[3FF1N @FormerBish]

@thebookofevan @yourproductsx I don’t think this is the burn he thinks it is. The statement is a double edged sword, no?

[3FF1N @FormerBish]

@NephiteHorse Family dynamics can be really complicated, as evidenced by your post. I’m sorry that you are having to navigate this, and hope you can find peace in doing what you need to in order to protect you and your family.

[3FF1N @FormerBish]

@whitecatprophcy This!!! I was the bishop and had been holding it in. When the damn broke, I vomited out where I was which was a shock. We are still learning to navigate it all, and it seems to go in waves. How has it gone for you since that initial conversation?

[3FF1N @FormerBish]

@testing_tenets @ExMoThoughts I’m curious, why was that calling?

[3FF1N @FormerBish]

@ExMoThoughts I left in part because of a calling that really opened my eyes—and left me never wanting a calling again.

[3FF1N @FormerBish]

@LDSssTeacher @ldsfootnotes @C_Mormonus What were the reasons you presented, since I would assume they don’t match what is above?

[3FF1N @FormerBish]

@ApostateAbish @crazyus You have every right to be mad. It’s also possible that the records were moved without his knowledge by a ward clerk who made that decision. I know I had a clerk who’d moved records once that I’d promised I wouldn’t move. I just hope it was a mistake and not an outright lie.

[3FF1N @FormerBish]

@whitecatprophcy De ja vu, that’s mine.

[3FF1N @FormerBish]

@deconning It’s a grind. And it takes its toll on the whole family. It was freeing to be released and step back. It makes me sad when I see bishops sacrificing everything for the sake of blessings in eternity now that I believe they are a pawn wasting their best years.

[3FF1N @FormerBish]

@jessiejensen Wouldn’t those same religious beliefs mean that since he was older than 8, he was totally capable and accountable to make his own choices?

[3FF1N @FormerBish]

@onmywaymo @ApostateAbish For example, law of chastity might shift to a discussion of the role intimacy plays into relationships, the importance of consent, the personal strength to make decisions about what is right for them. With modesty, you may decide that much of it was cultural and let them be them.

[3FF1N @FormerBish]

@onmywaymo @ApostateAbish Dig into the things that you are worried about—and plan how to manage. For kids, it might be related to word of wisdom, modesty, law of chastity. For starters—you can let go of much of it, because it doesn’t matter. Examine the underlying principle to see what matters. Then plan

[3FF1N @FormerBish]

@ApostateAbish Fuck off.

[3FF1N @FormerBish]

@planetJoseph @WilliamMeservy @dbmoss7 This is a major point. As a bishop, I contacted the hotline on several occasions. It was apparent to me in those moments that this was a risk management function to protect the organization. It fell to me, an untrained business person, to choose how to support the victim.

[3FF1N @FormerBish]

@ApostateAbish Easy solution: polygamy. Boom, everyone gets married. 😂

[3FF1N @FormerBish]

@formerldsteach Welcome to a space where anonymity allows you to deconstruct however you would like. You’ll find there are some very thoughtful, supportive folks here.

[3FF1N @FormerBish]

@tessiebabes Sounds like a tender mercy to me.

[3FF1N @FormerBish]

@not_even_lost If you’re in Utah, I think it’s possible that their lives are full and they don’t look past what they have. I also have a theory that many are struggling, even subconsciously, and there is a fear that getting to close will lead to their unraveling. It’s fear based and unfortunate

[3FF1N @FormerBish]

@IGoBySteve What is it going to be?

[3FF1N @FormerBish]

@RussRyanLaw @ReformedMormon This is so true. It is so refreshing to get off that treadmill and live life more fully. So much of that “service” was meaningless and even created harm for others sometimes. Now I can help others out when/how I want—and from an even more compassionate space.